What exactly is a "proper Nigerian" wife?

Just tell him you cant see your period. that would be the last time you would see him.

Or you got born again or You joined the abstinence club He would be off immediately

Hope4ever:

I do not want to give away too many details of my life but I love him with all heart.

I have spent the past week crying my eyes out because I do not want to say goodbye.

I wish that there was another way for us to stay together.

He is divorced but I do not think that he is really divorced in his heart.

We have been seeing each other for 1 year now.

He said to me at lunch two weeks ago that he wants to marry me and take me home to meet his sister.

He wants his sister to show me how to be a proper Nigerian wife.

He says once I become a proper Nigerian wife that he will introduced me to his exwife as her junor wife?

How can a Christan talk like this?

I have to say goodbye but I love him so much and I keep hoping that the will change his mind and love me so much that he will want only me.

Everytime I see him all of this disappears and all that matters is that I love him and I am complete when he is with me.

Can he change if I hang in there?

He has his papers so that is not the reason we are dating or why he wants to marry me.

Why do women find it very very hard to read the hand writing on the wall?

@rubi,

I have read her posts, both, a couple of times and I dont see the handwritting on the wall. It looks like this guy just sprung this on her all of a sudden. If i met a guy and he was divorced i would never imange that at some point he is going to want me to be his jr. wife. Or is this something that is common among Nigerian men?

Please let me know, my hubby also has an exwife, should i be expecting this from him?

sistawoman:



Please let me know, my hubby also has an exwife, should i be expecting this from him?

everyone is different remember, i am sure your hubby loves you to much 2 wanna bring uncertainty into your world.

jay bee:

everyone is different remember, i am sure your hubby loves you to much 2 want to bring uncertainty into your world.

Yeah, rite

@ Uche2nna

What makes you say that?

was about to ask the same question.
a very bold stance if u ask me.

my assumption is based on the fact that sistawoman is always trying to update herself on nigerian culture so she can take gud care of the man she loves. Now if you ask me, a woman that isn't getting nuff love wouldn't be going thru such stress

Its simple!! Just call him tell him this relationship is heading nowhere fast and the sooner you both end it the better and if you feel you don't have enough guts to tell him to his face then do it over the phone

I hardly get upset by post on NL
but i feel bad right now

Look sweetie , run, run, run
i have always had the opinion that certain naija men are meant for certain naija women,
This men who are not open with the way they feel, born with a hard heart
need women who are born with a hard heart too or who have learnt this hard heart from thier older folks
Women who will not fail to use the cane (pun intended) whenever he messes up
he respects such women,
Look you are a straight forward person and he does not deserve you , believe me if you do a proper investigation.
HE IS NOT DIVORCED!( at least not properly)

let him go , refuse being his pillow!
proper naija wife my foot !!!!, if he thinks u are not good nof 4 his sorry ass, break it off.

horny4u:

HE IS NOT DIVORCED!( at least not properly)

This is the gospel truth

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horny4u:

I hardly get upset by post on NL
but i feel bad right now

Look sweetie , run, run, run
i have always had the opinion that certain naija men are meant for certain naija women,
This men who are not open with the way they feel, born with a hard heart
need women who are born with a hard heart too or who have learnt this hard heart from their older folks
Women who will not fail to use the cane (pun intended) whenever he messes up
he respects such women,
Look you are a straight forward person and he does not deserve you , believe me if you do a proper investigation.
HE IS NOT DIVORCED!( at least not properly)
let him go , refuse being his pillow!
proper naija wife my foot !!!!, if he thinks u are not good nof 4 his sorry ass, break it off.

How do I properly investigate?

dear friend, i will advice you to run as fast as your legs can carry you. you are lucky to ve people with good susgestion. imagine if you were stuck up with him and you never had anyone to talk to. you will feel so miserable. dont allow this kind of love to put you in a mess and before you realise it, it is too late to quit. you can be better off without him. BE BRAVE AND COURAGIOUS.