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Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 7:48pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
dayokanu: Good questions. Precisely why it's superstory. Not making sense anymore. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 7:50pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him. I knew there had to be more to that story. The truth is that in polygamy, the woman needs the man more than the man needs the woman. You are just one of his wives and the sad truth is that he probably feels he is doing you a favour by being your husband since he has a new sweet sixteen. Poster, you are in a difficult situation and your options are limited. 7 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 7:50pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him. so you mean you, your hubby and the second wife lives in the same apartment? Wow! Are you financially independent, if yes, please, face your carrer now, if now, get something doing that will relieve you depending on him, this is very important, he might be treating you like trash if he knows you can't do anything, especially financial without him, when the shealt is removed from his eyes, he will come back. For the main time, focus on yourself and your kids, "aja elyi ti sonu na, boya lo le gbo fere olode mo" May God help you. 10 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by mysticgal(f): 7:53pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 7:55pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Polygamous family! A very dreaful place to find oneself! 7 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Goldenboy007(m): 7:57pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Ooooooh,its a polygamous marriage? sorry i withdraw my advice....No comment. 6 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by nitlad: 8:01pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Your differences are irreconcilable, file for divorce! ![]() |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by nitlad: 8:02pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Goldenboy007: Ooooooh,its a polygamous marriage? sorry i withdraw my advice....No comment. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:03pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
ileobatojo:This is not super story pls. How I wish it was. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
@, thanks so much for your advice. He refused me working. It was just of recent he allowed me get a shop to start business. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 8:09pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: @op, you've not answered me, are you financially independent? If yes, please, focus on yourself and your kids for now, if no, let us know, you might someone here who can help you find one, so that you can keep soul and body together. 3 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:11pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
dayokanu:Of course i'm not demanding 100% attention |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:13pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
greatgod2012:I already answered. I actually graduated last two years but he refused from going to serve. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 8:14pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: @, thanks so much for your advice. He refused me working. It was just of recent he allowed me get a shop to start business. ok, just seeing this, expect my mail. Please pull yourself together , this is not unexpected in a polygamous setting. Was he like this before he married his 2nd wife, or he started behaving like this when he was about to? 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:17pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
greatgod2012:Yes. He has always being like that. Even the second wife is not left out. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by nyt3237(m): 8:20pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: Hello house, You must have done something bad to this gentleman. Giving half baked information like this can not solve your problem. You need to apologise for any wrong you must have done to him. I know surely you must done something bad if not how can he just decide not to talk to u. I advice you better change your attitude especially if u the nagging type or the type that compare and contrast your hobby with other men or the type that always complain .goodluck to u 3 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 8:22pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: you see, the first and major instrument in the hand of a potential abuser is financial dependency. Once they achieve that, the victim becomes helpless and left choiceless. Once again, for the main time, concentrate on yourself, your kids and your business. Then, keep on praying. It is well. 4 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Bantino(m): 8:23pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Bantino(m): 8:26pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Goldenboy007: Ooooooh,its a polygamous marriage? sorry i withdraw my advice....No comment. Same here. Op you just NL today to share this Super story. This is the reason why people with candid posts don't get good advices anymore. SMH Mtcheeeww 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:33pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
@, thanks so much. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by bukatyne(f): 8:34pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
NL never ceases to disappoint. Happy new year Goldenboy007: What do women want exactly? You fight man |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:35pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Bantino:What makes you feel this is superstory? All what have said here is real and happening to me. No need trying to prove if this is super story or not. I'll only pick the good advice and move on. 3 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by ifex370(m): 8:46pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him.tory don change lane ni... i smell fp tins ![]() |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:47pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
greatgod2012: GreatGod12, you are one of the few posters on this family forum I genuinely admire. Your posts are mature, objective and devoid of any gender bias. You have a kind heart and you are always willing to help. Please keep it up. 10 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by ypepe: 8:50pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Polygamy sucks! I don't even know where to start. Most of them fellas feel they r doing ladies great favour hence d demigod attitude. Madam, u don't hv to wait for his approval b4 u make urself responsible. Were u a student b4 he married u or u started school in his house? R u guys muslim? Cos if u r, me I no no wetin to tell ya. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
ypepe: Polygamy sucks!No. I started schooling when we got married. Yes we are muslims. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 9:03pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Nashville: thank you sir for the compliment, my believe is that we can only be useful to ourselves when we are still alive, you know, one would only be remembered for two things in life...................problem created and problems solved. @op, it is well, even if you're muslims, that doesn't mean you should be treated like trash, the only way you can free yourself is by financial empowerment. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him. I had an epistle composed until I saw this your post saying he has another wife! then I realised this is a delicate one. He has another wife(probably a younger woman than you), ignoring him will not work. He has another woman he can talk to, make love to, eat with... You have no special influence or power to achieve the result you desire, therefore you need to avoid those things he doesn't want you to do. Obe ti baale ile kii je, iyale ile kii see. However, do not let his attitude get to you. He gives you money right? Dress well, seduce him without coming on too strong. Enjoy yourself the best way you can. A man that has another wife has divided attention; don't expect too much from him! 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by auntytee: 9:07pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Alikaxon: He stoped talking to you bcox of a disagreement. You don't expect him to nag with you, instead, silence is the best answer. I LIKE THIS STRATEGY, [b]it kills women.And marriages too 4 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by dayokanu(m): 9:10pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
auntytee: And marriages too Do you think shouting matches and open confrontations help marriages either 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 9:19pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
shoerack6:He should have set another apartment for the other wife. Two wives living under same roof na wahala only if both wives understand themselves like sisters. But the part where your hubby said you shouldn't speak your language is unfair and not even Islamic, your husband doesn't have the right to ban you from your own language maybe there is more to this your disagreement. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by ypepe: 9:24pm On Jan 02, 2014 |
Since u r married into religion that supports and promotes polygamy, there is not much to do than to lessen ur dependence on him thru financial security. Note that its possible that was d way he was brought up and might c nothing wrong with his action. Get ur elders to talk to him. U and d second wife can actually lay ur complaint to d appropriate pple. U r still very much dependent on him so thread very carefully. I really feel for u. At times u don't blame women for fighting for equality. These things can drive one crazy, I tell ya. Best of luck. 5 Likes |
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