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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 4:57pm On Aug 18, 2011 |
oyinmama: Thanks. Obviously, I can't understand why some people would want to come here and be mischievous. If gibsonride is fake, then maybe he/she should truly experience the loss of a spouse or loved one. I don't think he/she would be so playful about it anymore. The only reason I started this thread was for people who have experienced loss in one way or the other, to encourage one another and help themselves to move on with their lives. It wasn't started to get sympathy, or get women as some people think. i am moving on with my life and this thread (in its own little way), has helped me to do that. Thanks for the suggestion. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 11:01pm On Aug 19, 2011 |
@ SERUBAWON, I was ''loving'' U and your thread, until u started exchanging words with that kid, Mobo. U should not have brought yourself so low to Mobo's level. All U needed do was to totally ignore him and his posts. Does he in anyway make sense to u at all? I thought u are a kind of man that can differenciate a sheep from a goat. Pls and pls don't fall my hand again. I'll try and ''love'' u again, ok? lol, I wish u well in all your endeavours. Cheers, 1 Like |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by MOBO999: 11:10pm On Aug 19, 2011 |
^^^ You must be a very silly girl, you just talk any how, do you even know what is happening, this is my issues with most ladies on nairaland. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 11:38pm On Aug 19, 2011 |
Seru was not exchanging words with him but putting him in his place. It takes a lot to hold you back when someone talks about your deceased wife without an iota of respect. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 12:10am On Aug 20, 2011 |
^^^ Don't u think the best way to put people like Mobo in their place is not to respond to any single word dat comes out of their mouths (keyboards)? They feel frustrated and silly and eventually leave u/thread alone. He is just an attention seeker that doesn't have anything meaningful to contribute, so the best way to treat him is to not give him the attention he craves.I know it is not easy to ignore such irritating posts, but its better on the long run. Have u heard the saying; silence is the best answer given to a fool? I'm a big fan of that. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 12:44am On Aug 20, 2011 |
bettymafy: You know what? You're right. I guess I just lost it a bit and I apologize to anyone who was offended. There is one thing I react to and that is anything against my family. It definitely won't happen again. jennykadry: @jennykadry. THANK YOU for understanding. It won't happen again. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 3:15am On Aug 20, 2011 |
Lol @ betty True that, but it is easier said than done. I ignore mobo's post alot and he has even gone ahead to call me names but that is alot different from insulting someone's wife who passed away prematurely leaving her kids and man behind, I MEAN YOU DON'T JUST INSULT SOMEONE LIKE THAT. This is a spouse we are talking about here not some randy woman. Yes ignore him but come on. . . . . . |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by MOBO999: 7:26am On Aug 20, 2011 |
@ Poster this heap of sorry word post from you has turn into something else, from your utterances i can honestly say you are not based in America, I saw how you use cheap words and so quick to use derogatory sexual words as insult, this is not the ranting of a widower, you are just a lagos boy who spend time on the internet (Yahoo boy) and on his free time come to Nairaland to paste sorryful words just to hook women. Soon you will be telling them nairaland women here on NL family section you re coming home from America, so they can send you their mobile number and then maybe meet you in a lagos hotel, when all the while you were in Lagos, we have done all this before. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by MOBO999: 7:28am On Aug 20, 2011 |
jennykadry: ^^^ What are you saying, you have been on nairaland for 13 years and have not learnt anything, cant you see from all the poster statement that he is just pulling the legs of your old women who re desperate, this same fellow has also posted a similar post on Nigeria village square, this is disgusting. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by SisiKill1: 7:47am On Aug 20, 2011 |
^^^^ Dude, STFU and STFD! God, you are so annoying!! |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 10:45am On Aug 20, 2011 |
Try to control your thinking and see the other side of your situation. Your KIDS need you MOST! Learn not to be ‘addicted’ to the past but to move forward and start new relationships. (Doesn't necessarily mean ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS) If you put forth effort to help others, you forget your own troubles. Regularly take long walks, during which you could open up your heart to God in prayer. Keep in touch with your friends by telephone, not to recall sad memories, but for the pleasure of keeping in contact. Although by nature you may enjoy solitude, but make it a point of opening up to others. (Reasonable ones Abeg) Take the initiative to approach people and befriend them. ( Not necessarily Romantic Friendships) Spend time with OLDER friends and benefit from their experience. If you tell people that you are lonely, they make more of an effort to be friendly with you. Develop a positive outlook Limit isolated recreation, such as TV viewing Seek friends who share your values, including people not your own age! ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 4:01pm On Aug 20, 2011 |
sexkillz: Thanks. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 5:43pm On Aug 20, 2011 |
^^^ You are welcome Brother! ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 6:30pm On Aug 20, 2011 |
