Sissie: No 1 is not caused by immaturity, but I agree with op on the rest LOL

deols:

Being angry is normal. So is eating.

They should not have to affect each other.

Just like my being angry won't stop me from my wife duties. So shall his being angry not stop him from eating.




Looks like something to discuss before marriage sef.

venous:

u think so? he goes to the pot when I go to bed cos he knows my kitchen standard... so i do not bother when he refuses to eat

Mr Aboki:



OMO!!!!!!!!!!



I am a married man and sitting here right here right now trying to picture myself in such a situation, I still dont know what I would do...

freecocoa: Lol you must be joking or have never gotten really angry.

deols:

That is the problem with Lording over the wife. The day that she decides that it is enough, the man loses his power and prestige.

But she could have acted differently..it must have been hard on the man.

deols:

I am surprised many see it as normal sha.

Anger never stopped me from getting what I wanted. I don't get angry to the extent of losing out, ever.

The only thing that keeps me angry is the inability to express myself. When I say it out, I am immediately relieved and if getting something from the one who offended me is the next thing to do, I'll do it without qualms.

hafi: Got this as a broadcast, would love to know those for the women folks......

*** Signs Of Immaturity In Marriage: FOR MEN ***

1) Rejecting food wen there's an issue:

Oga husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refuse to eat because you dey vex. Its one of the greatest signs of
immaturity, its time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere wen angry but ensure that you don't allow it 2 linger unnecessarily because dat is enough for the devil to build on.

2) Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she
still knows that you are the head. Yu need not shout or scream it daily. Its important for you to know when and how to be firm and put yur feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3) Issuing threats:

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging abt marrying another wife does not make you a man. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

4) Reporting your wife to friends and family:

Wen yur wife offends, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black nd sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It is also out of place for any man to love his mother more than his wife and kids, doing this only sets up your home for crisis.

5) Competition:

Have you seen couples who compete with each other over material acquisitions? Their properties and investments are always in separate names.
As the wife borrows to buy a Ferrari, the husband is running after a bugatti. How childish can we be? This also leads to insecurity, jealousy and inferiority/
superiority complex. Please let's check ourselves and work as a team

baron2000:


If there is such a man as this i pity our generation. It is pathetic. Even the sound of it.

Mr Aboki:


Sometimes, life is not as straight forward as it appears.

I have a friend that I forsee a break-up in their marriage in the not too distant future. Infact, when once she puts to bed, I see her calling off the marriage.

The guy has abused, beaten and rubbished her as best as he can.

I got wind of certain bits and pieces of their story and all I can say is that the guy has issues. However, because of the guys attitude, the wife has also stopped even trying to be the peace maker that she initially was. Now its a matter of whatever.

They both live in the same house but he does not talk to his pregnant wife.
He calls his pregnant wife a LovePeddler.
Throws a tantrum, breaks things and smashes stuff near and around her (because he cant hit her now that she is heavily pregnant).

I would have had a chat with him, but all I want to do now is hire thugs to whoop his as|s because if his wife were my sister, I would have hurt him really bad.


Marriage is not an easy matter.

It takes 90% work, endurance and perserverance and 10% love to keep a marriage together.

hafi: Got this as a broadcast, would love to know those for the women folks......

*** Signs Of Immaturity In Marriage: FOR MEN ***

1) Rejecting food wen there's an issue:

Oga husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refuse to eat because you dey vex. Its one of the greatest signs of
immaturity, its time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere wen angry but ensure that you don't allow it 2 linger unnecessarily because dat is enough for the devil to build on.

2) Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she
still knows that you are the head. Yu need not shout or scream it daily. Its important for you to know when and how to be firm and put yur feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3) Issuing threats:

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging abt marrying another wife does not make you a man. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

4) Reporting your wife to friends and family:

Wen yur wife offends, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black nd sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It is also out of place for any man to love his mother more than his wife and kids, doing this only sets up your home for crisis.

5) Competition:

Have you seen couples who compete with each other over material acquisitions? Their properties and investments are always in separate names.
As the wife borrows to buy a Ferrari, the husband is running after a bugatti. How childish can we be? This also leads to insecurity, jealousy and inferiority/
superiority complex. Please let's check ourselves and work as a team

hafi:

4) Reporting your wife to friends and family:

Wen yur wife offends, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black nd sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It is also out of place for any man to love his mother more than his wife and kids, doing this only sets up your home for crisis.

5) Competition:

Have you seen couples who compete with each other over material acquisitions? Their properties and investments are always in separate names.
As the wife borrows to buy a Ferrari, the husband is running after a bugatti. How childish can we be? This also leads to insecurity, jealousy and inferiority/
superiority complex. Please let's check ourselves and work as a team

latsholly: i quite agree wiv dis write up especially shoutin n naggin dat he is d head of d house. i wish my man reads dis.

Ntabeh: What do u do when he start calling his gf b4 u just to make u understand he has an alternative

crownie: @op, I disagree with number 1. Rejecting her food when there's an issue is just to get back at her. It's painful for women when they take time to cook a meal and their husbands don't eat it

hafi: Got this as a broadcast, would love to know those for the women folks......

*** Signs Of Immaturity In Marriage: FOR MEN ***

1) Rejecting food wen there's an issue:

Oga husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refuse to eat because you dey vex. Its one of the greatest signs of
immaturity, its time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere wen angry but ensure that you don't allow it 2 linger unnecessarily because dat is enough for the devil to build on.

2) Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she
still knows that you are the head. Yu need not shout or scream it daily. Its important for you to know when and how to be firm and put yur feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3) Issuing threats:

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging abt marrying another wife does not make you a man. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

4) Reporting your wife to friends and family:

Wen yur wife offends, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black nd sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It is also out of place for any man to love his mother more than his wife and kids, doing this only sets up your home for crisis.

5) Competition:

Have you seen couples who compete with each other over material acquisitions? Their properties and investments are always in separate names.
As the wife borrows to buy a Ferrari, the husband is running after a bugatti. How childish can we be? This also leads to insecurity, jealousy and inferiority/
superiority complex. Please let's check ourselves and work as a team

deols:

I donno again o.

Would you have seen it as normal and not care that the food was not eaten?

Would you cook the next time he is angry even though unsure of whether he would eat or not?