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Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by vikkyboboski(m): 4:07am On Oct 03, 2014 |
Op u dey ask me make I ask who ! anyway shaa passed are days wen such was d trend ! now love ni before marriage otherwise , u r in for a long tin! |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by lanregidi: 4:47am On Oct 03, 2014 |
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Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Nobody: 10:20am On Oct 03, 2014 |
Missy89: It actually dies after marriage. ![]() I'm still trying to decipher why you said this because for a fact, I know marriage doesn't kill love. Nope it doesn't. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by taiwoakin(m): 11:06am On Oct 03, 2014 |
love is also a verb It grows by showing care, concern, belief, relief and sharing the emotions and concern of your partner Love that previously did not exist can start and grow after marriage. It happens quite a lot times Love that existed before marriage can also die after marriage. when those involved stop caring and showing concern for the life, activities and emotions of one another |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by ravgach: 11:28am On Oct 03, 2014 |
Ceasar1: In deed, marriage does not kill love. It actually nurtures it. What happens is that most marriages entered into ignorantly invariably frustrates the couples and kills their 'love'. Marriage founded on love outlasts the couple. A lot of people think they are in love when in reality, they are very, very far away from love. What many people call love is actually feelings/affection/infatuation/beauty/good dressing/comfort/intimacy/wealth etc. Some of these things are actually found in love but they in themselves are not love. Love is tangible. Love is measurable. Love is action. Love is choice. Love is decision. Love is patience. Love is Kindness. Love is unity/peace. Love is endurance. Love is sacrifice, etc. Love hardly fails! Love is the pillar of marriage. You cannot first build a house before adding its pillars. You add the pillars before being assured of a strong, safe and reliable place of abode. Yes, sometimes, a house founded on strong pillars collapses. This is sometimes because the builders are not experienced, building with absent-mindedness, did not check well the soil on which the strong pillars are put, the pillars are not well fortified with quality materials etc. These things happen but it is one in a million! But houses that collapsed as a result of lack of pillars are rampant. ................................. ................................ CoCoLav: We are saying the same thing then. What I am saying is before[/size][size=8pt] you say I do to any man/woman, be sure that: 1. You have mutual respect for each other - for each other's body too (this does not come in one day) 2. You tolerate each other (this also will mean unconditional acceptance) this also is not a day's job 3. You trust each other (this come with test, remember) not a day's job 4. You reach some understanding (concerning money, job, children, inlaws, conduct, dressing etc) not a day's job 5. You are pooling resources together to make the relationship work (infatuation does not have this patience) 6. You share affection/attraction (You must be proud to associate/be with each other - not one person in front the other behind) takes time too 7. You are ready to defend each other with your life (this is one of the major test of love) 8. You are willing and able to support him/her in weakness/sickness/setbacks/misfortunes etc. 9. You are willing to share your resources (money, power, favour, privilege, talents, etc) this takes a lot of time. 10. You are ready/willing/able to be in subjection to a man (in case of a woman) 11. You are ready/willing/able to love, protect, provide for a woman (in case of a man) 12. You are ready to remain faithful to each other for life 13. You are ready to live together and nurture the union for life Love in marriage is not a 100 meters dash. It is a capsule filled with all these and more. It is not that "I feel good" feeling. Love is not feeling at all. There are feelings in love but it is not feeling. There are different kinds of love. I am writing about marriage love here please. So before you tell a man/woman that you love him/her (in the marriage sense) be sure to have thought on these and many more. These lend credence to the fact that love must be the bane of marriage and must also come[b] BEFORE [/b]its consummation, not the other way round. 2 Likes |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Oahray: 12:38pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
What on earth is this 'love is/must/should be the BANE of marriage' thing you guys are saying? Hope una know wetin 'bane' mean sha. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Missy89(f): 2:17pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Ceasar1: seriously thou it was just an opinion. I haven't been married so i wouldn't even know anyway. Long term relationships usually gets boring eventually so i wonder how a lifetime commitment would look like. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Drkul(f): 2:41pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
nedu213: I wish my ex can see this quote below:Awwww, nedu boo I have seen it |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Nobody: 2:46pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Missy89: Oh, on the ‘boring’ part, I do understand your view now. But to be honest though, I don't just see myself getting bored with someone am in love with. Yea, I'm being naive here. Okay. How are things with you?... I think it's only proper for me to show concern as we are both United Fans. [size=3pt]To be.[/size] ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by aviazuvazia: 4:42pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
It will work if what will hold the love will remain For there is always a reason for love. when that reason finish love ends, then we cite irreconcillable difference |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Missy89(f): 5:11pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Ceasar1: You want to drag me down with you and your sinking united? Beat everton first and i might consider it! ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Missy89: Not 15 anymore? Cool! ![]() Now I just can't wait for Sunday. My united boys wouldn't disappoint at all. ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by olin88: 9:35pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
its very rare , Bt me don't gbadu it abeg |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Brooke98(f): 10:51pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Love after marriage? ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Missy89(f): 11:08pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Ceasar1: not so fast! still 15 but i would start paying attention to woman united if they win this weekend thou |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by Nobody: 11:36pm On Oct 03, 2014 |
Missy89: *Breaks down in tears* All is well... ![]() |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by mkoabiola: 12:00am On Oct 04, 2014 |
Ds is a billion dollar question , Will read all comments and learn 1 Like |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by GSyntax(m): 6:20pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
[quote author=englishmart post=26792715]My mom and dad have been married for over 25 years. In fact their love grows incessantly. sometimes I pray I find a wife as good as my mom. ![]() That your parent's marriage is very successful must have been the result of their combined efforts, not just your mum. As you pray to find a wife as good as your mum, please also aspire to be as tolerant and understanding as your dad. |
Re: Does Love After Marriage Really Works? by efficiencie(m): 9:41pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
If you cannot LOVE [/b]before marriage, you cannot after marriage...LOVE is a way of life characterized by [b]SACRIFICE, COMMUNION and BONDING and not necessarily the way you feel about a person...While i'll not advice anyone to marry by parental choice and discretion, i'll say that if you have the heart to LOVE you can move on with the marriage and sail it's dark and murky waters... |
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