Honestly, If a girl likes a guy and she thinks the guy is a bit slow, she can help the guy out..There are a thousand and one ways she can help him without looking cheap. Most times its the fear of"what will he think of me" or "what will the society say" that dissallows women from letting men know they like them. Invite the guy for a drink or something, and tell him that you have a crush on him, and tell him you think its a really bad idea.. Trust me, he will ask y u think its a bad idea, and then he will tell you how much he likes you.The second way is telling the guy to stop calling you because u don't want to get attached to him....He will tell you why he wants you to get attached..

matrix,honestly i dont think u live in nigeria,or more to the point its easy to type out but if a girl actually asks you out first,how will you look at her. No fronting now,answer the question with your churchmind.

I think ladies don't open up to a guy because, they don't want him to seem like they are cheap commodities. But i think that's just wrong. Everyone should say how they feel, if they are rejected, they should live with it.


I am getting addicted to this site. it's all good. hehe

without any disregard to women, I have had women ask me out. I honestly did not see them as cheap( y won't a girl want to be with me). I am male and all. I like what hot-angel said though. I have gone to parties and girls have sent me their numbers, its really no big deal. Its not what u do, but how u do it. You have to be graceful

Mhmmm...yeah right? And deprive the guy the thrill of chasing me? I don't think so...not anymore anyway

Sure I'd found myself in a situation when I had the hots for a guy...short of carrying a sign that says: " I like you"! The guy was just too dense to catch my drift....or maybe he did and chose to play ignorant cause he felt he had a fanclub (apparently I wasn't the only one vying for his attention) That kinda put the fire out for me..and when he did decide to look my way, it was too late and boy did I have the pleasure to let him know it!

Well its two way thing. Life is tough. If u really want something you have to work for it. Boy or girl.

To the i would never chase a guy or let a guy know i like him ladies work on this scenero if you meet a guy and you fall totally kaput, gaga and madly crazy over him and you suspect strongly that the guy is totally intrested intruged and crazyabout you but this fellow is very shy and he has just 1 week left in the same town with you and the only other thing that can actually make this guy stay in the same town that you are living in right now is if you have to be the one to make the first aggressive move towards both of you dating ( "in short if you dont chase him you loose that chance of being with him, since the guy is extremly shy he would never have the courage to come on too you in a million years unless you do it" ) so what would you do miss i would never chase a guy or let a guy know i like him person please what would you do

Well, I don't think there is any thing wrong for a girl going for the guy she likes. Since there is this saying that "what a man can do, a woman can do better" so i feel that, the confidence that a man have to met a girl and talk to her, i believe females to should have that confidence too to approach the guy of there choice. But it must be be done it their own ways.

For instance, a girl can not just see a guy moving on the street and she start calling her and asking him she love him is not suppose to be so. it must have to be done with brain. and most be some one you have known for some time.

Secondly, you can go for a guy you love through your ways of dealing with him. through you characters to him. I mean the way you act with guy will always convince him that you love him.

I have seen quit some number of girls that have approached me that way. They go as far as buying me somethings i wouldn't expect they would do. i mean they act kindly to me and that made me know they are interested. So i simply continue with the game. I just ask them is "hope you don't have a guy"

Well, I don't think there is any thing wrong for a girl going for the guy she likes. Since there is this saying that "what a man can do, a woman can do better" so I feel that, the confidence that a man have to met a girl and talk to her, I believe females to should have that confidence too to approach the guy of there choice. But it must be be done it their own ways.
hey girls that will do wat you just said are cheap chic i as a lady a made my wish to suffer a guy because they are bad and mean

love4ever, you want to suffer a man abi? My dear I hope you would not end up "suffering" yourself

Let her ride on.
Let's see.

nna, awahoooo, abi na woman go go dey look for a guy or na guy go come to look for the lady.

abeg, make una talk better thing.

well.. its just in the head of the ladies....
they never do it.. cuz like hot_angel said, they might feel cheap. atleast i have never seen one
except in movies.

They got this body language and eye contact thing of telling u,
its all cool anyway.. we are used to it.(guys)

in the begining God made women to be under men so dats the way it is in a everything.

it is not advisable for a lady to ask a guy out cos it will make him treat u like a rag after all u asked him out in the first place , and again it will be ur duty to take care of him not the other way round so girls don,t even think of it

it can go either way although the norm now is for the guy to make the first move

because she would get over him a week later and regret telling him in the first place.

I think the major reason is the fact that our culture does not really encourage a girl to walk up to a guy pronouncing her love, as such a girl would be seen to be wayward.

Such a girl will rather show her affection in some other ways that she feels the man will understand. Take the case of Isaac and rebecca, a sign was used and Isaac understood the sign.

