If you don't see your future with him . . .or you aren't willing to sacrifice that much( as in . . .living your whole life behind)
then its best you leave him be NOW!!
he will bleed BUT he will heal

_{** .but mind you, DO NOT pass up a chance for true love . . .You know what they say . . .once you go black . . .& even better, Once you go Nigerian black . . .you go back at your own peril}

take advice now o!

Nautilus - Thankyou !!
I see what you are saying , but why does it have to be me that has to give up everything ? I think he needs to make sacrifices too. Thanks again for ur post :p


and to the opther post - what advice are you telling me to take ?

anyone else

@poster

y not follow ur heart

Yea.follow ur heart.

abeg make una nor spoil anoda 9 Ja man JOB o, wit ur mouth and advice o, cos i know say we 9 Ja especially d men go dey Jelous say 1 guy don catch 1 mahi

Jackstar:

Nautilus - Thankyou !!
I see what you are saying , but why does it have to be me that has to give up everything ? I think he needs to make sacrifices too. Thanks again for ur post :p


and to the opther post - what advice are you telling me to take ?

the answer to your question is simple: Because that is the type of man you are marrying.

Dont come back and say later: My husband never bends or compromises. Because the truth is he is telling you before you get married that he will not do this.

Jackstar:

Nautilus - Thankyou !!
                                 [b] I see what you are saying , but why does it have to be me that has to give up everything ? I think he needs to make sacrifices too. [/b]Thanks again for ur post :p


and to the opther post - what advice are you telling me to take ?

in this case u r to be where ur husband wants u to be and not where u want him to be,u so like sound like a feminist   if u r not ready to compromise then look for an australian guy based in australia and get married and leave d nigerian guy to get married to a woman is ready to compromise to be wt her man,simple

if you love him and he loves you too, marry him. why do you want to have kid out of wedlock

seize the day
if u luv him, marry him cus the best things in life are free.
don't give room for regrets tomorrow.

I personally see nothing wrong with having a kid out of wedlock. If you love someone and they love you , thats all that matters right ? But I was not raised to have strong beliefs in that area so thats just my opinion. Thanks for all your advice guys still dont know what to do but I guess Ill work it out