femzy:

topup; you too dey topup your posts, make them shorter

mecussey:

Though, these two questions are comparable; but you can't compare a man with a woman. You see, a matured man can handle that case very well, but a woman, I would advise to leave the guy unless otherwise

mecussey:

@ Topup, women are more emotional, than men and likely to suffer in a relationship like that; than the man her shoes. I just hope you understand what I meant cause I don't like long statement. I can give you examples, if you re curious

topup:

Yes give examples please,

Do you mean on the issue of a sexual relationship, being used for sex is perceived to hurt a female more than a male?

Tweek:

Men get emotionally hurt when they percieve that they've been used. First, they see it as a bruise to their ego. Secondly, if they liked the woman involved they experience a deep disappointment. But, unlike women they get over it fast and silently so u never know.

Honestly, I believe the reason why guys seem to'get over it' so quickly and silently is because they never speak about it or dote on it, now this doesn't mean that they have truly gotten over it. My ex talked about the girl who hurt him, and the expression of pain on his face was still written, whilst I laugh when I realise my past relationship with a guy who left me for another woman, because I truly went through the pain, talked it out and though longer, I actually got over it. Men keep all their pain and hurt inside because it's even worse for your friends to see, you, a man, tear up or show that you have let a female get to you and make you vulnerable, that's the worst for a guy. Whilst a girl is more likely to be open and admit to all her friends, how much her ex hurt her and they comfort her, a guy will not do that, he would be too afraid to lost respect from his friends. I think girls get over it and guys tend to forget. Who knows, both techniques work, I guess

topup:

Honestly, I believe the reason why guys seem to'get over it' so quickly and silently is because they never speak about it or dote on it, now this doesn't mean that they have truly gotten over it. My ex talked about the girl who hurt him, and the expression of pain on his face was still written, whilst I laugh when I realise my past relationship with a guy who left me for another woman, because I truly went through the pain, talked it out and though longer, I actually got over it. Men keep all their pain and hurt inside because it's even worse for your friends to see, you, a man, tear up or show that you have let a female get to you and make you vulnerable, that's the worst for a guy. Whilst a girl is more likely to be open and admit to all her friends, how much her ex hurt her and they comfort her, a guy will not do that, he would be too afraid to lost respect from his friends. I think girls get over it and guys tend to forget. Who knows, both techniques work, I guess

All that crap about smoking, drinking or doing drugs because your friends do is all BS. We are all responsible for our own actions, and we make our own decisions, blaming your lifestyle on the company u keep is a cheap escape in my book, if u don't like it in the first place, why do it?

HR.hotness:

I think the quality of friends are a refection of who u are

Having said that, it is possible to have friends with whom u share little in common, it all has to do with an inner connection.

I believe anyone who allows themselves to change based on the firends they hang out with is innately insecure in themselves, seeking for acceptance. You can be you and still keep your friends (if they are really your friends)

I have all sorts of friends, from the holier than thou types to the ones who are never welcome in most peoples homes. . . what attracts me to them is the person inside. . . I allow myself get influenced only if it is something positive or something I've previously decided I'm willing to indulge in if given the chance.

All that crap about smoking, drinking or doing drugs because your friends do is all BS. We are all responsible for our own actions, and we make our own decisions, blaming your lifestyle on the company u keep is a cheap escape in my book, if u don't like it in the first place, why do it?

Ruby_Pearl:

And that's why I carefully watch out for who I [b]choose [/b]as my friends.

There are too much miserable people on this planet. And you know what they say "Misery needs company".

Some people's life ti di yama yama, they want you to join in, so they won't be the only one crying

forbidden5:

Topu up,

I think you need to be as flexible as water and air. I never want to get beaten. I go ahead to predict the end from the beginning.

In as much as there are chances that a guy may not be the group he hangs out with? Why in the world would you want to bend whom you are for something lower. Principles should be altered to be improved upwards and not turned down.

You Know who you are,
What you are made of
Dont Push It

Once a girl does not meet up what it is, then it is no use.

Bad company will always corrupt good manners either in a minute or for a millenium. In the end the good manner would have been contaminated, beware.

I think you are not a beauty queen-one that men dream of. If you are, then you would not worry

j-girl:

Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are. This doesn't apply to me. I'm an individualistic person so I'm guessing that I'll expect my boyfriend to be individualistic too. I can't date a follow follow person. I need someone who's strong-willed yet gentle.
If i meet his friends and they are complete douche bags, i'm going to simply give him the benefit of a doubt and pray he's nothing like them .

Concur

HR.hotness:

I think the quality of friends are a refection of who u are

Having said that, it is possible to have friends with whom u share little in common, it all has to do with an inner connection.

I believe anyone who allows themselves to change based on the firends they hang out with is innately insecure in themselves, seeking for acceptance. You can be you and still keep your friends (if they are really your friends)

I have all sorts of friends, from the holier than thou types to the ones who are never welcome in most peoples homes. . . what attracts me to them is the person inside. . . I allow myself get influenced only if it is something positive or something I've previously decided I'm willing to indulge in if given the chance.

All that crap about smoking, drinking or doing drugs because your friends do is all BS. We are all responsible for our own actions, and we make our own decisions, blaming your lifestyle on the company u keep is a cheap escape in my book, if u don't like it in the first place, why do it?