I’d had serious relationships before meeting my
fiance, with a couple lasting for years. I thought I
was an adult; I thought I knew how to be a great
girlfriend. Meeting someone I had a serious
connection with taught me that nothing I had
experienced before was real. True love feels
different than casual relationships – even if those
relationships lasted for years (often well past their
expiration date!). When you’re in a good
relationship, you learn things. You act differently;
you think as part of a team, not as an individual
making your way through the world. You’ll be
more understanding and accepting of your
partner, instead of just getting frustrated with
them like you may have with past relationships.



1. MISUNDERSTANDINGS ARE
INEVITABLE.
Misunderstandings are going to happen. If you
take your partner’s words one way, then learn
they meant something totally different, don’t
punish them. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time
is only going to bruise the relationship and cause
communication problems later. Sometimes what
you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and
you’ll get frustrated that your partner doesn’t
understand. Take a step back and realize it’s not
a big deal. Misunderstandings are made to be
swept under the rug because they’re so minor.
They only become problems if you let them grow
bigger and mean more in the scope of your
relationship. Be laid back and forgive
misunderstandings.



2. LEARN TO TRUST THEM.
You have to trust your partner. Why would you
share your life with someone when you think
they’re doing something wrong every time you
turn your back? If you don’t trust your partner to
be faithful, honest, caring, or anything else, then
you’re not in a good relationship. The best
relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if
problems come up (and they will!), the trust is
strong enough to keep you together.



3. LET YOURSELVES MISS EACH OTHER.
You’re in love, so you want to be together all the
time! It’s so fun to cuddle all night and be
together all day, but when will you have time to
experience different things? When you go to
separate workplaces or schools, you experience
things that will give you something to talk about
later. When you go out with your friends and your
partner spends time with theirs, you have time
and space to yourself and come back to each
other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each
other, and it helps you really understand the value
of your relationship. Missing someone is great
because getting to see them after that period will
make you so happy and so sure of your
relationship.



4. ENCOURAGE GROWTH AND CHANGE.
In a good relationship, both partners are
encouraged to grow and change. You have one
life to live – you should explore it to the fullest! If
you want to quit your job and go back to school,
your partner should support you. If you want to
try something new or go back to something old,
you should find support in your relationship. And
you should give this support in return. Encourage
your partner to explore hobbies and interests and
meet new people. If you want your partner to stay
the same, you’re going to have a very boring life
together.



5. COMPROMISING DOESN’T MEAN
YOU’RE WEAK.
Compromising doesn’t mean “giving in.” It
doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fight. In fact,
it’s the opposite. Do you know how hard it is to
compromise sometimes? You want your way
because it sounds right and makes sense to you.
Your partner is way off base with their
suggestions. Take a step back and look at the
argument diplomatically. What’s the logical
conclusion? If your partner is right, don’t be
afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both
of your solutions to be half and half. The
important thing is not getting your way, it’s
staying in your relationship and helping it grow.
Compromising will definitely help your relationship
grow.


6. ADMIT YOUR WEAKNESSES.
Your partner doesn’t expect you to be a
superhero, and hopefully you don’t expect that of
them! We’re all human; we all have flaws. It’s ok
to let these show. In fact, to have a stable,
serious relationship, you need to let your
weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more
sensitive to things that bother you, and can help
build you up in areas where you need some help.



7. SOMETIMES YOU CAN ONLY ACCEPT
THINGS, NOT FIX THEM.
People have baggage. You have some. Your
partner has some. Can you go back and erase all
of this? Nope! You’re stuck with it, and have to
learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to
get over than others, but the reality is that
sometimes, you can’t fix things. You can’t make
problems go away. You have to accept them and
get over them and move on, or else your
relationship will crumble.




8. FORGIVE QUICKLY AND TRULY.
Whenever you have a fight, don’t worry about
who wins or who loses. Learn from the fight –
from what was said as much as from how it was
resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can
apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid
trouble later. That’s all well and good, but you’re
not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself.
The fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go.
Never hold anything against your partner because
the resentment will build until you don’t want to
be with them.






9. NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, or
to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash
the dishes. It’s not going to happen. You can’t
expect anything from anyone – you have to make
it known. Communicate. Make sure your partner
knows what you expect from the relationship, as
well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues.
This will help them act considerate towards you,
but still – don’t expect anything!




10. SHOW YOUR FEELINGS.
The worst thing you can do in a relationship is
play games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t
“reward” good deeds with love and affection. You
have to make sure your partner always feels
loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at
them – it doesn’t matter – they just need to feel
loved. They need to know your feelings in the
moment as well, don’t get me wrong. But make
sure you’re showing your feelings in a way that
they won’t be misunderstood

http://themindunleashed.org/2014/07/youre-good-relationship-learn-10-things.html

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Very deep and mature

Okay

nice one

Nice. I agree with all the points raised.

OP, try and arrange your post very well so that it can be easy and pleasing to the eyes to read.

MizMyColi: I see the future of this post. However, you might wanna space out your points. It'd allow for easy reading

thank you so much....... I have just done that...thanks!!!

Dats it bravo!

4, 5, 6, 9 simply does it.