CFCfan:
Hmmm. Well, since she's 18, u can walk up to her confidently and lay your feelings for her right there. Who knows, u being 11 years older than her might turn her on. Some ladies love older guys oh.

joechima: I am a 29year old serving corps member batch A but still does not know how to approach and ask a lady out,presently asking a 18year old out and already feeling like a loser.pls what's the way out no insults pls

joechima: Maria forget stories lol. Why should a man, or woman, approaching thirty consider toasting someone who is eighTEEN?

I remember how I was at 18: very stewpid lol. At my current age, I can't imagine dating someone who is 18 due to maturity issues. Even those who we think are mature still have their annoying teenage ways.

Just some months back, the girl was 17, and everyone would've told OP no. Girls don't become women overnight. Let her experience her life abeg.
(Quote) (Report) (Like). Very true she told me that's the advice she gets from friends and all that but she is a bit confused cos since I asked her out she is staying in between,that being said my elder sisters don't like the idea saying she ll dump me later,But I really like her..

4urMind: I thought the guy in question is specific about the problem he want urgent solution, why do we have quack advisers in NL.... performing heart surgery for a toothache. if the guy is 40 and choose to be with 18old girl, how does that make Ethiopia to qualify for champions league?


@op...every guy was one time or the other like u are now, afraid to woo a lady, but most of us overcame that b4 we completed high school. that is not to say u are not normal, just like everything in life, we attain a particular fit at different stages. u must av approached this issue lackadaisically overtime thinking it not important, its as important as u getting a wife.

first of all, build on your confidence level, not just on wooing a lady but in everything in life. placing this for people to advice u is a good step in doing that but it can most times be counter productive especially when u get advises from quacks.

make girls your friend, not just on relationship bases. compliment them but don't make it look as if u are mocking them, ie. don't tell a girl she has a smooth legs when a blind man can tell its a lie.

don't be stingy in ur spending, take them out and discuss general issues, always lead conversions, but try not to be maga


be sure of the kind of girl u want and go for her, girls don't bite, don't always giveup too quick because u are not getting her. remember good things don't come easy.

last but not the least, read good books.

Kslib: You said 'You cant approach a lady and ask her out'. Well, All what you just need is confidence, thats all..

Ladies dont bite. The highest they can say is 'NO' and it wont kill you. You wont be the first person that the power of NO has been used upon by a lady and wont be the last, so why not try?

Just try it for the first time and even if the lady says 'NO', you'll notice that there isnt any big deal in what has been scaring you all this while.. Every journey begins with a step, even the journey of 'asking ladies out'..

You are even 29 sef.. Abeg do quick jooor and come tell us how it went!!!

Maria-Goretti:
@Op,
hmm, you said, you dont know how to approach a girl or should I say you have difficulty doing that.

But, from your previous thread with the topic "URGENT ADVICE", dated July 10, there you stated that you asked to court a 17yr old sec. School leaver and she agreed but she always wanted you to spend time with her.

Now, are we talking about that same 17yr old , prolly she turned 18 within the space of July to Nov. Or an entirely different 18 yr old..?

ogugua88:

An 18-year-old is a teenage adult. How many teenagers are ready for relationships with adults?

Even though age is just a number, I see no reason as to why an adult would be chasing a teenager (unless he's like 22 and she's 18). If it was my sister, I would tell him to steer clear of the OP... and you. Maybe the age gap and the fact that he's old and she's fresh is the reason he's feeling somehow and running to Nairaland for advice.

ogugua88:

You see? You even did research lol. Na wa for the OP. Just seeing the comments alone, no be wetin I talk? In July, they were telling him to respect himself. 5 months later, "she may be matured". Smh.

Make I unfollow this thread as I don run out of sensible thing to talk lol.

sexkillz: The notion about dating younger ladies and how they can be groomed and blah blah is just an over hyped fallacy.

Wait till this girl turns 23 on you and then you'll hear her say she needs to explore other options.

Teenagers should date teenagers.

sexkillz: The notion about dating younger ladies and how they can be groomed and blah blah is just an over hyped fallacy.

Wait till this girl turns 23 on you and then you'll hear her say she needs to explore other options.

Teenagers should date teenagers.

ogugua88: Leave the child and look for a woman.

nkwachiabel: Mehn face the fact... That girl is too young for you. Think abt the age diff, her experience in life, her maturity issue. Ask urself if u r jst tryin 2 hv a for a short term cos dah girl will wan2 enjoy her teenage nd youthful days jst like all oda gals. Jst step up ur game. Go for sum1 older. You're nt getting younger. Atleast be tinking abt settling down nt havin a girlfrnd. Mehn face the fact... That girl is too young for you. Think abt the age diff, her experience in life, her maturity issue. Ask urself if u r jst tryin 2 hv a for a short term cos dah girl will wan2 enjoy her teenage nd youthful days jst like all oda gals. Jst step up ur game. Go for sum1 older. You're nt getting younger. Atleast be tinking abt settling down nt havin a girlfrnd.

Idowuogbo:
Brodamus, u gbamtically on point.

texanomaly:
This is so true. Eventually the girl will 'grow up' and realize what she has missed. Hopefully it will not be married and three kids later, when she does.

Their favourite phrase? "I was naive".

Idowuogbo:

I never thought I'll witness this day.

Jehovah I thank u! Wowwwwww!!!!

Time changes a lot.

nkwachiabel: thanks bro. Gals of nowadays. Her peers may influence her. U never can tell.