I love him so much but am not sure of him because of the lies he has been telling me.My boyfriend and i have been 2gether 4 the past 3years,he already has a child and wit that i still love him. Am not angry that he goes to see the mother of his baby,but the way he took it looks as if he is playing me,he promise 2 have me as his wife,but whenever he goes to see her,he deletes my number from his phone and change her name to my heart,then he will divert his calls,when i confront him,he will tell me that it was the girl who did such,he still sends her love text although he said he will not marry her cos she is 8-9 years older than him. Am not against his going to see her but why for heaven sake should he hide things from me?is it that he does not want me again or what? Each time i confront him on this issue, he would tell me not to do anything stupid that he knows what he is doing. for now i dont know what to do cos the way he does things to her seems he still loves her.and besides he is my first love and i have never cheat on him ever since i became his lover and he is the only one i have ever had sex with. I still love him but dont trust his words anymore. My dear nairaland pls what do u think i should do?should i let him go or continue with the sad relationship?pls i need ur advise

Sweetie sorry about hw you feel, but i think you should let him go,If he is still sending her love txt mesgs and all tht then i dont think it will stop even if he gets married to you.He is a very horrible guy let him go,it will hurt but i tell u,u will get over it and you will be fine.

sorry nance

nance:

I love him so much but am not sure of him because of the lies he has been telling me.My boyfriend and i have been 2gether for the past 3years,he already has a child and wit that i still love him. Am not angry that he goes to see the mother of his baby,but the way he took it looks as if he is playing me,he promise 2 have me as his wife,but whenever he goes to see her,he deletes my number from his phone and change her name to my heart,then he will divert his calls,when i confront him,he will tell me that it was the girl who did such,he still sends her love text although he said he will not marry her because she is 8-9 years older than him. Am not against his going to see her but why for heaven sake should he hide things from me?is it that he does not want me again or what? Each time i confront him on this issue, he would tell me not to do anything stupid that he knows what he is doing. for now i don't know what to do because the way he does things to her seems he still loves her.and besides he is my first love and i have never cheat on him ever since i became his lover and he is the only one i have ever had sex with. I still love him but don't trust his words anymore. My dear nairaland please what do u think i should do?should i let him go or continue with the sad relationship?please i need ur advise

why should you be sad in a relationship and continue? Life is too short to leave it in misery my dear. I dont see any respect for you from this guy at all. She is still his heart? Girl think with your head. You dont want to go because he disvirgined you eh? so what?

those wey get bom bom no dey always sabi how to use am sidon


while those wey no get go always dey wish say dem get.



leave the guy go find better person wey go love only you

@ nance,
I'd advice you to walk away from this relationship as fast as possible. Obviously, this guy doesn't care a hoot about you. You are definitely the other woman. His real girlfriend (sorry, that's what his child's mother is to him) doesn't know you exist, he hides you from her because he really cares about her.

Look, for all I can see, this guy most probably goes on his knees every time he goes to see her and begs her to come back to his life otherwise, why on earth does he delete your phone number and saves her own name as my heart?
He diverts your calls when he's with her and he lies to you.
Sorry girl, but truth is that this guy simply took away your virginity and enjoys having sex with you, he's prolly a lot older than you. What you are to him is a 'intimacy gadget' and nothing else. It's very easy for him to manipulate you since he's your first.

Please take a leap otherwise, when this is over *Trust me, it will be soon*, you'll feel abused, used, dumped and even ugly. It will take a while to gain your self confidence back. But if you do the dumping now, you'll hurt, but you'll hurt more if you wait for him to dump you and go to his Baby's Mama.

I have to agree w/ everyone else. You should dump the guy. A relationship should make you happy and not sad.

There is no way my man could tell me that another woman took his phone from him and deleted my number and changed her name to my heart in HIS phone. What was he doing while she did all of this? have you met the baby mama or the child?

I know, God do i know, how hard it is to think with your head and not follow your heart. The pain that you know you will feel if/when you end it with him is enough to make a person stay in a relationship but the truth is you cant find the one unless you walk away. For yourself and your sanity you have to walk away.

