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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 6:40pm On Apr 11, 2011 |
prittigrrr:] Hmmmm, well, I can't argue with that. If there's no communication anymore, then forget about it. It's truly not worth it. Well, since you're in Houston now, I think we should get together sometime. (You never know, I might be the one to introduce you to THE ONE). I believe I still have your email address, so if you agree, I'll send my number to you. Just hang in there, it'll all be good in time IJN. Later @ajigglin & Wislet, Thanks. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 7:22pm On Jun 24, 2011 |
Never thought that I would be back here saying this, but the wedding had to be called off as we ran into a complete brick wall. I found out some info that she didn't tell me for obvious reasons. It's really deflating when you think you know someone and then find out that you don't. I honestly wished this could have been a story with a happy ending, but I guess it won't be. Signing out. 1 Like |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nekai(f): 10:00pm On Jun 24, 2011 |
serubawon: Noooo! So sorry to hear that as I have been following your saga for quite some time. I know what you mean about thinking you know someone, but it's better a broken engagement than a broken marriage anyway. Don't worry, I know you will find your happy ending eventually! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ikamefa(f): 2:51am On Jun 27, 2011 |
serubawon: awwwwwww and i was ready to dance alanta @ ur wedding! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ifyalways(f): 11:10am On Jun 27, 2011 |
ikamefa:Not to worry,Dayo's place is always available especially for 'private alanta moves'.lol @OP,Everything works out fine for God's children.Be of good cheer ! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ifyalways(f): 11:12am On Jun 27, 2011 |
ikamefa:Not to worry,Dayo's place is always available especially for 'private alanta moves'.lol @OP,Everything works out fine for God's children.Be of good cheer ! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 1:29pm On Jun 27, 2011 |
complete brickwall that sounds final with her. well mayb you can hook up with pritigrrr now. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ikamefa(f): 8:38pm On Jun 28, 2011 |
ifyalways: na winch dayo be dat one? |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 8:52pm On Jul 03, 2011 |
@Nekai. Thanks, but I doubt it. I think I'm beginning to agree with the fact that real love comes around only once. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by mafolayomi(f): 1:51pm On Jul 05, 2011 |
serubawon: 4 d fact that i have been following yr story. not to worry, just dont zero yr mind just like taht, something good will come up soon IJN |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by spoilt(f): 4:31pm On Jul 05, 2011 |
Oh no! That's terrible. Anyway maybe the stars have aligned for you to get with pretty girl. , just saying. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by nemesis(f): 11:55pm On Aug 11, 2011 |
Wow!!! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by nemesis(f): 12:20am On Aug 12, 2011 |
i am new to nairaland and dis is d 1st story i have read that touched my heart. initially i thought it was a fake story by one of dese crazy men, but guess what, i actually know serubawon.d story sounded so familiar that i started doing some investigations of my own. don't worry serubawon, i wont leak d goodies on u, however just to let u know i know u think about dis, u attend one of d rccg's in houston right? d 1 on bissonnet to be precise.i gues u get d picture. u might have seen me but i dont tink u know mme at all. also i know d lady u dated. her name start with a. well since u dont have a picture, i can say with confidence ladies dat he is handsome oooooooo. dis is going 2 be a lot of fun. me'll be watching u in church dis sunday serubawon. takia! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 3:19am On Aug 12, 2011 |
nemesis: . Who is this? |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 4:09pm On Aug 13, 2011 |
serubawon:As the name goes, it's NEMESIS. Like, ''ur worst nightmare''. She claims to know you. Probably does, so wat does she wanna achieve? To catch ur attention and probably get to meet her? Lol. Women. Someone will always know someone. Just move on wit ur life dear. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by nemesis(f): 5:37am On Aug 14, 2011 |
Wislet: @wislet. 4 ur info, i'm not afta serubawon.just happen to know him and y do u tink i want to meet him. na wa 4 u women o.if i decide to reveal masef 2 him,den dats my prerogativ.i just tink it will be fun watching serubawon trying to pick me out of a crowd.come 2 tink about it,u neva know what might happen |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 1:00pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
^^^ I like you already. Is he truly handsome? I can leave my husband for him? |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 8:35pm On Aug 14, 2011 |
nemesis:Lol. ''u never know wat might happen''. Yes my dear, i agree with u- women sef. For real. U know u wanted to pique his interest wit ur statement, so he'll go searching.lol. Admit it. Anyways dat was a not-so-smart strategy. Now de young man wil be jumpy cos he doesn't know who is snooping/after his privacy. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by nemesis(f): 3:26am On Aug 15, 2011 |
Wislet:@wislet nobody dey afta d poor man privacy jare.na public place i dey c am.serubawon where u dey na?i tot u would have joined d discussion by now ke.by d way,i saw u in church o. u wore a black suit nd its nice when a man fills out a suit nicely.im not trying to freak u out,but i needed to say that so u will know dat i really know u o.ur kids r really cute.good genes abi? jennykadry:@jennykadry. yes he is very cute nd no u cant leave ur husband 4 him.give us single ldies a fightin chance nd dont be greedy.i wish i culd post a pic of him but dat wuld be extremely out of taste nd wrong.dat reminds me,who is dis pweety girl sef.she is d only 1 dat looks like competition o.serubawon pls dont take dis personally o,but im really gettin a buzz with dis anonymous thingy.from what i know of u,ur a nice guy nd i wont disrespect u in any way.dats a promise.d chances of u knowing who i am is like a milion 2 one.dont worry,ur secret is safe wit me.ciao all. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 7:28am On Aug 15, 2011 |
nemesis:Lol. U're real funny. Hehe. @jenny, LOL. U can try. Lmao. Our dear man already has a new r/ship & is hooked! So any aspiring lady- errrrrrmmmmm.lol @serubawon, dont be alarmed dear. Guess she's harmless.lol. Besides, wat u got to worry abt? A good woman plus beautiful children? Heck, anyone can know! Hav a great day. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 9:37am On Aug 15, 2011 |
