I am a woman and really, I'd be very confused. I mean what is his reasoning

Well, I see what you mean. Most GUYS are that way. But you know I am a girl. You will be able to love you just have to know and believe and heave faith that you will find then right one one day. She will make you happy again and I know that she will be the one for you! Don't let this person hold you down. She is just a crab, pulling you down to her level making you feel like the bottom of the ocean, you just hold your head high, higher than the clouds. Don't look for the girl that will be yours one day you'll look up and find her just randomly!

I think that someone that is ready to get married should be sure. In some cases it could take them twenty years to make sure that they are sure, and some may be less. Really, It does depend on the person and thier personality.