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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by tunde1200(m): 7:06am On Oct 14, 2014
Really?

BBT:
I personally think trying again is the way to go,as your wife might me using that to test you to see if you are sincere with your words and really want to save your marriage.
For all you care, she might not have really slept with anyone else but just trying to gauge your response to see what you'd do if she served u in your own coin. But even if she did, it was just out of hurt and I'd advise you two make amends, dust off your dirty linen, and make your marriage work.
9 years of marriage is no joke, and for those beautiful lol ones you have, your marriage is worth saving. Forgive yourselves first then forgive each other. Life is sweeter when we dwell together in love and peace.
If your wife is a sane lady, she'll come around when you come back begging. You know the codes u used to woo her initially, try some of those
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by MissSlimbody(f): 7:16am On Oct 14, 2014
MizMyColi:
Missslimbody shocked shocked shocked

We made FP........

*dancing azonto*

Hiohiohiohiohio



grin grin grin

Nne.......biko, untag me from your post, before the mentions start rolling in like ocean.

Thancuuuuu cheesy


Will do that now cheesy

Just saw it, this morning

How's your night dear?
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Jhayson(m): 7:20am On Oct 14, 2014
Hehehehe...I'm only here to read comments..kudos to MrBrownjay
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by khaykay15(f): 7:25am On Oct 14, 2014
MissSlimbody:
Two wrongs can never make a right.

What you did,is in the past, since you've repented of ur deeds, I see no reason why she should engaged herself in such a shameful act.

Your wife is not morally sound, I must say.

That a man cheated on me is not reason enough 2 turn me to a cheat.

What to do






Miz my coli you're needed here.
Abeg, wetin make him do?
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by gabazin080(m): 7:36am On Oct 14, 2014
BuddhaPalm:


Someone you what...?
u heard me right. was she giving to me for free that will nw make hr think she can do every thng I did
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by summerflame(m): 7:42am On Oct 14, 2014
When will all this women get to realize that they doesn't have equal right with men?. Although, it doesn't give us men the right to cheat. The fact that u were robbed doesn't have to turn u to an arm robber. OP, I think ur woman has an upper hand in her matrimonial home than u, seems like u are just an empty figure head of the family.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by gabazin080(m): 7:49am On Oct 14, 2014
Cece23:


U never see anythg continue deceiving urself with that men has d right to cheat syndrome.
[quote author=Cece23 post=27122619]
I think you are one of those shameless idiots that doesn't see any big deal on getting laid by every man. seriously. if I were a girl, I don't think I will have d liver to get naked in front of one man and then another.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by shindarayo(f): 8:00am On Oct 14, 2014
Tallesty1:
Start bringing women home.

Tell her to sleep at the boy's quarter or guest room when your gf visits

Or better still sacrifice her to the gods of your village.


BTW this is nairaland not Egypt


So stop writing in codes.



But on serious note@OP. I don't advice you to do anything to safe your marriage.

To cheat on a man is a big crime and to speak it to his face and dare him is another serious offense.

Bundle her back to her parents before she kills you.
bwaaaaaahahaha.so dis tin dey pain una like dis.so u mean to cheat on a woman is a small crime. Mschewww.sharp girl.carry on joor, but pls run for ur dear life when he cant tk no more. Somebody please shout hallelujah

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by vugaman(m): 8:02am On Oct 14, 2014
You are not a man,did u marry the woman or did the women marry you
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Nobody: 8:06am On Oct 14, 2014
ak4God:
When a key opens any locks,its called master,but when a lock can be opened by any keys is a useless lock.
My Brother,chase the woman , leave the woman or else she will kill you,Infact you are already a dead man working..No matter what the case maybe,under no circumstances,she has no moral justification to tell you such.My Brother you are finished already..It seems she has given you VEGETABLE OR CAT FISH PEPPER SOUP(INCISSION).
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!!
na gbere dem dey call am...
I get am too,that's why Baba jide no dey take me play. grin

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Nobody: 8:08am On Oct 14, 2014
Dem no born that kind woman ...... grin
Op us men have a cojones for a reason ,justify urs, don't allow God to regret equipping you with the man "tool"
I come house woman wey I Dey tidy Dey tell me say she Dey cheat and there is nothing I can...... She go do time travel ... grin thunda faya devil nyash

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Nobody: 8:13am On Oct 14, 2014
unclecycs:
Dem no born that kind woman ...... grin
Op us men have a cojones for a reason ,justify urs, don't allow God to regret equipping you with the man "tool"
I come house woman wey I Dey tidy Dey tell me say she Dey cheat and there is nothing I can...... She go do time travel ... grin thunda faya devil nyash

Another true nigga

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by ibrhyme77(m): 8:18am On Oct 14, 2014
Find a way to dissolve the union without too much bad blood for the kids not to be affected.This is Africa,a cheating wife is deadlier than a snake,and believe me u may be facing a murder charge in no distant future.Btw,try and confirm the paternity of the children.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Nobody: 8:24am On Oct 14, 2014
1stCitizen:


Another true nigga

U Dey feel ma baa, for the issue to even reach level wey be sey d woman get liver open mouth the yarn that kind rubbish mean say op na pant .women Dey smart, dem know d kind men dem Dey do some kind tins with e get as u and woman go package wey be say u fit cheat (not that I support infidelity) and she go Dey beg u untop ur own fuckup.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by MizMyColi(f): 8:26am On Oct 14, 2014
MissSlimbody:


Will do that now cheesy

Just saw it, this morning

How's your night dear?

