tpacalipse: Nope! I would only feel comfortable marrying parents whose children are divorced.

GentleMimi: @ OP,ur points are myopic and biased.If u judge a person by their parent's mistakes,then u are not better off than them.If the love of my life is frm a broken home,i'll deal wif him as an ''individual'',not his ''parent's product''.I'll speak to him abt his opinion on his parent's breakup.I'll also ask him if he has learnt anyfin/ lesson frm it.Dn't be surprised he'll end up being smarter than his parents and avoid making the same mistakes they did! Just give them a chance.

Woged2005: @Op

1. Will you date or marry a person whose parents were a corrupt wealthy politician?
2. Will you date or marry a super rich corrupt pastor?
3. Will you date or marry a person who got wealthy investing in the stocks of an alcohol or cigaret manufacturing company?
4. Will you date or marry a person who got rich traveling abroad on tourist or student visa but stayed back there illegally to work?
5. Will you date or marry a medical doctor who gained admission into a university through bribes?
6. Will you date or marry a super-rich bank manager who got wealthy manipulating people's account?
7. Will you date or marry a 'man-of-god' who hangs out with corrupt politicians and accepts financial gifts from criminals?, etc

Point? If you wana judge people, there are many things to judge people on, and judge incorrigible not just in one aspect of life.

I will rather judge people by the strength of their character, achievements and meaningful contributions to humanity and not by the color of their skin, social background, religious beliefs or se*xual orientation. At all times we must respect diversity and have respect for individuals no matter what their situation in life is.

Answer: YES, I will date and marry a man whose parents were divorced if it's the will of God in my life, and he loves me.

God bless you all

tpia@:
The choice remains yours.

Is someone forcing you to marry a product of a broken home?

If its not something you want to do, then dont.

There's no need to ruminate over it.

HisRib:

I just asked a question. Stop acting like a 3-year old child. If you don't like the question, leave the room.

lafex: op has very good points. I will like to contribute by given two practical examples.
1. My mother is from a broken home, though she survive her relationship with my dad without any divorce for over 35yrs. BUT now my first sister had a broken home after 10yrs of marriage with 4children. While my dad is trying to settle the matter, my mum always say that there is no big deal in such, since she is from broken home she don't believe my sister and her children will bear the cost also
2. My girl friend is from broken home and this makes her not to give guys much regard/love necessary to the extend that this has cost her two differend relationships. I am trying to talk to and change her opion 'guys are not reliable' as she does say and act but I have not seen any changes in her. This make me to break up with her soon.

NEROSKY:

If you see the possibility that he/she can't keep the relationship or are not relationship/marriage material, why the hesitation? Call it a quit, buh if both of you are good together like bread & butter, why considering the history Wetin concern bicycle with filling station...

tpia@:
someone whose parents are not divorced might not be able to relate well with divorced inlaws. Or vice versa.


its not just about marrying the person alone, the person came from a particular family dynamic which should not just be glossed over [ignored] as if it doesnt matter.

it does.

Wallahi!!!

Even a Chimpanzee know that you are one Confused fellow

Woged2005:
@Op

1. Will you date or marry a person whose parents were a corrupt wealthy politician?
2. Will you date or marry a super rich corrupt pastor?
3. Will you date or marry a person who got wealthy investing in the stocks of an alcohol or cigaret manufacturing company?
4. Will you date or marry a person who got rich traveling abroad on tourist or student visa but stayed back there illegally to work?
5. Will you date or marry a medical doctor who gained admission into a university through bribes?
6. Will you date or marry a super-rich bank manager who got wealthy manipulating people's account?
7. Will you date or marry a 'man-of-god' who hangs out with corrupt politicians and accepts financial gifts from criminals?, etc

Point? If you wana judge people, there are many things to judge people on, and judge incorrigible not just in one aspect of life.

I will rather judge people by the strength of their character, achievements and meaningful contributions to humanity and not by the color of their skin, social background, religious beliefs or se*xual orientation. At all times we must respect diversity and have respect for individuals no matter what their situation in life is.

Answer: YES, I will date and marry a man whose parents were divorced if it's the will of God in my life, and he loves me.

God bless you all

Woged2005:
@Op

1. Will you date or marry a person whose parents were a corrupt wealthy politician?
2. Will you date or marry a super rich corrupt pastor?
3. Will you date or marry a person who got wealthy investing in the stocks of an alcohol or cigaret manufacturing company?
4. Will you date or marry a person who got rich traveling abroad on tourist or student visa but stayed back there illegally to work?
5. Will you date or marry a medical doctor who gained admission into a university through bribes?
6. Will you date or marry a super-rich bank manager who got wealthy manipulating people's account?
7. Will you date or marry a 'man-of-god' who hangs out with corrupt politicians and accepts financial gifts from criminals?, etc

Point? If you wana judge people, there are many things to judge people on, and judge incorrigible not just in one aspect of life.

I will rather judge people by the strength of their character, achievements and meaningful contributions to humanity and not by the color of their skin, social background, religious beliefs or se*xual orientation. At all times we must respect diversity and have respect for individuals no matter what their situation in life is.

Answer: YES, I will date and marry a man whose parents were divorced if it's the will of God in my life, and he loves me.

God bless you all

It all depends on the individual. The poster has very valid points that should not be ignored. The first marriage we all see is our parents marriage and what happened in our parents marriage will have a huge effect on our views on marriage. Our parents are the ones that will give us our first views on marriage and if they could get it soo wrong, then the quality of advice we get may not be the best.

My opinion is that find out what caused the divorce. Also find out if both parents have moved on or if they both still hate themselves with a passion. Find out whether or not the divorce was due to violence or adultery or other forms of abuse.

My take is this avoid people from families that had very bitter divorces and the parents are still fighting each other. Truth is that these kind of parents use their children against each other and feed their children with horror stories about the other parent. You dont want to marry people with this kinds of baggage trust me. Also, thread carefully if it was a very abusive marriage. Just dont ignore these kinda warning signals.

While I will not say it is a no-no, but be careful when getting marrd to people from broken homes.