Delay is dangerous! What factors cause delay in marriages?
Is it spiritual problem?


Weather you believe me or not this is a problem that has eaten deep into many Nigerian families. Every parent is happy and fulfiled seeing their children get married and carry their grand children while they're alive, but unfortunately late marriages has denied parents this expectation. Here in my south south, its very predominant. This days you see very beautiful and sexy rich ladies still remain single, worst is the kind of aura they carry around them you can't even go close or aproach them, or be ready to face the insult n embarrasment from them!

I think one of the key factors causing delay of marriage in men is the cash, you don't wono buy a car you can't service efficiently, like u knw the women are "care receivers" so the man must be ready for her before bringing her in or be ready to live a mediocre life forever. #fact. But however there are other factors.

...One of such factors is waiting for MR RIGHT or MR PERFECT.

In this forum I beg to ask us what causes delay in marriages and what are the solutions to this endemic problem? Your response could help someone reading this now. Maybe a little shift in attitude.

Thanks

1 spiritual
2. high expectations on d part of d. lady
3. waiting for mr Right- forgetting nothing like that exist. u ve to make d man right
3. not wanting to endure or start small


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gede7744: 1 spiritual
2. high expectations on d part of d. lady
3. waiting for mr Right- forgetting nothing like that exist. u ve to make d man right
3. not wanting to endure or start small


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Spiritual factors? Pls I'd like to knw more about this, hehehe

I think there are a lot of factors.

Assuming that the cause is due to the fact that the person concerned is busy searching for the perfect guy/girl, I'll like to quote a statement that I used in one of my latest posts.

"While you’re busy looking for the
perfect person, you’ll probably miss
the imperfect person who could make
you perfectly happy."

This is my own contribution.

eleojo23: I think there are a lot of factors.

Assuming that the cause is due to the fact that the person concerned is busy searching for the perfect guy/girl, I'll like to quote a statement that I used in one of my latest posts.

"While you’re busy looking for the
perfect person, you’ll probably miss
the imperfect person who could make
you perfectly happy."

This is my own contribution.

Hehhee great words there bro. Very insightful. Let's do more

wealthinfos:

Spiritual factors? Pls I'd like to knw more about this, hehehe

depends on ur spiritual perspectives/maturity cos some ppl will find some things unbelievable

Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet marriages end up being disasters?

gede7744:


depends on ur spiritual perspectives/maturity cos some ppl will find some things unbelievable

Information is very important in life. Am hungry for information and I will be willing to learn frm ur perspective also. Hope somebody is in with me?

wealthinfos:

Information is very important in life. Am hungry for information and I will be willing to learn frm ur perspective also. Hope somebody is in with me?

ok let's see

maybe d lady ia from a family where they ve issues with late marriage. as in until they enter 40+ no one is allowed to marry

or somobody have placed a curse on her due to some misunderstanding. as we know, human being don't forgive

or she has jilted some guys who in turn decide to useless her life

d list goes on an on

gede7744: 1 spiritual
2. high expectations on d part of d. lady
3. waiting for mr Right- forgetting nothing like that exist. u ve to make d man right
3. not wanting to endure or start small


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On point

Wouldn't have said it better

But then let me add one

The only disability in life is a bad attitude

Sophyrocks: Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet marriages end up being disasters?

How do you mean?

gede7744:

ok let's see

maybe d lady ia from a family where they ve issues with late marriage. as in until they enter 40+ no one is allowed to marry

or somobody have placed a curse on her due to some misunderstanding. as we know, human being don't forgive

or she has jilted some guys who in turn decide to useless her life

d list goes on an on

Hehehe hope we have single ladies in the house? Especially the gold diggers. A food for thought

irishCream:

On point

Wouldn't have said it better

But then let me add one

The only disability in life is a bad attitude

Yes very onpoint. Attitude; it will make or mare u!

wealthinfos:

How do you mean?

If you dnt know what i mean, then you dnt understand marriage. You are only concerned about getting married because of age/delay/showing off to people to please them but forget about staying married and making the marriage a successful one. Are you married or single?

Oho ohoo! you have fastwarded and taken us one step ahead on not just factors for delayed marriages, but also staying married.

But if I may ask what factors keep marriages? Maybe a topic for another day, hehehehe

All the same tnx for contributing.

wealthinfos: Oho ohoo! you have fastwarded and taken us one step ahead on not just factors for delayed marriages, but also staying married.

But if I may ask what factors keep marriages? Maybe a topic for another day, hehehehe

All the same tnx for contributing.

You have refused to answer my simple question. Are you married or single? If single, why do you want to get marrried?

To answer your question, reasons for delay in marriage are relative.
There are people who are not freakish about getting married. Their interest in it is low perhaps due to bad relationships/bad choices in partners/bad marriages surrounding them or bad experiences such as a dysfunctional family.

There are people who are not meant to get married. Their understanding of marriage is low. Their understanding of the opposite sex is low, they have wrong mentality of the opposite sex. They could be abusive verbally, physically and emotionally. If these ones get married, their spouses will sufferor even die. Which is why you dnt force/pressurize people to get married. So when some peeople come across these ones, they stay away from them and wait to find a better partner.

There are people who are not fortunate to get good partners. Their relationships are from one wrong person to another. Therefore, such people decide to wait, stay away from relationships and leave it to God until a good partner shows up.