Good Hun.
kiss

Yours?
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by godoluwa(m): 8:28am On Oct 14, 2014
if dis is truth, I go advise u to stay away from her 4 a while. in yorubaland, obinrin to ba n yan ale, ti ko ba pa ara re, o maa pa oko re.
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by blazeee: 8:29am On Oct 14, 2014
In my own openion,since u hvnt really caught her redhnded cheating on u, I feel she is only saying dos tins 2 ge bck @ u cuz, a real cheating woman dnt do kiss and tell only if she is busted
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by ArabianPrince: 8:55am On Oct 14, 2014
Fake Story.....BOLLOCKS.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Rennerglo: 9:02am On Oct 14, 2014
I DONT THINK SHE IS CHEATING. SHE'S JUST TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL BAD BY CLAIMING THAT SHE IS
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Clinton207: 9:05am On Oct 14, 2014
Good morning peeps, permit me to use pigin language: Bro u sure say this story wey u dey tell us na real? 2. Which part of the country u come from? 3.you and ur wife una grow up for this country?. Answer these questions den I will be back to render my little help.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Becalm(m): 9:25am On Oct 14, 2014
Please, find out if she is pulling your legs but after you confirm it's real, check the paternity of your kids. Your wife is a hardened individual so you must be very careful the way you handle her. If she is courageous enough to cheat and tell you to your face, it's either that she suspects that you are still cheating after your confession or she is convinced that you are a weak man.

My Advice: If you actually told us the truth (your case is that of a sinner who repented and sought forgiveness not because you were caught but her case is that of an unrepentant sinner. The former is pardoned by God and later awaits destruction). If she cheated once and informed you to let you have a share of her ordeal, endure your cross and make peace. But if she is still in the act, deal with the situation decisively cos it is no longer excusable. Be firm and let her know that you have already paid the price for your sins that she will definitely leave the house without the kids if she indulges in that act again and stand firm by your words and prepare strongly for what may come out if it. That you erred does not take away your rights to ensure order in your home. Even a pastor who confessed to adultery still has rights to stop sexual immorality among people of God. You must always guard your home strongly (with LOVE)

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Tymax(m): 9:37am On Oct 14, 2014
She is not doing it for revenge. She had always wanted to cheat and you gave her permission. Just pray she doesn't bring home any STD's.

Bro, you cannot stop her. You can only beg her. Report to her parents. Maybe they'll be able to convince her. Stolen water is sweet and she has just dicovered that. It may be hard for her to let go.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Airpure(f): 9:51am On Oct 14, 2014
Dear OP.

your wife is just hurt that you betrayed her love and trust i am going to guess the reason she feels the need to make you feel the pain she felt when you cheated on her is that you didnt show enough remorse for the wrong you did.you should have helped her through the healing process showed more love and commitment enough to regain her trust. its a known fact that one of the main reasons women cheat is to get back at a cheating partner. there is still hope for your marriage i think you guys just need to take time out and decide the things that are more important to u both like your lovely kids.


That said men need to realise that we have pass the era of its a mans world.This is no longer the era of our mothers where men go to work and women are full time moms and have to depend on a man and never complain when they cheat cos she has no where to go. in 80% of workplace now we have more women than men. wake up guys things have change. when you cheat on a woman and expect her to get over it cos its normal she will probably pay u back one way or the other. blood runs through the veins of a woman too.we both feel the same hurt and pain when we get betrayed . if you understand that you will thread carefully. next time u gringing on top a woman imagine your wife doing same if you like it then continue. lol.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by DECOtech(m): 9:58am On Oct 14, 2014
egbedore:


ℓ̊ don't even know!

Op, I feel ur pain but then you brought this on urself plus say u go marry "tit 4 tat" kind of woman.

I believe you repented of your sins hence your confession to her. Yet she went ahead on a fuc.king spree to pay u back. With this, I can say 1. Your wife has had cheating in her all this while. You just opened the doors for her.
2. She is no where near morally sound. If was, she wld know that two wrongs has never made a right in the history of mankind.

What I think you should;
1. Kneel down n beg her. Cos na you first do am. Tell her how you you have erred an come bck to your senses. Remind her the danger involved in what she is doing. If possible, pretend her actions are not bothering you.

(if she no gree to hear)

2. Go and confess to your family. Ask them to accompany you to go and beg her family to help you beg her.

(if she still no gree to hear)

3. Give her time, her head will return to factory default settings with time when her anger with you calms. Meanwhile, focus ur attention on your kids. Show them extra love and care, cook for them, bath them. I believe she will come around when she sees some changes in your attitude with the family. I'm sure she still has a spot in her heart that you haven't poked.

