Hmmmm, what an interesting topic! i personally do not have the nerves to ask a guy out(though i have thought of it a thousand times). it's not so much a fear issue as it is a pride issue. i know this guy in my classs who i have been dying to talk to, he's a real hottie but that's not it, he seems inteligent too but i guess if i go talk to him and ask him out, i'll hate my self for doing that cos i don't exaclty take such rejections very well so i'll just retain my pride and bottle up my feelings. somehow, they always fade away.

The girl will soon miss out when she couldn't talk.

Actions speaks louder than voice,so they say.if i really care about a guy and the guy seems not to have interest im me,i will have no choice than to forget about him but if i can feel it that he cares too but cant come out straight,i will have no choice than to let feeling judge us that is if the feelings are there for both of us we will definately understand eachother without anyone of us asking the other out first.............

There's this girl that i met in one cyber three years ago ,i saw three times and i didn't see her again ,i saw her again this year ,but all those years i didn't see her she was still in my mind.But now i have seen her and i told her what i want without mincing words Since then it has been one disappointment to another ,she will give me a date and will not show up ,but i love this girl .When i started to lose interest on her ,she is now came back and told me,that i should convince her that i love her ,but she kept hitting me hard ,dropping my calls to her,using hard tones on me .all sort of things.but she told me one day thats she likes speaking to me and me shouting at her ,that she likes to hear my voice when she is not happy.But she never showed me that she love me or not .and she flashes me everyday. I'm confused about her .What do i do.do i leave her or do i wait for her a little bit more.

because if she let him know, he will start acting like he's all that.

@pharrod , find you an other girl, it since like the girl you talking about doesn't want a relation right now. and she is doing this to you so she can push you away or she don't know what she want

Ladies concider how pretty u think u really are..if u r beautiful..u know it...men will look at u on the street. I dont mean having a fat one behind and infront..those bring sexual attraction, I guess not a bad thing but most atimes...men will look at ur and get pervated due to these wonderful possesions.....Not really cos they love you.
Neverthless, some guys will look at u and wana know u for realy so u gotta know who is real and who is there to play games witht the bobby.....ladies u know where i am going....In any case..I dont think i will tell a girl to ask a guy out unless she has known this guy for a long time, built good confident in the teddy bear relationship. Most atimes it just happens naturally.....so ladies just learn from this and apply it...Guys are sexually foolshish including myself , if u give an ass, we will Bleep the shit out of it..If u present urself in a manner that will show u worth my time, i will treat u like a lady and explore the possibility for a longer relationship. I dont give a dam..

@pharrod,my guy get real and stop dreaming.Why are u troubling yourself over a girl who apparently doesnt give jackshit about you.Dont let her deceive you,she only needs you to comfort her maybe when her real man makes her sad.There are millions of girls out there waiting for you,why kill yourself over one!!.......be a player man,there is enough to go round over and over again,time is short you know,you are growing older and the bible says enjoy your youth while you are still young or are u waiting to enjoy your youth when you are in a wheel chair.Get up man and get moving.
Ova and out

Probably just being SHY

n also maybe doesn't KNOW how to tell him, u know, it's not really easy for gurls to ask a guy out you know, it just doesn't seem RIGHT in a way, just so AWKWARD.

I found it rele quite difficult, the first time I asked a guy out. I mean my heart was beating rele fast,"I was like, you are really good looking, sweet, nice, have gorgeous eyes, and well I like you, wanna go out with me sometime"?, n he was like" Yeah, sure", n we fixed the date and everything, and from then on, started going out together, but it wasn't very easy for me.

I do find it quite easy now tho, asking a guy out, because I know how to go about it, You know, what to say, and not what to say,how to act, and all that, It can be quite easy when you have done it before and got the hang of it.

Coz men are bastard.
Once a girl makes the first move she will be regarded as a cheap LovePeddler.

I see your point Gina,but not all guys think that way. You know there are some guys that are shy too, not all guys are confident, some guys actually like you to approach them first.It actually makes them like you more, cos they know you are confident, and some guys like a confident gurl, or should I say MOST?

Why would a gurl be considered a cheap LovePeddler just because she asked a guy out? that's just not right, not very STRAIGHT thinking, only fools think like that.Why do people think, it's only right for the guy to ask first, I mean the gurl has got every right to ask first too, doesn't rele have to be the guy FIRST.

Well Z4m My dear you are in U.K.
In Nigeria is a different story or should i say in africa.
Right frm day one God made it for the men to ask first.
Is not as if am saying women don't do it right here in nija ,no far frm dat they do but they are very few and men don't appreciate it.
They prefer those ones they go after than the ones that came after them
i hope u get my point.

They believe once a woman start asking a man out, that means she is desperate to lay her hands on any man.

over my dead body to tell a guy that u love him.
they will just take u as granted or that u are a tout.

over my dead body to tell a guy that i love him.
they will just take u as granted or that u are a tout. but some girls did dat. but if i love u, i will not let u know. i thank God that all the guys that i love always love me back. because i don't have the mouth to tell him that i love him.

it is just too abnormal.