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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 11:01am On Aug 15, 2011 |
^^^Ki lo de please leave Van out of this BTW nice tips. God bless your daughter. That girl will gbadun you dieee @Serubobo Please I am single and free, you wanno play? |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 1:41pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
chaircover:Good one dear. This is exactly wat i've been subtly trying to make the mama understand without spilling it here, but she's not quick to catch such things. Plus her trying to form like she's not interested in the guy, like i was a baby! Even Serubawon go know dis one. Lol.,,,though i think she's kinda late- de guy's already well hooked, with a good woman to boot! Hmmm. Plus, with this kinda tact (lack of) on her part, they mightn't last. He comes across as a really smart guy- de mind reading type. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 2:19pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
True sha. I have to agree that she's going about it the wrong way. Serubawon is so protective of his kids, Infact he does not joke with them at all and she(nemesis) talking about the kids has actually spoilt any plan of serubawon being with her. This is not the way to go about it. I also love the way he's ignored a lot of her replies. Very mature man, I must say. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by armyofone(m): 3:04pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
i just like this kin one, enjoying it. Where is the guy now, i hope Nemesis did send him away. chaircover gave you cool idea. also try to join choir, even if you no get good voice, stand for choir back ummm, back to reading only mode. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 3:14pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
Yea. And it's gonna put his defences up. I guess most ladies would be out of luck now cos he'd smell their pretenses a mile away. @serub, lol, i could almost see de smirk on ur face. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by oluite(f): 5:02pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
@nemesis please stick with chaircover advice. I think you came on too strong,guys enjoy the hunt no matter how hard they pretend they don't! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by MOBO999: 6:44pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
Now at poster am sorry for your loss, but to come over here to NL and post how life is tough as a widower, how u lost ur wife, how women hunt you down in pack, how scared you re of relationship, how financially well off you are and how u finding it not too rosy bringing up your 2 kids is just plain silly and cheap, please, please, please, please, this will do the memory of your late wife no good and this I know you will be ashamed to show your kids this post of yours when they grow up. One will think as an intelligent man you should know what to do (Did I hear the brother say YES) and please, please, please there are so many single and attractive loaded black brother out there financially, so dont for one moment think those rags of a women hovering all over you are worth their salt, why will any lady worth her salt hang around a widower with 2 children, please wake up and face reality, this rag post has got 7 pages now, dont desecrate the memory of your wife. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by MOBO999: 6:46pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
^^^ Why will any good thinking and smart lady bother with a widower and 2 kids, tell me the ladies that dont love new or good thing and a widower is not a good thing or a smart move, am also disappointed in all the ladies on this post, this just goes to show how cheap Nigeria women have become, am loving my life in England and have sinced moved on. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 7:48pm On Aug 15, 2011 |
MOBO999:@mobo, sometimes it pays to reason well before commenting. Did i say 'sometimes'? ALL the time. Who told you anybody here was interested in him <except one?>. And how does this discussion generate to insulting Nigerian women? U better be careful the way u run ur mouth where Nigerian women are concerned. And wat do u mean by saying he can't find a good woman? In ur myopic view(since u continually refuse to see beyond ur nose), being a widower is now a curse? U dont even worth a reply from anyone. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 6:40am On Aug 16, 2011 |
MOBO999: This thread has been on for almost 5 years now and not once has anyone said anything offensive till now. I had to read your post twice and then calm down before I could reply. I'm sorry if you feel that way and if the way I express my feelings rubs you the wrong way, then kindly find another thread to express yourself. A lot of times I read the posts on this thread and it encourages me. I'm not the first guy to become a widower and unfortunately, I won't be the last. My late wife's memory has never been tainted till you came onto the scene and that makes you someone I would love to meet face to face and sort it out like men (i.e. if you're a guy to begin with). I've read Nemesis' posts, but decided not to answer because I felt it was better for me to hold my peace. In your case, I'll make an exception. Since you're the intelligence expert and you know it all, what the heck are you doing on this thread in the first place? It seems we're all beneath you, so kindly take your 'intelligent suggestions" to another thread where they might appreciate it (i.e. if anyone can actually appreciate anything emanating from someone like you). As much as I would love to really tell you my mind, I'm sure I would be an immense disappointment to all the other posters who have at one time or the other commented on this thread. This thread is supposed to be for mature individuals, so I guess you get the point. @wislet, thanks for the backup. It was appreciated. You sounded like you were about to tear him a new ****** (sorry about that). @nemesis. I appreciate the comments and more so your discretion. I'm not particularly bothered, but you were getting a little bit scary. I apologize to everyone for letting off some steam, but this MOBO999 individual was beginning to get on my nerves. 2 Likes |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 7:14am On Aug 16, 2011 |
@serubawon, dont bother wasting time on Mobo. He deliberately winds people up and many of us just ignore him. I agree with you, his comments this time are very distasteful and disrespectful and he has stepped over the line between his dry and boring black women insults and tainting the memory of a very much loved one. However, dont let him get to you because that is what he wants. I think you have/are doing really well under the circumstances. You are not the only widower/widow on NL, and I am sure that this thread has been a source of encouragement for many. |
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