He naira landers, I have a girl that we have been dating each other since 2002, we lost contact but now we back again. We love each other so much, and ready to do anything for each other. Now shes calling me in to get married with her, am not that ready for now fully, and i don,t want to loss her. The main thing about this issue is that, this girl senior me, with Four Good years. Pleas advise me what can i do?

u said ur not ready,and that says it all except ofcourse u know wen ur going 2b ready and she's willing to wait, Age aint anything but a number, my opinion

Just explain to her why you are not ready. If she loves you like you say she does then she will wait. But you have to tell her when you will be ready it just cant be some open ended thing a girl will leave you if you leave it open ended with no goal line in sight.

you love her but u are not ready, if she love
u then she will wait.

thanks

poster how old are u?

Am 26

ok,then dat means u aint ready for marriage,tell her dat

u don't love her. . . .if u do, age shouldn't be an issue.
besides u shld have tot about that before engaging in a relationship with her.

apparently . . . her biological clock is ticking.

if u can't do it . . . let her go and find someone her age who is ready.

run for ur dear life!!

Well, I don't know.

But if I had a guy that loves me as much as you love your woman, I would not hesitate to marry him.

But nowadays, marriage is not only about love.

u don't love her. . . .if u do, age shouldn't be an issue.
besides u shld have tot about that before engaging in a relationship with her.

apparently . . . her biological clock is ticking.

if u can't do it . . . let her go and find someone her age who is ready.

Exactly

. Dont know why people are saying she should "wait". Wait for what? He's bothered bythe 4 yr difference. That's NEVER gonna chnage. she's always gonna be older. so just let her go

Ruby_Pearl:

Well, I don't know.

But if I had a guy that loves me as much as you love your woman, I would not hesitate to marry him.

But nowadays, marriage is not only about love.

abi ooo, the bank account also have to be checked for appropriate and satisfying figures

lady u:

abi ooo, the bank account also have to be checked for appropriate and satisfying figures

cupidity

dreeldee:

cupidity 

if u like vex till next year,i will say it again and again and again dat------------bank account matters a whole lot

desist from greed

dreeldee:

desist from greed

its not greed,its called comfort

the question is "can I marry her? and your answer is emphasizing on his pocket, what other name do you call that? materialism

dreeldee:

the question is "can I marry her? and your answer is emphasizing on his pocket, what other name do you call that? materialism

it all sums up to d word marriage,before marriage d pocket should be checked first of all and not only love  afterall ruby_pearl said love is not d only thing that should be considered before marriage,and i added a few words to it,so wats your problem?im i not free to state my opinion

@poster,
its not advisable to rush into marriage when you are not ready.You have to be ready and wlling to take your relationship to that level.
Concerning the age bit,i have seen a case where the wife is about 3yrs older than the husband and they have a very lovely home,they are proud to tell people about it now because it has worked for them.Though they claimed they kept it to themselves before now.
If you two are cool with it,then go for it,but don't let the whole world knw that she's older than you oooooo

@ poster

i dont think its adviseable to marry a girl thats older than u (4yrs is too much) for 2 reasons

1. she'll age before you and loose her appeal when she ages.
2. she'll never respect u as such cos she knows that she's older than u.

I ain think age really matters in a relationship. What matters is that you really love each other, she respects you and she is a good person. I ain think 4 years be big deal. If u nat ready; you should sit her down and explain to her in a matured way. If she loves you 4real, then she would wait. If you know you not sure u wanna get married to her, don't waste her time, just let her know.

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