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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Kessleek(m): 11:53am On Sep 24, 2014
ronald4lif:

This thread is uncalled for, if you follow Eze's thread carefully you will realise that majority of the guys aren't complaining of spending on their women but rather demands that women shouldn't reject getting laid provided a guy sorts her or some of her bills. And as per your post I don't know your gender but if it turns out that you are a lady then it's disheartening to openly admits that ladies shouldn't indulge in sex if their guys doesn't spend on them. Just a quick reminder of what the term prostitute means "A prostitute is a sex worker who willingly engages in sexual encounters for monetary or material gains". Am I right to conclude that (judging by your logic) you and every other girl out there who only agrees to get laid by her boyfriend/man only when she gets financial favours from him is a prostitute, or in subtle phrase a potential prostitute? Please correct me if I am wrong. Thanks

Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by iceberylin(m): 11:54am On Sep 24, 2014
Jasi7:

Very annoying....i hate it when they give me such impressions!
ÚŔ ŦĔĔĹĨŃĞ MŶ PÁĨŃ angry
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Jasi7(m): 11:56am On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd:

And what is more annoying is; if no sex, then no spending!!!

I don see say u no well...shey u go like dey spend make u no dey see okpono collect abi...no dey come here dey form one thing,how u go say make we dey spend and get nothing...abeg no bring that leg o
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Daresh(f): 11:57am On Sep 24, 2014
soldierdollar: Am sure this girl has disgraced all the girls reading this post. grin
They will be like , " are we prostitutes ?" cheesy

God bless you

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by tonte(m): 11:58am On Sep 24, 2014
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They see it as a weapon also...not only as a favour
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by CyracksMrBlogger(m): 11:59am On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd:
Na you give me my pu.nani?? Or boobi??
na only u dey enjoy d thing?
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Jasi7(m): 12:00pm On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd:
Na you give me my pu.nani?? Or boobi??

If na like that then cari ur pu.nani and boobi dey go na...shuuuu,shey na only u get am?
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by CyracksMrBlogger(m): 12:00pm On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd:
You take spending on your lovely girlfriend a favour? undecided
why not, she will be the only one spending the money.
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by stan241(m): 12:09pm On Sep 24, 2014
To me spending on a girl i claim to 'love' aint a big deal cus i knew abt the flip sides that comes with relationship s these days and she too shld knw without my asking her that the minute she says yes to me, at some point in the relationship we'd have to consummate the relationship.....my opinion though
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by phabulous88(m): 12:12pm On Sep 24, 2014
People in relationships ought to care about themselves. If you like her to date her, then you should care about her needs and that involves encouraging her in every facets of her life – educationally, spiritually, physically, personally and professionally, not just encouraging her punny.

Guys if you've got, support her if you don’t have, hustle harder and let her know. I, for one, support my girlfriend. She works but doesn't earn much. Sometimes she wonna buy stuffs but only have a %, I complete it for her. Other times I give her some and she tells me she doesn't need it. And girls please learn to make your own money, that way you are independent and command respect. Stop exploiting every intimate session to ask for money – that’s likening yourselves to prostitutes. Intimacy should be a mutual thing and should be enjoyed by both parties.

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Nobody: 12:12pm On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd: In response to Ezegozie, I created this thread!
I am really asking because i think some Girls are being used to achieve Sexual needs.

Take for instance, a student that is probably not going to marry in the next 5yrs.
And he is in a so called relationship; he doesn't spend on her, no allowance, yet a bleepful (sexful) relationship and every other sexual activities.
But she washes his clothes, does every domestic chores around his home and also satisfies his private needs!

Let me ask you officially

what do you gain from such a parasitic relationship ?

