igbonla:

Your man is cheating at the time he should treating you like a "tear rubber"! And he is doing it without protection!

There is no good way to deliver bad news, this guy can kill you!

abi oooo

If you are not married, kindly shut up. "Yes, I will walk out". "I will quit". Yeah right. Na so e easy.

Abegi, talk to your man. If he is really sincere and you know you can forgive him, abegi do so. All these people telling you to quit, na them go give you correct man to marry? These over riped old women and over sexed teengares wey no go find husband marry, lai lai. Abegi, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't. Quote me, every man will cheat. Every single one of them. One will cheat once and repent and one will continue to cheat. So, if you are happy in the relationship, don't let some idiot of a LovePeddler spoil am for you.

Abegi, go do HIV test and move on. Nothing do you or your hubby to be o jare.

theopops:

If you are not married, kindly shut up. "Yes, I will walk out". "I will quit". Yeah right. Na so e easy.

Abegi, talk to your man. If he is really sincere and you know you can forgive him, abegi do so. All these people telling you to quit, na them go give you correct man to marry? These over riped old women and over sexed teengares wey no go find husband marry, lai lai. Abegi, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't. Quote me, every man will cheat. Every single one of them. One will cheat once and repent and one will continue to cheat. So, if you are happy in the relationship, don't let some idiot of a LovePeddler spoil am for you.

Abegi, go do HIV test and move on. Nothing do you or your hubby to be o jare.

When did you carry out this census? I know quite a lot who have never cheated in their lives, some are hitting 60 yrs already.

Because he thinks the world is like everyone in his wretched family

theopops:

If you are not married, kindly shut up. "Yes, I will walk out". "I will quit". Yeah right. Na so e easy.

Abegi, talk to your man. If he is really sincere and you know you can forgive him, abegi do so. All these people telling you to quit, na them go give you correct man to marry? These over riped old women and over sexed teengares wey no go find husband marry, lai lai. Abegi, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't. Quote me, every man will cheat. Every single one of them. One will cheat once and repent and one will continue to cheat. So, if you are happy in the relationship, don't let some idiot of a LovePeddler spoil am for you.

Abegi, go do HIV test and move on. Nothing do you or your hubby to be o jare.

[size=20pt]TO ALL THE LADIES ON NL: STAY AWAY FROM THEOPOPS! HE IS A DANGEROUS MANIAC. [/size]

@ theopops:

Abegi, go do HIV test and move on. Nothing do you or your hubby to be o jare.

na wa oh.

Go do HIV test and move on?

to you, HIV na common catarhh?    God forbid bad thing.








someone should enter this kind of relationship with open eyes?

See this story right here:

http://odili.net/news/source/2008/jul/13/302.html




If this woman doesnt quit now, the marriage is doomed even before it starts.

he did a very bad thing. for him not to inform u , u're in for a marriage built on lies(no trust); and to tell her to abort the baby that means he is heartless. if u know that u love him very much, just follow ur heart. it is ur future, learn how to take decision independently. think before leaping into conclusion.

After traditional and court wedding,hmmm na waooooooooooooooo
What kind of man is that? any way ,it all depends if you are still young i advice you to quite, after all if your were the one that is preginant for another man, he will pick race. But if you know that age is no more by your side, please go ahead with the wedding because husbands are scares nowadays.
The ball is in your court to play, all the best.

onyiidon:

After traditional and court wedding,hmmm na waooooooooooooooo
What kind of man is that? any way ,it all depends if you are still young i advice you to quite, after all if your were the one that is preginant for another man, he will pick race. But if you know that age is no more by your side, please go ahead with the wedding because husbands are scares nowadays.
The ball is in your court to play, all the best.

What kind of stupid advice is this?

onyiidon:

After traditional and court wedding,hmmm na waooooooooooooooo
What kind of man is that? any way ,it all depends if you are still young i advice you to quite, after all if your were the one that is preginant for another man, he will pick race. [b]But if you know that age is no more by your side, please go ahead with the wedding because husbands are scares nowadays.[/b]The  ball is in your court to play, all the best.

wat da heck is dat all about

Thanks _dad mod

@ POSTER,

i urgently need your advice my white wedding is on August ,i found out yesterday a lady is  pregnant for my future husband.we have done the traditional marriage and the court.sholud i quit because all preparations have been made.
  i am confused

RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN, 

forgiveness is essential in a reliationship. I think she should give hime a last chance.

Forgiveness is a SIN in this situation! He deserves NO second chance!!

onyiidon:

After traditional and court wedding,hmmm na waooooooooooooooo
What kind of man is that? any way ,it all depends if you are still young i advice you to quite, after all if your were the one that is preginant for another man, he will pick race. But if you know that age is no more by your side, please go ahead with the wedding because husbands are scares nowadays.[/b]The ball is in your court to play, all the best.

