We were discussing Domestic abuse today, so one of my proff hinted to us a little secret.

She said the best way of finding the right man, is not by sitting and waiting, but by waiting for him.

Looking for him, meaning, to explore many men before you settle with one. Make sure he's the one you really want, and let him be sure you're the one he really wants. By doing so, it prevents high rate increase of divorce.

Exploring Includes:
. Date (not a spend on me date, but a let's go to the movies, come over let's talk, let's get to know each other better date)
. Become best friend, make sure you're not afraid to tell him anything
. Get to know him better.

Marriage is not all about romance and sex, it's also a union of friendship. A marriage between two people that are best friends tends to last long, right? Over the years, sex and romance gets worn out, but friendship keeps the marriage stronger.
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Question is, Do you really know him/her? Can you tell him or her anything?
Is he/she your friend enough to be considered for marraige? Or do you still feel the need to explore?[/size]

honestly, you can't because people are not constant they do change, so he might be the best everything in the world but once married he becomes the next worst thing in life. the idea of dating or courting doesnt really make any difference, because some people have a PH.D in pretending, they will hide their true colors then once married u will start seeing  RED.  isnt this the reason why most people always say "oh he wasnt like that when we were dating he just totally changed" just like when men want sex they will say or do anything in the world for u but once they get between ur legs you now considered "far back"

true word sis

thats the truth

true pple change. . .either 4 berra or 4 worse. nofin substitutes 4 frndshp b4 n in marriage. dere u r free 2b ursef, xplore ur worlds 2geda, air watz on ur mind, understand n b undastood, dsagree 2 agree.
efryday (evn d bad tymz) is fun wen u indeed hook up wt ur 'frnd'.

yea,in every marriage (in quote) it gets to a point in time when u just get tired of d whole tin even ur partner,dats where d foundation of such marriage can be tested,if dey are very gud frends den with der frendship dey could be able to blend well n gradually bring bak d romance.

it realy pays to be gud frends

Sure he willchange and so will you. The bottom line is that you can only pretend so much. You just have to know what his core beliefs are.

@ topic is right on the money on the friendship thingy

25%more:

honestly, you can't because people are not constant they do change, so he might be the best everything in the world but once married he becomes the next worst thing in life. the idea of dating or courting doesnt really make any difference, because some people have a PH.D in pretending, they will hide their true colors then once married u will start seeing  RED.  isnt this the reason why most people always say "oh he wasnt like that when we were dating he just totally changed" just like when men want sex they will say or do anything in the world for u but once they get between ur legs you now considered "far back"

i also agree with the above post , but if  you are serious  about someone, and you feel  he might be the one , then nothing should stop you from testing or gauging his reactions to certain situations to know who he really is on the inside!

Outstrip:

Sure he willchange and so will you. The bottom line is that you can only pretend so much. You just have to know what his core beliefs are.

gbam!

25%more:

honestly, you can't because people are not constant they do change, so he might be the best everything in the world but once married he becomes the next worst thing in life. the idea of dating or courting doesnt really make any difference, because some people have a PH.D in pretending, they will hide their true colors then once married u will start seeing  RED.  isnt this the reason why most people always say "oh he wasnt like that when we were dating he just totally changed" just like when men want sex they will say or do anything in the world for u but once they get between ur legs you now considered "far back"

The kwesion is:
Who/what doesn't change?
Whether the person changes for good/bad is your fate and that
is why Friendship before a relationship/marriage is of cardinal significance.

*Morenike:

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Question is, Do you really know him/her? Can you tell him or her anything?
Is he/she your friend enough to be considered for marraige? Or do you still feel the need to explore?[/size]

Can I tell him/her anythin'?Why not if he has proven to be some1 worth bein' told?
It's advisable to establish friendship first before relationship or marriage.
The first thin' is . . . . what do you call friendhip?It's more than spendin' time together.

Morenike3:
We were discussing Domestic abuse today, so one of my proff hinted to us a little secret.

She said the best way of finding the right man, is not by sitting and waiting, but by waiting for him.

Looking for him, meaning, to explore many men before you settle with one. Make sure he's the one you really want, and let him be sure you're the one he really wants. By doing so, it prevents high rate increase of divorce.

Exploring Includes:
. Date (not a spend on me date, but a let's go to the movies, come over let's talk, let's get to know each other better date)
. Become best friend, make sure you're not afraid to tell him anything
. Get to know him better.

Marriage is not all about romance and sex, it's also a union of friendship. A marriage between two people that are best friends tends to last long, right? Over the years, sex and romance gets worn out, but friendship keeps the marriage stronger.
[size=13pt]
Question is, Do you really know him/her? Can you tell him or her anything?
Is he/she your friend enough to be considered for marraige? Or do you still feel the need to explore?[/size]

mumu