There are people who are ready to marry but are not financial capable of getting marriedor do not have good jobs to sustain the marriage. We all know how money is of great importance in marriage.

There are people who are not realistic in their choices. they are rigid and feel that their specs of partners exist when they do not. Ladies who love richh menat all cost are included. Men who are looking for perfect wives when theyare not perfect.

Some have very horrible attitudes. But i dnt like to concentrate on this because i have seen men marry women with terrible attitude while the good women remain at home. It seems those with such attitudes are winning and getting married every saturday.

All in all, delay may be dangerous in some cases but may also be necessary so that those who take marriage seriously can sit down and make a good choice and so that those who dnt understand marriage can understand it before marrying. There are people who were sooo fortunate to get God's intervention to show them who their partners really are few weeks to their weddings. This is why you hear postponement/cancellation of wedding ceremonies every now and then. God almighty saves a lot of people from horrible marriages by delaying them. Do you know that? Marriage isnt about wedding, showing off ring, answering Mrs and gettting approval from society. Its about WORK. If you know the kind of work in it ehn, you will slow down and enjoy your single status untiil you find the right person for you and are mentally ready for it. I think people should create threads that talk about how to stay married and not how to get married. Our obsession with marriage is not helping to reduce the rate of divorce. instead, our obsession is increasing it. Let's stop fantasizing too much about marriage. It doesnt lead to the kingdom of God o.

Better it delays and get it right than to be early and fail.
Not how fast but how well.

Lol..
Sophyrocks, why don't you just write a thesis on why people should stay away from marriage eh.... eishhhh

crackhaus: Lol..
Sophyrocks, why don't you just write a thesis on why people should stay away from marriage eh.... eishhhh

If that is what you could decipher from my comment, then too bad for your level of comprehension.

And by the way, if i may ask, are you ready to get married?

Sophyrocks:

If that is what you could decipher from my comment, then too bad for your level of comprehension.

And by the way, if i may ask, are you ready to get married?

My level of comprehension is fine, thank you very much.

If I may ask, why are you being aggressive? Check the tone of your replies so far, are you fighting with anyone?

Sophyrocks: Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet some marriages end up being disasters?

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Thank me later...

crackhaus:
My level of comprehension is fine, thank you very much.

If I may ask, why are you being aggressive? Check the tone of your replies so far, are you fighting with anyone?

Replies to whom? Aggresive in what way? THATS ALL IN YOUR IMAGINATION. Wake Up!!! I am simply asking questions and stating opinions. So?

crackhaus:
Edited!
Thank me later...

No need for Edition. No thanks.

@Sophyrock ur so on point. Ur contribution is very revealing.

We can do more!

3cycle: Better it delays and get it right than to be early and fail.
Not how fast but how well.

Oh yeah, on point

No money, no honey!

gede7744: 1 spiritual
2. high expectations on d part of d. lady
3. waiting for mr Right- forgetting nothing like that exist. u ve to make d man right
3. not wanting to endure or start small


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Madam this is very insightful, pls come back ASAP

Sophyrocks: Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet marriages end up being disasters?

Few marriages end up in disasters. Focus on the good marriages and not on the bad ones. While some single women keep consoling themselves that marriage is bad,some girls are enjoying theirs. These days most girls who can't get men to marry them sing this wack song.

charles316:

Few marriages end up in disasters. Focus on the good marriages and not on the bad ones. While some single women keep consoling themselves that marriage is bad,some girls are enjoying theirs. These days most girls who can't get men to marry them sing this wack song.

Few marriages ke? With the high rate of divorce in law courts? with the too many sob stories of 'Had i known' around, even on nairaland and other blogs, you are telling me few? Wake up!! You are sleeping. Its women that are lamenting the most.

Point of correction, girls who can't get men to marry them that are desperate are running from one church to another and from one prophet to another. What planet are you from sef? Is it that you dnt know whats happening around you or what? or have you been in Coma?

Sophyrocks:
Few marriages ke? With the high rate of divorce in law courts? with the too many sob stories of 'Had i known' around, even on nairaland and other blogs, you are telling me few? Wake up!! You are sleeping. Its women that are lamenting the most.
Point of correction, girls who can't get men to marry them that are desperate are running from one church to another and from one prophet to another. What planet are you from sef? Is it that you dnt know whats happening around you or
what? or have you been in Coma?

Lets just say that I've been in coma. I still stand by my earlier statement that few marriages have issues and those are marriages of people especially women who have no business with marriage. How come the ones with bad marriages tell u their stories and the ones with good marriages don't. Sophy, Please move with the right people.

charles316:


Lets just say that I've been in coma. I still stand by my earlier statement that few marriages have issues and those are marriages of people especially women who have no business with marriage. How come the ones with bad marriages tell u their stories and the ones with good marriages don't. Sophy, Please move with the right people.

Please be truthful. The bad stories are more than the good. maybe because bad news envelopes the good. Most of the good will not make so much noise about it. You could just see through them that their marriages are good. To widen your scope of info and to become more aware of your surroundings, try and read blogs more. blogs that report real life experiences of marriages. Go and visit a law court some day and be more attentive when some married people talk. Maybe you will be awakened from your coma. maybe because i am a lady and ladies are more open than men that is why i get to hear stories that touch.

If you still insist that few marriages have issues, then you must have been hiding under a cave away from civilisation and information. perhaps you have not been on planet earth and you suddenly dropped from the sky or you are just among those people who fantasize a lot even when there is world war 3.