Have anyone once had this experience befor, You just met this him or her,and you guys were more than just friends and u guys feel its kool dating each other, will u just pour out ur whole love on him or her just bcoz u cant really do witout him or her, can u really control the emotions of being patience tryn to know him or her more, i think its not really easy cos i found it difficult to control mine xpecially when im in already, what can we do if we can or canot controll it.?

use your spell check next time

tommy2k2:

Have anyone once had this experience befor, You just met this him or her,and you guys were more than just friends and u guys feel its kool dating each other, will u just pour out your whole love on him or her just because u can't really do witout him or her, can u really control the emotions of being patience tryn to know him or her more, i think its not really easy because i found it difficult to control mine xpecially when im in already, what can we do if we can or canot controll it.?

What can I say. . . . . . . . , nothing wrong with expressing urself,

It essentially depends on how well u are able to express urself. . . . .

and I guess u learn how to control ur feelings as time goes on. . . . . .

Somethimes it happens, but be careful. Try to control your feelings. If the other person dosent feel as strong as you do yet dont push him/her. It gets scary when you start making everything so intense at an early stage.

@ Hollandis mind yourself oh.

Ujujoan:


@ Hollandis mind yourself oh.

Uju nwanem keduka ?Tgif
ohhh that? I was giving him a toe in the hole

hollandis:

Uju nwanem keduka ?Tgif
ohhh that? I was giving him a toe in the hole

I'm sure he appreciates but I think you have better things to do. How about calling your girl, I think she has a date with one guy this evening

Ujujoan:

I'm sure he appreciates but I think you have better things to do. How about calling your girl, I think she has a date with one guy this evening

I actually misplaced her number .I have sent her countless emails to no avail

Hi Tommy2k2,

i can confirm what you feel is normal.  however in this world of ours you cannot afford to throw your 'feeling' all around.  why,  the world is evil.  'the heart of men is evil above everything'.   your feelings will be misread, misinterpreted, not reciprocated.  you might even be hurt.  now you do not want that.  What then do you do.  Try to study books, articles written by relationship experts.  we go to school to read and write.  so we read about topics and issues of life.  relationship especially.

i was once like you.  everyone took me for granted.  i just loved the more until,
i met (through) reading this relationship expert Michael Lee.  I took his course.  I read his books.  now i am loved by all.  i even have one of the hottest guys in town!  Believe me,  How, click on http://pinurl.com/d85

hollandis:

I actually misplaced her number .I have sent her countless emails to no avail

Eeyah, its a pity, she's 'doing it' with him. Maybe you dont 'perform' well

As for me,i let that feeling die in me. Am not just bold enuff to 'fess my feeling towards anyone.

nana:

As for me,i let that feeling die in me. Am not just bold enough to 'fess my feeling towards anyone.

better get bold. You can only die once

agaba123:

better get bold. You can only die once

Lmao! Am bold when it comes to telling someone how much i dislike him or her.

Ujujoan:

Eeyah, its a pity, she's 'doing it' with him. Maybe you don't 'perform' well

Yes Maybe
A trial will convince you

nana:

Lmao! Am bold when it comes to telling someone how much i dislike him or her.

Because you do not care about rejection. But the fear of rejection is the begining of cowardice
You are afraid he might not be feeling the same or he might take advantage of you because you started it. That is accepting the position carved for you by society _{and men}

If the feelings are very mutual, there would be no need to control.

agaba123:

Because you do not care about rejection. But the fear of rejection is the begining of cowardice
You are afraid he might not be feeling the same or he might take advantage of you because you started it. That is accepting the position carved for you by society _{and men}

Agaba,free me o. Arghh!

nana:

Agaba,free me o. Arghh!

Abeg agaba no hold you oo

The way I have controlled my feelings in the past were to not focus or think of the person all the time at the beginning. to fill my time with my friends and family and other people. To be careful not to spend too much time with that person.

Start things slow and get to know them. Conversations over the phone limit them to just a couple per day. Dates to 2-3 x's a week after the first 4 weeks. wks 1-4 dates once a week.

By not making my life surround theirs I can slow it down and evaluate it better.

sistawoman:

The way I have controlled my feelings in the past were to not focus or think of the person all the time at the beginning. to fill my time with my friends and family and other people. To be careful not to spend too much time with that person.

Start things slow and get to know them. Conversations over the phone limit them to just a couple per day. Dates to 2-3 x's a week after the first 4 weeks. wks 1-4 dates once a week.

By not making my life surround theirs I can slow it down and evaluate it better.

More like pretending _{thats more severe}

hollandis:

More like pretending _{thats more severe}

No protecting my heart

sistawoman:


No protecting my heart

its already encased in the rib cage so why do you need extra protection?^{emotional protection to start with}

before marriage when i was dating i had a rule:

You could not meet my kids until we have been dating 6 months. Do this forced the r/s to slow down. I think if people took things slower they would find that after the infactuation, surface stuff that you are presented with wears off you will really know how you feel about the person. Most men never made it pass 1st base or 6 weeks.

Thus the need to limit contact. Once you start that I must talk to you, see you everyday thing you feel obligated and start to force the feelings. Just slow it down and protect both parties.

sistawoman:

before marriage when i was dating i had a rule:

You could not meet my kids until we have been dating 6 months.  Do this forced the r/s to slow down.  I think if people took things slower they would find that after the infactuation, surface stuff that you are presented with wears off you will really know how you feel about the person.  Most men never made it pass 1st base or 6 weeks.

Thus the need to limit contact.  Once you start that I must talk to you, see you everyday thing you feel obligated and start to force the feelings.  Just slow it down and protect both parties.

confuzzled
kids You had kids or what

hollandis:

confuzzled
kids You had kids or what

what i ment was before my current marriage.

I met and dated my first husband while in middle school. We met when i was 14 and married at 17. I knew nothing about love and infactuation back then. After that marriage and 3 children i grew a little bit wiser about my choices, plus I did not want my children to see me with this one and that one and waiting 6 months was a good cut off point. Like I said most never made it past 6wks.

current marriage,17,3 children,14years ,"this one"T,cut off point,6months,6 weeks
Now you are begining to scare me !!!!!!!!!

hollandis:

current marriage,17,3 children,14years ,"this one"T,cut off point,6months,6 weeks
Now you are begining to scare me !!!!!!!!!

lol

[Tell me your age

hollandis:

current marriage,17,3 children,14years ,"this one"T,cut off point,6months,6 weeks
Now you are begining to scare me !!!!!!!!!

She was first married when she was 17, had kids. Not married to that person anymore and is married to someone different now.
What's scary about that?

hollandis:

[Tell me your age

33

Keep in mind i just got married almost 3 months ago now. And after i kicked my first husband out I did not date for over a year. I just focused on me, my children, my job and my business.

sistawoman:


33

Keep in mind i just got married almost 3 months ago now. And after i kicked my first husband out I did not date for over a year. I just focused on me, my children, my job and my business.

kicked what!!!!!!
From your location you are not based in Nigeria _{i see}
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