Find a support system and rely on them to support you thru the tears and heart break, your heart will hurt but it will also heal.

nance:

I love him so much but am not sure of him because of the lies he has been telling me.My boyfriend and i have been 2gether for the past 3years,he already has a child and wit that i still love him. Am not angry that he goes to see the mother of his baby,but the way he took it looks as if he is playing me,he promise 2 have me as his wife,but whenever he goes to see her,he deletes my number from his phone and change her name to my heart,then he will divert his calls,when i confront him,he will tell me that it was the girl who did such,he still sends her love text although he said he will not marry her because she is 8-9 years older than him. Am not against his going to see her but why for heaven sake should he hide things from me?is it that he does not want me again or what? Each time i confront him on this issue, he would tell me not to do anything stupid that he knows what he is doing. for now i don't know what to do because the way he does things to her seems he still loves her.and besides he is my first love and i have never cheat on him ever since i became his lover and he is the only one i have ever had sex with. I still love him but don't trust his words anymore. My dear nairaland please what do u think i should do?should i let him go or continue with the sad relationship?please i need ur advise

like honestly, . . . . . . . wen willl pple(poster for example)start having sense?

4 your own sanity sake . . .its best you walk away now because i CAN GUARANTEE that he ain't gonna marry you gal . . .Darn . . . .read the hand writing on the wall . . .please.

Why be in a sad relatioship, when you can get something so much better? This same thing happened to me, he was so much into his ex telling me they were only friends. Until I caught him red handed thru a love text he sent.

I suggest you begin to disassociate yourself from him phsically and emotionally. it may not be easy, but you have to do it. He is simply a good riddance to bad rubbish!

The guy is a liar.

you want to the truth then run for your dear heart, he's not worth the trouble my dear no man is worth that trust and sacrifice there's someone else that values your luv just go find him.

@ poster is a pitty, but in cases like that you should know what to do without being told.
What is his mind when sending her love mesages? that alone should tells u that he still have feelign for her.
Shine your eye oh,

Oh but we all know that the heart can blind ones eyes and render a brilliant person dumb.

nance:

I still love him but don't trust his words anymore. My dear nairaland please what do u think i should do?should i let him go or continue with the sad relationship?please i need ur advise

no more trust yet stil in luv? . am sure u r a bit relivd nw dt u've spewed out watz on ur mind. do wat u gotta do n move out of dt sad box. bol!

Oh Nance, I'm heartbroken. This guy doesn't love you, but since he's your first it's going to be the battle of your life to actually let him go. You might decide you will, until he comes over and your heart melts and you lie to yourself that he really loves you, and you stay with him. Till he breaks your heart. And he will, Nancy. Leave now, while you're in a position of strength. It will be terribly hard, the hardest thing you've ever done, but have a game plan. Surround yourself with friends and activities. You'll think of him, and you'll want to call him, but gradually, you'll forget him, and then you'll start wondering what you ever saw in him. I've never had a bad experience with guys, and actually have more of them as friends than females because they're so focussed and life is more than marriage and babies and the latest stuff, but I do have girlfriends who've been in bad relationships and I learnt from them. NEVER date a man who lies to you. However hurtful, the truth is always best. You deserve a relationship of mutual respect and trust and emotional integrity. Attempt great things with your life, and it will attract the most incredible men. Believe me,the right one will come along. Let the liar go, Nance.

@ poster
Did you honestly think that people on here would tell you to stay? i wonder if you are actually reading the replies that people have left for you.

What exactly does this guy have to do to you before you realize that you are the girl he is cheating on his woman with.
I understand that love is hard but there comes a time when you have to grow up and stop letting peple abuse you.

One Word Sista,

RUN

some ladies amaze me just because of love, in ur heart of heart u no very well that this guy does not love but still because of love u are blinded by dat fact. it's just crazy,even if we advice u to leave him dat he is just playing u, u still wud not. so my dear bear ur cross until u are ready to do the rit thing. Benbenards

Pls let him go cos he does not love, he only use u as intimacy gadget am talking from experience dump him now
All the best

Hi Nance, i understand how u feel but one thing u should know is that this guy doesn't love u so let him go cos even if he marrys u,my dear u will still remain sad cos u dont trust him any more.

thank u all 4 ur contribution