I am happily married with one kid. My problem is that, my in laws v been mounting pressure on my wife for money. She gives money to them without my consent. I opened up a business wich eventually collapsed as a result of my wife giving her parents money from the business. Her whole families are depending on her to survive. I v seen that we can't make any meaningful progress in life if things continue the way they are. I v talked to my wife severally and yet, she is not ready to change. I am thinking of taking another wife.

And you think the next wife won't do same?

Bros, talk more with her on how to find a lastin solution to her parent's financial problem. Maybe u guys shud open a shop for her parents and after that, they shud be in charge of the shop and use whatever money comes from it...

Just think abt how to solve the problem once and for all.

Is the business her or yours or for the both of you.

because I feel its bad telling her not to take care of the people that brought her up to the point you saw her to marry. How would you feel if she tells you to not to help financially your mum, dad or sibling.
My advise to you is to talk to her and make her understand priorities so she can know when your home needs money and let her not send money for frivolous activities if there is not much.

Okpuzu01: I am happily married with one kid. My problem is that, my in laws v been mounting pressure on my wife for money. She gives money to them without my consent. I opened up a business wich eventually collapsed as a result of my wife giving her parents money from the business. Her whole families are depending on her to survive. I v seen that we can't make any meaningful progress in life if things continue the way they are. I v talked to my wife severally and yet, she is not ready to change. I am thinking of taking another wife.

I am saying dat she shuld nt give her people money but I must be informed. Wotever I do for my mum, I let her know about it. We still have along way to go. Kids are coming, house rents n feedings are there. She has brothers who v grown to work to support their parents bt wnt work. They all believe in asking for money from her. I opened d business for her. Without my consent, she took money from it to pay her parents house rent.

Do the same to ur parents and siblings also

As the first child in my family, i knw wat ur wife is going tru. I ve my mom and siblings too. But, i apply wit caution.

she shld knw she is now married. The husband shld come first, esp wen is the hubby that gave the money to be invested.

Op, just talk to her, let her knw if she misuse the money again, then, she will have to sit at home and do nothing.

Lets see hw she will get money to give her siblings and parents.

You have my support!
MARRY ANOTHER WIFE AND DO IT QUICK!

why not take the topic to family section,you can get more practical advice.
#just saying#

You can't divorce your wife because of money management issues (that's exactly what it is).
Draw up a monthly budget and give her a fixed monthly allowance. It's up to her to use the monthly allowance on her family

so how does throwing away your happy home and wife solve the problem,ok lets be more practical,we know its wrong giving out the money without your consent,have you asked yourself why? maybe she knows you won't agree even if she tells you or probably knows you would drive her out of the house if you knew,anyway you know now and you are thinking about taking a second wife.
Okidoki why don't you give her a monthly allowance as jaybee said,and be more freehanded hmm or better still plan how much you both would give to her family,and encourage her people to dust their lazy asses and start working.
Finally please keep your happy home and forget marrying a second time.

my 2 cedis

Giving her parents money from the business without your consent is wrong, but if she had told you , would you have said no and allowed her parents get evicted from their house?. The damage has been done already, talk to your wife and let her know the consequences of her actions.

Without your consent ke?
Please, let her open a separate account. So she can spend her OWN money WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT simple!

I taya for all this MGBEKE-OKONGWU marriages and CHRISLAMIC unions I swear.

NAAAANSENZZZZE!!!!

Consent my CLINTORIS! Mtcheeeeeeeew!!!!
Why didn't you marry a GOAT instead?

Okpuzu01: I am thinking of taking another wife.

When it got to this part, I stopped taking the story serious....

Please send the IV when its time.... Congrats in advance

Yes o!
This is the kind of news I lv to hear this xmas period!
Poster pls when is the trado?
I wanna tie my gele o!
Ashebi nko?
Venue? Don't worry I will pay my t fare!

Lmao @ consent my clintoris

Another wife because your wife gives money to her family without your consent. Dude you sound confused.

onuwaje: Do the same to ur parents and siblings also

Gbam!!!
Let her knw how such action feels.
Her action is disrespectful.

Cutting the head to relief headache....good option.

I will neva marry a broke ass gal

andromida: Another wife because your wife gives money to her family without your consent. Dude you sound confused.

Someone looking for a flimsy excuse to take a second wife...

Happily married indeed.

You can still dialogue with her again. Let her know how much you love your in-laws.
Tell her you're of the opinion that she should be prudent in her spendings in order for
both of you to save hard for the future, especially for the children's education and
upbringing.

Tell her words in such a way that she'll naturally realize that whatever you're saying
is not because you hate her family, but because of how much you love her and the kids.
And how your desire is that you two will be so financially stable in the nearest future that
taking care of her whole family wouldn't be a big deal afterall.

If she is a wise woman, she'll reason with you. The book of Proverbs Chapter 14 vs 1 says:
"The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands".

But taking a second wife? Don't try that, bros. That is if you really want to live long.
Managing one is not easy, then tell me how you'll cope when they become two?

You want to take another wife because your wife is taking your position as the man of the house? Mr. Man you should be ashamed of yourself. Since you have found out, what you need to do is to find stop her from having access to your business account until you both find solution to her extravagant spending.

How much will it take you to marry another wife?

Bros, tell us the truth abeg.

Just kill her

Lol my can't you just tell us you are tired of ya wife's poonahni
And you wanna take a new wife.
Instead of giving baseless excuses.

Never marry someone who will bring all her family burdens on your shoulders except you have the financial capacity to handle them all...OP all i can say is pele..it is well...BTW dont think of marrying another wife becos of this...Look for a solution instead of compounding your woes.

Taking another wife is not a solution.... The solution to this is YOU.

You didn't do your survey too well before marriage and well, you are now into it and there is no way out of it. My advice for you is this... Let it stick to your head henceforth that you are the breadwinner of your immediate family and any other business you create reports to you directly and not your wife. More so, do not have a joint account with her and let her know that her business MUST bring food to the table (as that is the minimal expected from a wife).

If symptoms persists, kindly seek a spiritual father.

Getting another wife will only make it worst.
Just make sure you did not exceed your budget to her (i.e Weekly,Monthly or yearly budget)
If you are given her 25K every month stick to it.Even if she is damn broke
after spending part of those money for her family, give her zero naira (0N)