This type of statement in bold above leaves me perplexed. Husbands are scarce where? in Nigeria? Are most women giving birth to more daughters than sons in Nigeria now? Population wise are there more women than men in Naija now? I just don't understand why people keep saying husbands are scare. And even if they were, she should marry a cheat that will tomorrow give her HIV and other STDS in her matrimonial home? The way [b]some women and men think, hmmmm. Also, think of the baby mama drama. Some Naija parents will force a man to marry thier daughter if the man pregnanted her.

@ Poster
If you do not want peace of mind in your home, go ahead and marry him. I believe in peace of mind in my marraige, open communication and honesty. Those 3 vital things already lack in your relationship and you want to go ahead with it? Don't worry. By the time you are forty years old, you will be looking sixty years because you have no joy, peace of mind or contentment in your marraige. Oh, and before I forget, step brother/sister wahala, step sibling rivalry that your children will have to deal with due to the other woman's child, I can go on and on. It's your life sha. Do as you see fit.

My sister!I plead with yu to go ahead with the wedding and heed to nice advice i read earlier. I know of a sister very close to me. It is exactly wat happened to you that happened to her too. She left the guy. As I write you now, she is still single at 42. She actually got married to someone else thereafter, but it was a wrong marriage. The marriage was dissolved. I mean dissolved not divorced. It was terriblle. It is beta to be single than to be in that home. So I advice you to heed to those that asked you to stay put. Goodluck

SPIFF:

My sister!I plead with yu to go ahead with the wedding and heed to nice advice i read earlier. I know of a sister very close to me. It is exactly what happened to you that happened to her too. She left the guy. As I write you now, she is still single at 42. She actually got married to someone else thereafter, but it was a wrong marriage. The marriage was dissolved. I mean dissolved not divorced. It was terriblle. It is beta to be single than to be in that home. So I advice you to heed to those that asked you to stay put. Goodluck

Does that mean any woman who dumps a bastard is bound to remain alone for the rest of her life? Oh gosh!
I want to ask you men: who do you think you are? Do you think you have the right to toy with us and go for free and maybe expect us to come back begging on our knees just because you are men and we are women?

Imagine the rubbish these bush illiterate rats are spilling just because they happen to have those things dangling between their legs. How disgusting!

michelin89:

Does that mean any woman who dumps a bastard is bound to remain alone for the rest of her life? Oh gosh!
I want to ask you men: who do you think you are? Do you think you have the right to toy with us and go for free and maybe expect us to come back begging on our knees just because you are men and we are women?
Imagine the rubbish these bush illiterate rats are spilling just because they happen to have those things dangling between their legs. How disgusting!

The same question I have asked over and over again! Thank u jare.

Like I said b4,

"The only situation I can imagine a lady staying with a man after he has messed up without boundary like this is when it comes to those cases of a man marrying an illiterate woman 4rom d village that he can controll like rag and that completely depends on him. ------------ But in our modern society, no woman would take such! A woman has her dignity u know?? Nowadays women are educated, such things don't just pass free like that. No independent woman, that has her job, is educated Etc, would stay in such I tell u. Cuz she doesn't depend on him 4 nada! Except the marriage thingy, which he just completely blew. soo wht else?? please!"

tpia, that story was a good one .

If he's doing that lady without protection to get her pregnant, the fact is he trust her and likes her pu**y. I know thats bold to say but,  If you marry this guy he will continue to sleep with her because she will need him to be around at least sometimes, and thats very likely. You will resent him for doing this for the rest of your life. Dont listen to these stupid chiks in here telling u that u should judge your decision based on your age! The last time i checked, naija was the most populated country in the whole of Africa! Men are not short, hunny, never will be. This man shouldve been thinking of his wedding costs and where to hold a reception, not sleeping with other women. He didnt care to use his head, his d**k just lead the way.

And how do u know this is not the only one? this is just the one that is now stuck with his seed inside her. RUN WHILE You CAN. IT WILL MAKE You SHINE AND MEN WILL COME AFTER YOU IN DUE TIME! no RUSH.

O u poor girl. 1st tin dat koms 2 mind is dat u should just dump d ahole because he obviously has no impulse control or respect 4 wat u guys r trying 2 build nd if he can mess up like dis now wetin e wan do during una marriage? But I know how much of a production naija weddings can b all d preps nd everything! Geez e fuk up big time. My dear just pray nd ask God 2 guide ur decision. U av two options nip it now nd save urself likely future heartache or go fwd bearing in mind he can do dis again. Doh.