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Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Nobody: 8:23am On Oct 02, 2014 |
[color=#000099][/color] Lilimax: Says Who? People prefer to marry who they love. But I think it is better to love who you marry. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by pinkycute(f): 8:24am On Oct 02, 2014 |
I hate DAT stupid Phrase ![]() ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by royalblood21: 8:30am On Oct 02, 2014 |
I need love.... ![]()
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Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Kunlecelica(m): 8:31am On Oct 02, 2014 |
englishmart: My mom and dad have been worried for over 25 years. In fact their love grows incessantly. Ur mum and dad have been worried or married. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by dhatboy: 8:44am On Oct 02, 2014 |
marieolae: This is actually what happened to my uncle. He met this girl which he had no interest in marrying. Just a fling. They were having sexx regularly and eventually she got pregnant. He insisted that she should abort the pregnancy but she refused. So in this situation, he was " forced" to marry her. And now I believe he is madly in love with her, not only because she is the mother of his child, but its something from within. I guess love after marriage is possible, but its not advisable to rush into things. The story doesn't always end in a glorious way. "And they lived happily ever after" may not be the case.it seems your uncle is a sucker for that hole in the south region, I don't see how you will even feel like having sex with someone you don't like. So its either you are lying or your uncle needs deliverance. 1 Like |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by marieolae(f): 8:50am On Oct 02, 2014 |
dhatboy: it seems your uncle is a sucker for that hole in the south region, I don't see how you will even feel like having sex with someone you don't like. So its either you are lying or your uncle needs deliverance.please have you ever heard of a man having sexx with an ashawo? Have u heard of friends with benefits? Have u heard of a one night stand? Please you do not need to have any emotions attached when having sex with a lady. Since its only pleasure that the guy is looking for. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by dhatboy: 8:52am On Oct 02, 2014 |
marieolae: please have you ever heard of a man having sexx with an ashawo? Have u heard of friends with benefits? Have u heard of a one night stand? Please you do not need to have any emotions attached when having sex with a lady. Since its only pleasure that the guy is looking for.then was your uncles wife an ashawo? We know of ashawo. How was your night though? |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by marieolae(f): 8:54am On Oct 02, 2014 |
dhatboy: then was your uncles wife an ashawo? We know of ashawo. How was your night though?mtchew. Ur not getting the message. I was just using it as an example. Nonsense |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by dhatboy: 9:00am On Oct 02, 2014 |
marieolae: mtchew. Ur not getting the message. I was just using it as an example. Nonsenseok. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by CoCoLav(f): 9:05am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Love after marriage is actually what I want. When you love someone before marriage, you might be blinded to their flaws in the belief that love covers all. By the time you get married and the love fades then your eyes open. I want to marry someone I don't really love so my eyes will be open to all flaws and at the end of the day, I will know what I am getting myself into. I just believe that love makes people have poor judgement and reason stupi.dly. It makes you do things you ordinarily wouldnt do and settle for situations you normally will walk away from, it makes you weak and also makes you turn a deaf ear to advice from people who are seeing things you cant see. Love makes you blind! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by yungchop: 9:06am On Oct 02, 2014 |
marieolae: This is actually what happened to my uncle. He met this girl which he had no interest in marrying. Just a fling. They were having sexx regularly and eventually she got pregnant. He insisted that she should abort the pregnancy but she refused. So in this situation, he was " forced" to marry her. And now I believe he is madly in love with her, not only because she is the mother of his child, but its something from within. I guess love after marriage is possible, but its not advisable to rush into things. The story doesn't always end in a glorious way. "And they lived happily ever after" may not be the case.sex regularly!! Chai your uncle likes kpekus gan o ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Pdizzle(m): 9:16am On Oct 02, 2014 |
OBIORAA: [color=#000099][/color] |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by rigview: 9:51am On Oct 02, 2014 |
i strongly belief that even those who are madly in luv bfore thay marry also fall away.... so same way love grows weak between two persons who where once in love, true love can as well develops between persons who weren't in love too. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by englishmart(m): 10:02am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Kunlecelica:mistake |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by dytbabe: 10:31am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Tymax: Sing me that song I wanna dance |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by judy1616(f): 10:42am On Oct 02, 2014 |
I believe it works. Just let it flow. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Sweetlemon(f): 10:42am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Those of you mentioning our fore fathers, don't you know most of them just grew used to each other because they had no other choice? In those days women had little or no say about their marital happiness. So they just stomached it or learnt to dance in the rain. 2 Likes |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by judy1616(f): 10:51am On Oct 02, 2014 |
U can't always marry who u love but u can can love who u marry. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Missmossy(f): 10:53am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Talk is cheap anyway,i can't and will never marry any man i don't love. What for? I can never support the assertion that love will come after marriage. Even while we court,if i aint loving you,we are heading nowhere we will simply be a pair of close friends who look intimate. 3 Likes |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Cheeun(f): 11:12am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Huh? Wait, is this some disney movie or what? Hell no! How will i cope? It just won't work out 'cos before i can even say i love sm1 (i don't trust ppl that much & not d lovey-dovey type i dunno know why tho') that means am really sure. You people are just saying ehn shebi it worked for some of our parents and they lived "happily ever after"... But i can bet it wasn't easy when they started and remember they had no choice. How many of us can do that? Damn it! A total stranger? C'mon. See ehn, i believe love alone cannot be enough to sustain a marriage. Smth has to keep u guys going. Like ermm the trust u've always had for eachother, things that got u attracted to him/her (not sexually o), those promises, memories u've shared 2gether, and of course, love. But u might not be 'feeling butterflies' and all lovey-dovey again but the friendship will remain (because even in the first place, u've always loved eachother). So where will all of that come from esp. when u're already old and the children are gone and it's just the two of u in the house? Tell me o. I'm not even married and now am sounding like a marriage counselor lol. It's just my opinion anyaway. Sorry 'bou the epistle, ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Oahray: 11:44am On Oct 02, 2014 |
