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Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Gracious10: 3:34pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
babyosisi: There is something in an Igbo man that makes him adore Igbo women This is very true and touched all areas. My friends Dad had to dissuade her from marrying a Yoruba man by showing her the machete marks and cuts he got from the biafran war. He wouldn't even set eyes on the Yoruba suitor. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Truckpusher(m): 3:34pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA:Absolutely you lack the basic ingredients to comprehend properly before quoting and rushing into conclusion reasoning from your butt. In a layman's language : 1) People tend to drop some cultures because they are educated 2) Rich people do not believe in some culture because the society they must have encountered somehow would have made them to become acculturated 3)Most of these cultures that are very backward like your osu system are usually upheld in the villages where you have a larger population of a people belonging to one tribe,region and religion or way of life And yes, the more successful and enlightened you become you'll generally drop some unhealthy cultures that constantly clash with your environment .For example if i'm an Osu wanting to marry a free born that has an educated father and mother living in a far away land will the issue of being an osu come into play? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:34pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Loski_Nedu: True. Once im done with the Yoruba Pagan movement, we will concentrate more on reviving Igbo religion. The problem is that, unlike Yoruba Babalawos, Igbo Dbias have still not taken advantage of the Information Age and Computer technology. so its difficult to spread the faith. Hopefully once the movement kickstarts, we'll encourage people to have more pride in marrying Osus since they are people touched by the Gods. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:35pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
coogar:It doesn't change especially when it comes to marriage and leadership positions. However, the discrimination is somehow veiled in churches. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by jaybee3(m): 3:35pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
freecocoa: C'mon sweet don't be like thatwhat you've noticed doesn't necessarily mean it's the norm You are more likely to marry someone from your own tribe/ethnic group if these are the only people you move with. The dynamics change one the element of choice is introduced. When can i come and pay your bride price jare. I must to marry you by force |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Psychedelia(m): 3:35pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
coogar: That Osu thing is a joke now. In the past, they used to say mere taking gifts from an Osu would make you one. Well, what about Uni boys and girls who've been phucking like wildcats? All these guys who've patronized prosstiitutes, are they also going to tell us, that while slapping on the rubber, they say, "Oh, by the way, I forgot to ask, are you Osu?" Or is anybody going to tell me he'd ask this girl if she was Osu before tearing her to pieces from the back? |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by coogar: 3:36pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Loski_Nedu: the most annoying thing is the community allows it. i can understand our foremothers & forefathers with little or no education embracing such evil practises but our generation has no excuse kowtowing such an evil practise. we are educated! Loski_Nedu: houston, we have a problem!!! |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:36pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
On the contrary igbos are more westernised than most parts of Nigeria(they only exhibit that culture when time for marriage comes) coogar: |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by 50calibre(m): 3:37pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA: So you are saying paganism was better? I'm sure no woman in her right senses will agree with that. The OSU thing is just an unfortunate side, but Christianity did more good that harm to the Igbo culture. During the pagan era, men were seen as next to the gods, the women were just pawns to be used, & served no other purpose apart from breeding & feeding her family. Women never spoke where men were speaking, never ate what they want, were punished for failing to produce a male child or disobeying her husband, the foolishness of that era was incredible. Paganism is associated with animalistic behaviours & practices. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by thewarrior72: 3:38pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
tosingcfr:Oga it's one in a million, unlike here in southwest |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by coogar: 3:40pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: On the contrary igbos are more westernised than most parts of Nigeria(they only exhibit that culture when time for marriage comes) more westernised? i strongly disagree. the coastal areas are the most westernised in nigeria. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:41pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Truckpusher: Absolutely you lack the basic ingredients to comprehend properly before quoting and rushing into conclusion reasoning from your butt. You are a big egg-head. Im more educated than you (im sure) so i don't need you to teach me the "layman's language". 1) People tend to drop cultures only when they feel a foreign culture is superior to theirs. this is called "slave mentality". It is a very backward way of thinking. 2)That is the biggest bullsh.it Ive ever heard. Go to places like East Asia and the Middle East. These people , especially the rich stick to culture and value it more closely than the middle-class. Infact these are the people who spend big amounts to preserve their peoples cultures. 3)Osu System is not backward. It is christianity that has cause Osu discrimination ( i have explained this in a previous post above. go check.) Therefore again, it is slave mentality all over again. and stop generalizing by saying "most of these cultures". so what is forward? Wearing skimpy clothes? watching "p.ornography"?, doing drugs and listening to rap music? Why drop your culture if you are Osu? Drop christianity for decreasing your social status and discriminating against you! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by thewarrior72: 3:42pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: It is a general belief that igbo women don't mess around while marriedThat's why they are been mistreated& nobody comes to they rescue |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Gracious10: A friend visited me and told me how she broke off her engagement with a Yoruba man years ago He had done his NYSC in the east where they met and fell in love and he remained and found a job in the east They got engaged Her parents cried out but she turned deaf ears Them one day a former lecturer of hers who was dreaded at the uni came to her and said " Nne who did I hear that that you want to marry" The woman told her that she was on a mission to warn every girl never to make the mistake She started to withdraw from the man and eventually married someone else Many Igbo girls who married Yorubas have regretted it years down the road I have heard this from at least 5 people My own cousin said and I quote " my enemy will not marry Yoruba" I think however that the regret must be because they had a bad marriage not the man's tribe sha 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Iyineda(m): 3:43pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