For the Boys, If you are not ready to spend on her, why are you ready to demand for sex?

is sex a favor?
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Nobody: 12:14pm On Sep 24, 2014
davidflipcy: When has it become a responsibility for a guy to spend on his Gf angry
1900 BC
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Mistermamus(m): 12:14pm On Sep 24, 2014
fairygeh: Honestly this post is disheartening, in as much as I am a lady, I disagree with the op.abeg don't let guys view we ladies like i never chop.if you want to have sex with ur guy please do irrespective of whether he gives you money or not....common,only poor girls or better still pr ostitutes expect money in return for sex. Hard working ladies would never expect to gain money from a relationship except trust, happiness,joy,a long lasting relationship,a home,a family etc
3 gbosa for u. nice one tell em!
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 24, 2014
davidflipcy: When has it become a responsibility for a guy to spend on his Gf angry
Yeah ,I remember, Dat was 1845 AD
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Nobody: 12:20pm On Sep 24, 2014
Mistermamus: 3 gbosa for u. nice one tell em!
Ear !!! them no get .
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by cyzor(f): 12:23pm On Sep 24, 2014
U guys are all missing the point here. A lot of ladies are in relationships where their partners don't even have one naira to their name, yet they constantly demand sex. The men may want to marry them but cannot afford to. So what does d lady stand to gain here.

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Mistermamus(m): 12:23pm On Sep 24, 2014
CharmO1: I truly wanted to read and pass but I just feel I ought to comment directly. First, ladies please get a job or engage in business. In Uni I was selling okrika clothes and shoes. Why have a bf just to beg for things? That's the fastest way to be insulted. Then guys, if a girl asks for money everytime, give her 100yards. But if she asks occasionally, try and help if you can. A cousin of mine dha a gf who he was sleeping with and another he was spending money on. He claimed the one he spent on was "an expensive chick". Meanwhile that expensive chick was getting ready to marry someone else. The other girl he was using wised up and left him. Now she is married. This made me dislike that my cousin 'til today. This whole sex before marriage thing is even wrong but if you must indulge please do it with a clear mind. Ladies, the men aren't ATM. Guys the ladies aren't s3ks toys. Respect each other and live a life you would be proud of in your old age.
hw I wish most of young ladies can reason like diz matured lady tinx for dey ok in d society
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by pickabeau1: 12:23pm On Sep 24, 2014
Women have now come up with a rebuttal

Why buy the pig, when you can get the sausage for free

All is fair in love

zboyd: AIn other words...why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?

Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by zboyd: 12:28pm On Sep 24, 2014
Not trying to be mean, but...generally speaking... over here, the only girls I know that ask men for regular allowances, money for manicures, pedicures, cell phones, to get their hair done, buy clothing, undies, pay their bills, etc. are the ones you wouldn't dare take home to meet your parents. Women, other than that don't expect such things and don't ask for such things.

As for the men who come out of their pockets and bankroll these women, they rarely take them seriously or marry them. Such men are considered 'tricks'....just like desperate men, ugly men or old men. As a matter of fact, the propensity of Nigerian/African men (especially the ones from wealthy families) to bestow monetary favors on such women over here is why these women usually consider them 'tricks'...easy marks...stupid. And mind you, these hookups are not necessarily motivated by 'papers'. Some of these low-class women end up with high-end cars, houses, eye-popping jewelry, designer clothing, etc....but they're still low-class. And...at the end of the day, these Naija men will rarely marry them.

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by zboyd: 12:31pm On Sep 24, 2014
pickabeau1: Women have now come up with a rebuttal

Why buy the pig, when you can get the sausage for free

All is fair in love


Actually, it's mothers over here that tell their daughters that...as a way of making them think twice or thrice...before dropping their panties for a man.
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by pickabeau1: 12:36pm On Sep 24, 2014
zboyd:

Actually, it's mothers over here that tell their daughters that...as a way of making them think twice or thrice...before dropping their panties for a man.


How does that make them think twice

I see it as women taking back the power in a relationship centred around sex
Why marry when you can have a booty call
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Rapmoney(m): 12:39pm On Sep 24, 2014
Lordave: I never like plenty post for one thread like this before!

