Every relationship is a learning experience. When a relationship ends you should take time to figure out what went wrong and reflect back to what your contribution to the demise of the relationship was.

What could you have done differently? What lessons did you learn or will you take into the next relationship?

For me I think I should have spoken up more. If something was bothering me I held it in and never said a word out of frustration. In the end my partner ended up taking advantage of me.

I no longer do that and I can tell that it has made a difference.

I learned that if it starts off as a jump off keep it a jump off. There was a reason why i started it that way and I should have never tried to turn that looser into a boyfriend.

believe not all the words from her mouth, they could be deceiving. Where you met determines how you're gonnA lose her.

you can't trust these at hoes at all

Well in a sense i learned that i can't be so stubborn. That is truly my biggest fault. I always want to have my way. And if i don't, then i just get this attitude. It is like ridiculous. I mean i know that i need to lighten up, but i just don't do it. Which in the end, i lost that relationship. I learned alot because i still reference all the stupid and idiotic things i did. How i constantly wanted to prove how "strong" i was.  How freaking independent i am. How i don't need no one for anything. And in the end, i was weak. I learned alot from this relationship. And it makes me want to work on my stubborness because it has being getting me in trouble since i was little.

HCH3COO:

you can't trust these at hoes at all

took the words right outta my mouth

DTA
dont trust anybody

dreeldee:

believe not all the words from her mouth, they could be deceiving. Where you met determines how you're gonnA lose her.

How do you mean?

@onyinye -

Yes, being too independent and strong was another thing I had a problem with.

I wanted to prove that I needed no one, so I guess he assumed that he didn't need to be there for me for anything, which led to my greater frustrations.

nalijah07:

@onyinye -

Yes, being too independent and strong was another thing I had a problem with.

I wanted to prove that I needed no one, so I guess he assumed that he didn't need to be there for me for anything, which led to my greater frustrations.

Took the words right out of my mouth. I mean when i think about all the stupid things i wanted to prove, i just start to laugh. It was so ridiculous. I mean i was just being childish. I guess i wanted to prove that i was a strong woman. That i don't need a man to provide for me, take of me because i can do it myself. So he just left. He said that if i want to be independent, then be independent.

onyinye2:

Took the words right out of my mouth. I mean when i think about all the stupid things i wanted to prove, i just start to laugh. It was so ridiculous. I mean i was just being childish. I guess i wanted to prove that i was a strong woman. That i don't need a man to provide for me, take of me because i can do it myself. So he just left. He said that if i want to be independent, then be independent.

So you have already experienced the result of wanting to be independent. You were only forming?  . . hehehe

agaba123:

So you have already experienced the result of wanting to be independent. You were only forming?  . . hehehe

Gini?

onyinye2:

Gini?

I have caught you.

But at least you now know your fault. Work on it

agaba123:

I have caught you.

But at least you now know your fault. Work on it

Oka. . . im not sure what you caught me doing so ummm . . . sure.

I probably in love too hard and too soon and I refused to confront issues, I thought it was best to let it slide.

StephenP:

I probably in love too hard and too soon and I refused to confront issues, I thought it was best to let it slide.

Ahhh poor Stephen.

StephenP:

I probably in love too hard and too soon and I refused to confront issues, I thought it was best to let it slide.

i learned that lesson a long time ago never let it slide. Esp. if they are like me. I like to test my limits and if you let it slide this time i will try it again then again but each time i will push the limit just a little bit more
You have to be firm with your limits and not let them get away with it the first time.

sistawoman:

i learned that lesson a long time ago never let it slide. Esp. if they are like me. I like to test my limits and if you let it slide this time i will try it again then again but each time i will push the limit just a little bit more
You have to be firm with your limits and not let them get away with it the first time.

So did you love that person too much or you had too much trust in that person?

To remain focus and trust myself and also have to be straight forward and use my opportunities when ever it comes.

onyinye2:

So did you love that person too much or you had too much trust in that person?

I am good at calling people out when they cross the line. but I like to cross the line and see how far cross it i can get before they call me out.

That was until i met my husband. Funny thing is now that i think about i have not push any boundaries with him. I am not as subborn as I have been in the past and I am diff. not playing that independent woman role.

I think it is because of the type of man he is. He acknowledged up front that I am independent and that he knows I can do it on my own but that he wants to help me and compliment me. I just let him in, in a way i have never done before. Wow i guess my friends are right, I have changed.

@StephenP -

That is kind of what I was saying (about confronting issues).

@timmfikk-

timmfikk:

and use my opportunities when ever it comes.

What do you mean by this?

sistawoman:

I am good at calling people out when they cross the line. but I like to cross the line and see how far cross it i can get before they call me out.

That was until i met my husband. Funny thing is now that i think about i have not push any boundaries with him. I am not as subborn as I have been in the past and I am diff. not playing that independent woman role.

I think it is because of the type of man he is. He acknowledged up front that I am independent and that he knows I can do it on my own but that he wants to help me and compliment me. I just let him in, in a way i have never done before. Wow i guess my friends are right, I have changed.

Me and you are the complete opposites.

Ah what i mean is to never be slack, imagine your partner cheating on you in your presence, someone you plan to hold on with coz she was a vir, but you discovered she was dis-vir in the midst of people who are like friend with you. what a disgrace it was for me that day , for that reason i said i will not let anyone have such thing across me one more time.

onyinye2:

Me and you are the complete opposites.

Girl,

Please please please believe me when that ONE comes along you will let it go and you wont even realize you did.

sistawoman:


Girl,

Please please please believe me when that ONE comes along you will let it go and you wont even realize you did.

don't think so.

Learn to compromise, cant always have things my way.

If he's stingy run
If he doesn't have his papers, run even further!

The heart xperience eclipse at times.

i learnt that doggy style is what rocks my clit

What does intelligence matter if he is a bullshitter.

i learnt that doggy style is what rocks my clit

ROFL @ chika98