Aaaaaaaaaafter much much, if you no see any change, ...Oga na you marry her come oh n not the other way round. She doesn't have to continue her adulterous lifestyle in the guise of payback under your roof. Thank God her papa get house.
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Obodo999(m): 10:14am On Oct 14, 2014
Lets us see the pictures of your wife sleeping with another man or I don't believe your bullshit story.
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by MissSlimbody(f): 10:16am On Oct 14, 2014
MizMyColi:


Good Hun.
kiss

Yours?

Beautiful

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Adedolapo1406(m): 10:21am On Oct 14, 2014
Just summon courage and pretend as if U ar not moved she will come bak to her senses
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by dupsil(f): 10:28am On Oct 14, 2014
Lets view this from a different angle, d supposed wife might probably nt be cheating, bt she said all dat to get back at her husband, i guess dats her own way of revenge. No woman wt dignity and pride wud admit she"s cheating except she"s caught in the act.
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by noholdsbarred(m): 10:42am On Oct 14, 2014
Your wife doesn't want to be with you anymore but she doesn't want to come out and say it directly. If she can be bold enough to tell you that she's dating someone else and there's nothing you can do about that, then I think that it'll take God's grace for both of you to remain together.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by Tinyemeka(m): 11:01am On Oct 14, 2014
coogar:


show no emotions....
let the kids go spend some time with their grannies - then put yourself to task & bring exotic ladies into the house.

different ones per week.

Bro, pls be serious for once.

Agreed. You are good at sarcasm, but the best knows when to draw the line. It's his marriage that is being discussed here. These things you advise him to do, how do you think the couple would fare in the long run? Have you been married before?

@OP, instead of bringing your issues to a public forum mostly populated by juvenile minds, why don't you approach a more matured audience for advice?

If all that you've said is really true (and not a mere prank, although I am inclined to believe you), please take your case to a marriage counsellor. I'll advise that you see the Parish Priest of a Catholic church, even if you aren't a catholic. You'll be attended to. Just ask for the days of their marriage class.

They are very experienced in handling marital issues as these and there are Canons and past cases to help tackle your issue. I believe yours is not an exception.

Madam may not join you at first. Most likely. But go first. Make an effort.

In the meantime, have you really stopped lusting after other women? The future of your marital life depends on that.

I'll also advise that you stop making further comments on this thread.

Thanks.

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Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by CrownV12(m): 11:13am On Oct 14, 2014
egbedore:
My wife just told me now that she has a boyfriend that sleeps with her and that there is nothing ℓ̊ am going to do.

ℓ̊ had earlier suspected she is sleeping with her doctor and one of the parent in her sch. She confirmed to me tonight that she os cheating cos cheating is fun! ?

Don't let these people fuel the fire for you... They won't be there when things get sour. Thruth is, 1) She might be passing the wrong vibes and info just for you to have a taste of your own soup. Don't knacker yourself sit her down one Sunday evening and talk heart to heart soul to soul with her. Even talk about the sex she supposedly had compared to the ones with you.. Just get very very intimate with her and sincerely apologize for your inadequacy.
2) if she really did cheat... Determine without a conflicted mind if you still love her and if you want her back. If you want her back.. You have to fight to get her back cos she won't come easy. If you want to end the union explain the situation to her Father! Tell him you once cheated and apologized and now she's cheating.. All you want is the custody of the kids.. You'd gain the upper ground. Good luck.
Re: My Wife Just Told Me She Has A Boyfriend And That There Is Nothing ℓ̊ Will Do by stuhporh: 11:13am On Oct 14, 2014
egbedore:
My wife just told me now that she has a boyfriend that sleeps with her and that there is nothing ℓ̊ am going to do.

ℓ̊ had earlier suspected she is sleeping with her doctor and one of the parent in her sch. She confirmed to me tonight that she os cheating cos cheating is fun!

What do ℓ̊ do

Now before Ɣøû comment,let me give Ɣøû a little background to our issues. ℓ̊ was involved with other ladies at some point in our marriage,of which she knew and ℓ̊ confessed to her. ℓ̊ don't do that anymore but she said she want to cheat so that ℓ̊ can feel what it feels to be cheated upon. Now she is sleeping around and tell it to my face that she is cheating and will continue without hiding it and there is nothing ℓ̊ can do!

Nlanders what do ℓ̊ do?

Let me explain something to you, after which, you can USE YOUR TONGUE TO COUNT YOUR TEETH

Men are naturally wired to have sex with as many wives as they can, without "any feeling or emotion" attached to it, however it is bad enough, to sleep with other women if you promised your wife, you wouldnt. But Women on the other hand, has emotions or feelings attached to them opening their legs for you, they must be attracted to you and connected as well before opening their legs. For example, If you are spending the night with an escort, and you can mumble some sweet words to her as to how beautiful she is or something like this, she will bleep you differently and specially that night, i mean you can get extras.
So for your wife to find it easy to show you how it feels to cheat, she must have felt something from the heart for who she is doing it with, while you just do yours for fun.

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