CoCoLav: Love after marriage is actually what I want. When you love someone before marriage, you might be blinded to their flaws in the belief that love covers all. By the time you get married and the love fades then your eyes open. I want to marry someone I don't really love so my eyes will belove doesn't make one do all those. You are mixing it up. Infatuation makes one judge poorly. Lust makes one reason stupidly. Nothing makes one deaf as much as desperation to get married. All those make one blind to flaws. Those are what you should be trying to avoid. Focusing on flaws isn't new. After the excitement of wedding subsides, that's what most couples spend their time doing. They discover one and go: "oh, why didn't I see this earlier? There must be more, lemme look for them." Thus the search for flaws begin and they lose sight of what makes the partner adorable. And another marriage hits the rocks. If you can love someone after wedding, you simply got a person that is lovable, marriage or no. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Oahray: 11:48am On Oct 02, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: Those of mentioning our fore fathers, don't you know most of them just grew used o each other because they had no other choice? In those days women had little or no say about their marital happiness. So they just stomached it or learnt to dance in the rain.well said... Lizards crawl on their bellies, so it's hard to tell which one has stomach ache. 1 Like |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by delishpot: 12:30pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
zeelo2014: our parents did love after marriage and they're still waxing strong unlike our generation that do a whole lot of lovey dovey yet u see marriages fall like pack of cards Lol abegi, most old time mamas if you ask them eh, the things you go hear if dem open up to you, go make you fear marriage o. Most of them remain for financial reasons, some remain cos society go laugh at them, some simply no get where to run to, some just dey cos of their kids. In those days the women were less favoured in marriages o. Men no get wahala cos when he wants to bang he doesnt need love to bang her. So they can have 20 kids yet he isnt that much into her. Through the years if he is consederate he just gives her that respect as the woman who stood by him and who took all the bs from him. Biko no use old school days judge. It seems marriages are failing now because women are now allowed to move on if they are not treated well and women now have degrees or can easily get financial help to be able to care for themselves and their kids. Most marriages between our parents, grand parents and great grand parents were how "I for do marriages o" Besides sef, the men in most cases approve of the choice of wife. As his parents will tell him about the girls available and he will pick one. its ussualy the woman that is made to do the love after marriage thing. And as a woman she has no choice about love or not to love, just like a slave has no choice to love or not to love his master. Any one he chooses, he must do the job his master brought him to do. Na india and some other countries dey do real arangee you must marry by force match making for both sons and daughters. but still,the man has nothing much to lose as he can have flings and date women of his choice while keeping the woman at home to wash ,cook, clean and have his kids and the woman has to endure it all and remain married for face saving sake. 1 Like |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by ginajet(f): 12:35pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
phransix147: Meaning? Certainly not with me... How would we sleep @ nyte?King Solomon I hail thee |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by karpentar: 12:53pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
what is love |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by ravgach: 1:09pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
CoCoLav: Love after marriage is actually what I want. When you love someone before marriage, you might be blinded to their flaws in the belief that love covers all. By the time you get married and the love fades then your eyes open. I want to marry someone I don't really love so my eyes will be Coco, "by the time you get married and the love fades then your eyes opens", what will you now do, because you are already in? Jump out or remain? Which ever you choose will be like frying pan or fire. Don't forget, you have to start another process all over again. Common! Pure love is one of the signs that the intending couples are ready to go. It is like a green light on a highway. Not feeling any love is actually a red or danger sign. Yes a dead clock can be right only but twice but do not be fooled! It will not give u accurate and reliable time to work with. Marriage is the celebration of love. Love must be involved at the commencement of marriage. Do not be deceived! |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by DAVE5(m): 1:09pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Lekmokson34: I will say smtin soon.there would constant power supply in naija soon... |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by CoCoLav(f): 2:20pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Oahray: love doesn't make one do all those. You are mixing it up. Infatuation makes one judge poorly. Lust makes one reason stupidly. Nothing makes one deaf as much as desperation to get married. All those make one blind to flaws. Those are what you should be trying to avoid. I agree with your first paragraph. So are you saying that our parents who did not get married for love but later came to love, tolerate and understand each other are just 'lovable'? Compare the marriages of those days and of today and see which ones last longer. Also compare the divorce rates of people who married for love and those in which love was not a factor. If you agree with me that our parent's marriages last longer then don't you also think that its better to have a 'lovable' marriage than to marry for love? |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Elinob(m): 2:20pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
It can't wrk in ma own way |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by helino200(f): 2:23pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Dat is not going to be easy, for it to grow becos marriage is a life time institution, were love will cover and over look multitude of attitudes and behaviours. And if its one sides its not easy at all....... |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by osmond2009(m): 2:27pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
englishmart: My mom and dad have been married for over 25 years. In fact their love grows incessantly. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Akpaumuaka: 2:34pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Love before marriage could work.It did for a friend.At the time the guy was coming for her hand in marriage she would run to my house and we would yab the hell out of the guy.What annoyed her most was he was ugly and had no money so his shoes looked like he was a sales rep.In the end they got married.She cried for weeks cos it wasn't her choice but right now if I open mouth small to yab she will nearly slap me with her eyes(eye balling). |
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