My colleague says she has been married for about a year now and has been living together with her husband. She has a good-paying government work while her husband works with a private company.Now,the husband recently got a bigger job that will make him a manager in Abuja. This lady feels that the husband might start misbehaving with other ladies when he re-locates to Abuja far from where they are currently living in Asaba. She also feels is too early in her marriage for them to live apart as they just have a kid. What should she do as she can not leave her work to join her hubby in Abuja an simply believes he might cheat on her once they are not living together.

Anoda wan don come!

Please, beg her for me.
If the man decides to misbehave, LET HET COMMIT SWEEECIDE!
Shikena!

Awon 'death by BLOKOS'!
Shioooor!

Let him go and have the Abuja job he needs it to take care of you and ur child. Remove ur mind from his flirtatious attitude because a cheat will always do whether you live together or not. Face ur job and be happy so as not to develop hypertention @ early age. A word is enough...............

ckc: My colleague says she has been married for about a year now and has been living together with her husband. She has a good-paying government work while her husband works with a private company.Now,the husband recently got a bigger job that will make him a manager in Abuja. This lady feels that the husband might start misbehaving with other ladies when he re-locates to Abuja far from where they are currently living in Asaba. She also feels is too early in her marriage for them to live apart as they just have a kid. What should she do as she can not leave her work to join her hubby in Abuja an simply believes he might cheat on her once they are not living together.

@ your colleague, how would she feel if her husband thought of her this same way if she was the one in his shoes? Where is the trust that is supposed to be in a marriage? Has your hubby given you cause to doubt his faithfulness in the past? You can't eat your cake and have it the same time. If you seriously doubt his faithfulness to you, then discuss with him on the need to either forfeit the new job or you resigning from your present lucrative govt. work to join him @ his new location.

See this woman o! Instead of u to suppprt him with prayers, u are busy complaining over what u don't have power to change.she can also work her postinf now if possible, or rather resign from her place of work if it is worth IT!

The ONLY Woman who is 100% Sure of where her Man is EVERY night is a WIDOW, Stop worrying too much

peggykorol: The ONLY Woman who is 100% Sure of where her Man is EVERY night is a WIDOW, Stop worrying too much

my woman knows where i am at every night and she's not a widow.

ckc: My colleague says she has been married for about a year now and has been living together with her husband. She has a good-paying government work while her husband works with a private company.Now,the husband recently got a bigger job that will make him a manager in Abuja. This lady feels that the husband might start misbehaving with other ladies when he re-locates to Abuja far from where they are currently living in Asaba. She also feels is too early in her marriage for them to live apart as they just have a kid. What should she do as she can not leave her work to join her hubby in Abuja an simply believes he might cheat on her once they are not living together.

why is the man not thinking his wife might cheat? aren't there men in lagos too the wife could sleep with? if she cannot trust her hubby, why did she marry him in the first place?

coogar:

my woman knows where i am at every night and she's not a widow.

She only knows what you said to Her

peggykorol:
She only knows what you said to Her

no, she knows where i am at every hour of the night. some men are straight-forward, no gimmicks.

coogar:

no, she knows where i am at every hour of the night. some men are straight-forward, no gimmicks.

Yeah, not disputing

Somebody please tell her he can stay in Asaba with her and still cheat massively. If she does not trust him, nothing will ever work

Y is she giving herself unnecessary headache,if she cant trust her man y did she marry him even if she resigns n join him in abuja if he want to cheat he wl..what they should do is to always communicate via phone calls n charts and she wl always feel his presence

^^
She don talk am finish.The bottom line is it depends on the man.
She has to choose between her man having the better job and being away or she resigning and moving with him.

Scared bc of blokos?
Lollz! This peeps won't kill me o!

At least there is a solution.
She should buy that blokos protector I saw here few days ago and padlock it b4 he travels. That way she will hv peace.

But do they hv vj protector too?

How long do they intend to stay apart.
As for the cheating part, make she resign follow am join body, while at that..she should drive him to work, pick him up, wear redpant and bra wait for him in the bedroom every day so the guy doesn't cheat.
Hope you gerrit

She is exercising unnecessary fear, and because of that fear, there is a tendency for her to attract what she does not want. 'We create our own realities'. A man who will cheat would cheat. Irrespective of where he lives and with whom.

Let her start looking for a job also in Abuja, because seriously, since her marriage is pretty new, living apart is not really encouraged. I don't know what the 'looking for a job' process is back home. But she can start making enquiries or trying to get a transfer to Abuja with her present job will help out. Families should try and stay together.

Toyinletstalk: She is exercising unnecessary fear, and because of that fear, there is a tendency for her to attract what she does not want. 'We create our own realities'. A man who will cheat would cheat. Irrespective of where he lives and with whom.

Let her start looking for a job also in Abuja, because seriously, since her marriage is pretty new, living apart is not really encouraged. I don't know what the 'looking for a job' process is back home. But she can start making enquiries or trying to get a transfer to Abuja with her present job will help out. Families should try and stay together.

Fantastic post. She should start looking for a job in Abuja. The point is that some women are just insecure and feel all men cheat. Some of them may have had nasty experiences or grew up in homes where the father was a cheat but they just generalise. But the truth is that a man that wants to cheat will always cheat.

Poster, why can't she leave her job? Is that job more important than her marriage?

Obviously resigning would be a stupid as*s decision. Government work with all its uselessness at least brings job security, husband is a private employee that could be sacked anytime; then what?

All posters have given necessary advice. Let her work on getting a transfer down the line to join him. In the mean time they should both work out weekend and holiday visits.

As for me all men but few women cheat in their marriage....my husband is NT a saint either n is NT worth a woman killing ha self fo...in as much as u need to protect ur marriage u dnt need unnesecary tins like dis disturb ur mind else u will grow old before time..remove dis kind of tot from ur hrt n pray for him....