Remain blessed brother!

You see, that is the kind of mentality that makes our girls not wanting to do anything, and most of them virtually end up being a lazy house wife.
Demanding girls can sleep with anybody when her boyfriend is broke!

Thanks bro. U be correct guy!
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Iyineda(m): 12:42pm On Sep 24, 2014
The OP just summed up my reluctance to dating Nigerian girls (in general).
I know they don't all reason like that (allowance? lol, I choked out of laughter seeing that) but in a way most girls I have met in the cities of PH and Lagos tend to lean towards that mentality.
It is like it is forbidden for the lady to even suggest to pay for dinner or even a movie. Anything monetary is expected to be sorted by the dude.

Quite the archaic way of thinking, heh?
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by TS2(m): 12:47pm On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd: In response to Ezegozie, I created this thread!
I am really asking because i think some Girls are being used to achieve Sexual needs.

Take for instance, a student that is probably not going to marry in the next 5yrs.
And he is in a so called relationship; he doesn't spend on her, no allowance, yet a bleepful (sexful) relationship and every other sexual activities.
But she washes his clothes, does every domestic chores around his home and also satisfies his private needs!

Let me ask you officially

what do you gain from such a parasitic relationship ?

For the Boys, If you are not ready to spend on her, why are you ready to demand for sex?

Why are you girls so parasitically and manipulatively minded? Why do you also always have to paint a picture that you are the victims of men's schemes? This sex thing pls is it only men that enjoy sex?

You say she washes and does domestic stuff? How many times have you washed your man's clothes? Why do you make it seem like these are things so impossible for men to do themselves? Is it a babe that has a job that will come and be washing your plates?

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by onadana: 12:50pm On Sep 24, 2014
I don,t understand all the hullabaloo......it is all context.....I have met the most expensive babe and laid her without a dime.Same too with the ordinary babe...i no drop kobo.I see giving as a free will....i understand how some guys feel...you have being turned into an ATM machine...but this is a two way thing..... i grew up with the mentality that i must be paid for my service...i was the one doing all the hard work...so the ladies pay for my service..you see what i mean...what do you call a man who lays ladies for economic reasons...it a two way thing it all depends on context and individuals and moreover some guys too do..from day one you dey act as ATM machine tomorrow you come complain.Also what happens to going out with working class ladies when both are working and giving, the relationship is symbiotic not parasitic. grin

Some guys want it sharp sharp..that is where the principle of 'a man's gift maketh a way...........'(complete it)
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by NOLONGTIN1(m): 12:51pm On Sep 24, 2014
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I almost skipped this post, till I saw 300 likes.

You made a lot of sense but diminished it with this childish font. IMO
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by tmanuelle(m): 1:06pm On Sep 24, 2014
freshness2020: No one should expect anything from each other. Be it the lady or man! It should be based on a free will term! The problem is "expectation".. When ♈όϋ live a life of not expecting anything from anybody in whatever regard, I bet ♈όϋ will live happier!
It shouldn't be on a basis of "as I give, I must get in return".
Let's try and live above that mentality !

You have made my day

I wish I can single-handedly give you a million likes

Thanks so much
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Nobody: 1:21pm On Sep 24, 2014
LifeIsGuhd: Agreed!

Spending on your girlfriend (if you really love her) is something you should enjoy doing, but Nigerian gentlemen see it as a favour which is really annoying angry

And what is more annoying is; if no sex, then no spending!!!
why should 'no sex,no spending' b more annoying? or u want to just be collecting money for nothing abi?
Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by StoneColdBiceps(m): 1:50pm On Sep 24, 2014
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Just as local govt chairmen will do gutter and dey bé bragging like dey did favour to d community. #irony #mentality

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Re: What Do Girls Gain In A Relationship Without Allowance Or Money From Their Bfs by Glo4issy(f): 1:51pm On Sep 24, 2014
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