bellong:
"If you meet a lady,..... date her at least 6months... .

If you know what you want, 6 months is too much knowing some basic and fundamental things about a person.

My Advice To Guys
If you meet a lady, take time to know her, date her at least 6 months, build the friendship first, try and bond, open your eyes to every sign of deceit before flashing the ‘M’ (marriage) word. If the friendship isn’t working don’t even try to jump to Marriage. Marriage works best between best friends. Focus on looking for a good girl irrespective of her background and avoid those 'advert boards' designed to deceive, if you want peace of mind.

Aprime:
^^^ Marriage is a life time investment. It's better to know the woman you're dating inside - outside before putting a ring on that finger. Six months and more is good. I say build friendship first.

Woged2005:

What's the rush for if you love her? Invest time and effort in building quality friendship first before marriage. Don't marry then try to build friendship into it. You may be seeing someone's, freshened, happy and good mood yet you haven't known his/her angry, sick, moody, under pressure, etc moods.
What we see in dating most times is the 'Active mode', and not the 'ghost or silent modes'. "..People don't throw stones when they are happy, rather they do when they are angry..and stones hurt.."

bellong:


I only need to interact with a lady for some hours before I understand who she is. Some things can't be faked.

Woged2005:


Hmmmmm! @bellong. That's scary. You may be jumping to conclusion a lot if you meet a very complicated lady like me. Even my co-workers for many years still say they don't understand me..

jmoore:
Are you saying I should not marry a virgin, huh?

Driven:
@woged2005, so, you had to rain your vitriol on virgins to give your unsolicited, somewhat incoherent advice to guys?

Please, leave virgins alone! Stop attacking them under one guise or the other. Let those who have chosen to respect God and their bodies be! Go ahead and support those who give their bodies for recharge cards, but let virgins be. Let them live, biko.

alutacontinua:
I still don't get what this thread is about.
Is this about Christian girls or Christian girls in relationships or how long men should date?
As bellong said, for 2 people who know what they want, you don't need 6 months to know, you might need 6 months to court but not 6 months to know

And yes, there are Christian LADIES in relationships.

bellong:


No matter how complicated you are, you have a basic "structural foundation". It is that basic thing I need to understand, all other things can be worked out.

It is not rocket science

coogar:
all these tips because of marriage? na wa o!!!



6 months is too long for some ladies - they want the M word after 2 months & if they don't see any prospect, you can always expect them to keep a side-negro elsewhere. whoever pops the question quicker gets the princess.

your advice is a bad one.

Woged2005:

@Cooger see my response above ^^^^^^^^^^

6 months is a general estimation. By the way marriage is the biggest investment for a lady. when it goes bad almost everything in her life goes down with it. No amount spent on learning more is a waste.

coogar:


you better remove this bit before hell angels(NL feminazis) descend on you. marriage is the biggest investment for a woman? hell no - that's not what their philosophy says.

Woged2005:



@coogar ...hei we ladies know ourselves and know what matters most to us in life because we do our girl-talk behind closed doors just a guys 'yab' in the bar. Any Nigerian lady who says marriage doesn't matter to her is obviously in minority. Trust most ladies who talk like that do so out of frustration of how some men treat women in relationships...that statement is just a mere shield to protect our often battered emotions.

coogar:


before i continue this conversation, lemme check again if you are a woman.

brb!!!

Woged2005:


I am dear, and happily taken by a naija bro too.....you follow my posts and see I have been very consistent even when I am being attacked from left and right by so-called feminists. My core principles passed onto me by my late mom are very simple - I am an African woman and value my African roots with the attached respect to womanhood as the maker/ builder of the home supporting and helping my mate to raise our kids in a peaceful home through the help of God. I'm not in a marriage or relationship to compete with a man rather to be pampered, loved, and to enjoy myself...

R.I.P mom!

coogar:


i am starting to envy your husband.
now - where was coogar when you were single & searching? i think seun has to put a feature on his forum where the singletons can be spotted from a mile away.

it's refreshing that women like you still exist.

Woged2005:

Thanks for the compliment my brother, I was single when I came to NL though but you no shine your eyes well.. another smart NL brother did sharp, sharp, bumper-to-bumper..no breathing space o!

Anyhow there are many good Nigerian ladies home and abroad. You just need to overcome that prejudice that placates all Nigerian ladies as materialistic and be realistic with your search criteria. There are no saints in this planet..one may be good in one aspect yet lacks in another. I've just realized that no person was born bad..life situations and the environment condition people but true friendship brings out the best in people as you work hard to impress each other. May God lead you to that true friend IJN!

coogar:


who is this mysterious brother?

is it by any chance pickabeau? he's the only sharpshooter i know of. the best marksman in lagos state.

Lollz.... Pickabeau 1....sharpest shooter in the hood!!!!


I concur with 90% of Woged2005's posts.
Its amazing to read from her as her views come from a "strange angle" compared to many here.

Sadly enough I have watched over the years how many women will always come and attack her posts left, right and centre. Still she is one of the few people I follow here.


And Mr Bellong, don't you think too many details will fly you by in 3-4months?
You do know some people are non-professional actors, they can fake themselves into a man's heart!!!

I believe in 6months there would be some level of acquaintance where u both begin to show your true colors.

I never ever wanted a "church girl" right from my teenage days simply because most of them have always been proven to be hypocrites.... We see them everyday rolling with the not so "churchy" dudes in town so what is left to desire from them?