I guess my mother isn't Igbo then since she married a Yoruba lad, from Ijebu-Ode. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by coogar: 3:44pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Psychedelia: afam probably asks them before he penetrates. he gives them a questionnaire to fill & a big bible to swear with. Iyineda: I guess my mother isn't Igbo then since she married a Yoruba lad, from Ijebu-Ode. well, according to the populist opinion your ijebuode dad would soon kick out your igbo mum as yorubas don't respect the marriage institution. can you imagine such? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
coogar: LOL! educated? * smh It is your papas generation that started this backward custom. Drop christianity first. Then you will not just be educated, but "enlightened". Follow the footsteps of our Great thinkers, Chinua Achebe and WOle Soyinka and Im sure Nigeria will be a Great Nation. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Iyineda: I guess my mother isn't Igbo then since she married a Yoruba lad, from Ijebu-Ode. Igbos and Ijebu people jive well There is a kindred spirit between the two I have written here earlier that whenever I met a Yoruba person I clicked with ,it has always turned out that they were Ijebu They are not afraid ,suspicious or intimidated by Igbos,I have proven that over and over again Interestingly both groups claim to have descended from Jewish origin Hahahaha Another topic altogether |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by nicky4lif(f): 3:45pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Well me I'm igbo nd I love my igbo brothers nd can't do with out them,don't want someone who will be jumping like an abino when my people are speaking or playing our song.aside igbo,I can only marry from delta igbo.its not my fault,I just want someone who understands my tradition. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:46pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA: Um...Osu and non-Osu did not intermarry in pagan, pre-Christian times. They did not interact socially. Osus were not allowed to take titles in the community. True, their connections with the gods gave them a slight edge in religious matters, but that's where it ended. They were still a marginalized lot. And reverting to paganism won't fix that. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by gratiaeo(m): 3:47pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
babyosisi: There is something in an Igbo man that makes him adore Igbo womenYou are on point here! Their is a lot difference between Igbo and other tribe (Yoruba in mind) i can tidy them girl. (if i see any beautiful) marriage? Mbanu! Our blood is ticker 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Acidosis(m): 3:47pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
oya my last cents f00ls (those discriminating) Y'all should not only marry your tribes. Make sure you marry from your village, and if your village is too complex, you can still decide to choose from your street/compound or even your father's house... ______________________________________ EXITS |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:48pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
50calibre: Ofourse Paganismis better! That is my religion you ---- There are some Igbo Pagan women. Ofcourse Igbos these days wont agree with complete Paganism because theyve been brainwashed heavily. christianity did good to Igbo culture? You are joking right? christianity DESTROYED Igbo culture. (or atleast tried to wherever possible) Dont talk nonsense. You were not born then. In fact during the Pagan era, women were very powerful. Hausaland especially had many Pagan Queens and even today, the Chief (pope) of us Hausa Arna Pagans is a Woman by compulsion. so you are theory is nil and void. (propaganda). The foolishness of this era is incredible, where every woman is seen by every man as a mere s.ex object. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by coogar: 3:48pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA: so we should drop christianity that preaches love your neighbour as yourself & embrace the one that discriminates against our kindred because of some idiotic myths? hahahaha - you are smarter than einstein. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:50pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Radoillo: That is not true. Again it is all propaganda spread by missionaries and the church, (just like twin-killing). Osus did not need titles. The Osu title itself could strike fear into the hearts and minds of men. Reverting to Paganism is the only way for Nigerias mental progress. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by ladygogo: 3:51pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
babyosisi: There is something in an Igbo man that makes him adore Igbo women Crapstatic!! |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:51pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Acidosis: oya my last cents stop exaggerating. we are talking about tribe here. |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by dgysoft(m): 3:51pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
According to a recent study in america. It was noticed that Igbo girls have the following character. 1 They are g in bed 2 They make nice dish. 3. The stay longer in marriage. 4. They are good resource manager. 5. They have good initiatives and innovator. 6. They are enterprising. 7. They are industrious. 8. They have the best body built. 9. They are crisis manager. 10. I love them all. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:53pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Oh well I didn't says igbos are the most westernized Just that they are more so than many areas I do understand that some areas will probably be more westernized then igboland especially those areas without strong traditions and cultures Igbos are among the more westernized cos we travel a lot and imbibe different lifestyles along the way. I'm not even sure that such a great thing. coogar: |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by Nobody: 3:53pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
[size=18pt]but the very rich Yoruba inlaws are always welcome [/size] We can manage those ones If person must eat frog let it be one with berra adipose tissues 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by thewarrior72: 3:53pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Truckpusher: Absolutely you lack the basic ingredients to comprehend properly before quoting and rushing into conclusion reasoning from your butt. The Osu thing has been abolished in igboland for a very long time, so stop peddling the ur unfounded rumour 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Igbo People Detest Marrying Other Tribes? by SamIkenna: 3:54pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Afam4eva: Bro I don't think you're entirely correct. I have asked that question and have delved deep into Igbo culture and history and I can say that the emergence of out-castes in Igboland, even though very minuscule, is a complex one and most often had a lot to do with people who were either heavily indebted or in existential danger and, voluntarily, had to seek protection in many dreaded shrines that spanned the land in those dark ages. You can see it as filing for bankruptcy kind of thing. The only problem is that once you fail to bail yourself out and seek the protection of community gods/shrines people in the community see you as someone belonging to the dreaded god. They give you a huge space and, alas! you don't need protection anymore. But it turns out you're stuck. However, because Igbos are generally competitive and would avoid shame by all means, folks chose to pay their debt, did their thing, and stayed away from being the property of the gods. So, when you say "sacrifice," I say its kind of close but not exact. Anyway, who knows. Perhaps other communities had different routes they used to get to the same system. However, at the end of the day Christianity has destroyed the practice just as it destroyed polygamy in Igboland and what's left of the practice has been abolished and the population of Osu is perhaps a thousandth of a percent of Igbo population and I'm really happy for that. |
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