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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by oohunt: 12:17am On Aug 23, 2011 |
Interesting post indeed! What happened to prittigrrr? @OP, life is surely not a bed of roses. I pray that God will continue to shower you with His blessings and fill the void in your family with His grace. It is well. Never give up hope. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 4:14am On Aug 23, 2011 |
oohunt: Thank you very much. I appreciate that and I think everyone has that question in mind. Prittigrr kind of disappeared from the face of the planet. Sad. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ikamefa(f): 4:08pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
![]() e don teyy! se as yawa don gass for dis thread!!! ![]() so @ seru na so u go dey look? i know you love ur kids but what about another woman to love u and help u take care of ur kids? ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 4:17pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
ikamefa: True. Those kids especially if you've got a daughter, will need a mother figure at some point in her life. It is the truth. You are a man and no matter how hard you try, cannot fit into the role of a mother. Men are there to teach their sons how to become men and mother's are there to tell their daughters what to expect from men when they grow up. A woman's good advise re relationship issues cannot be replaced. Do whatever makes you happy anywayz, but I think(I stand to be corrected) that it is about time those kids wants and needs in the future took first stage, they should be your utmost priority. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 4:46pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
jennykadry: @jennykadry & Ikamefa. I agree with both of you. However, it is not as easy as it seems. My 1st time in marriage was a lot easier. All I had to look out for was myself. It kind of just evolved on it's own and I wasn't even actively searching for a wife. All I did was to marry my best friend and it worked out perfectly. Now, it's different. My kids needs come first and mine second. Which means that I might see someone I like and find out that she might not be right for my kids. On the flip side, I might see someone wonderful for my kids and find out that I don't have an iota of attraction for the individual. I will do almost anything for my kids and that includes marrying someone who loves them, but doesn't have anything in common with me personally. It will just take me a longer time to get used to that person. I haven't met that person yet and I'm still praying. Till then, I'll be the best dad/mom I can be to my kids. I'm a little bit strict with them, but that's because I want them to have the fear of God and the highest values possible. My daughter scares me, because I have no idea what to do when she starts to change into a woman (which has already started). I have nightmares of young men coming to knock on my door and asking her out on dates, but I guess seeing me with a shotgun and a machete will put the fear of God in them. I so look forward to the days when each of them graduates from university, get married etc. All I want to be able to do is look upwards to heaven and just say Thank You to God almighty for turning a disaster into a fairytale. One day sha, God will bring a person who will help me achieve all this and that is all I pray for in life. So, the search goes on, 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 4:58pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
serubawon: My point exactly. Don't worry. God will see you through, But you need to relax, let down your guard a little. You are too stiff and serious. ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 4:59pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by ikamefa(f): 5:43pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
@ seru i see where u are coming from with God on your side things will surely work out anyway me i wan book flight ticket to texas the lone star state pretty soon, i wan dance alanta and lemmm " arozzo con pollo" ( rice and chicken) " @ ur wedding oh " ![]() ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 9:55pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
chaircover: Thanks and God bless you. You took the words out of my mouth. ![]() |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by SisiKill1: 10:01pm On Aug 23, 2011 |
Awwwwwwww! You guys. . .CC, Jenny, sexkillz, this is officially thread the SWEETEST thread on NL, thanks to you guys ![]() ![]() ![]() @ Serubawon Doesn't it feel good to know you have some fierce women who got your back? I'm sure they won't mind helping out with any "girl" issues you may have. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 12:08am On Aug 24, 2011 |
Sisi_Kill: I've always said the people on this thread are like a 2nd family to me. A lot of times when I have those down days, I go through this thread and it always perks me up, no matter what. That's why I always use any opportunity I get to thank all you guys. To you, it might be just another thread, but it really means A LOT more to me. So, I really believe I've been blessed to have the kind of people who have contributed to this thread at one time or another. Who knows, maybe we'll have a re-union one day in the future. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 7:24am On Aug 24, 2011 |
serubawon:Haha. I say a big YEA to that., when we'll be coming for de wedding. *wink*wink* :-D |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by serubawon(m): 5:19am On Aug 26, 2011 |
Wislet: @Wislet. In good time my sister, in good time. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by nemesis(f): 5:46am On Aug 26, 2011 |
eyaaa.it is nice when u see ppl showing luv 2 a person dey have neva met.serubawon,always b ursef cuz dis is what ppl respond 2.see d way ppl rose 2 ur defence when dat nincompoop mobo started shooting blank bullets everywhere.i wish i culd post a pic of serubawon & my husband, but as much as i want 2, i no d poor guy wuld neva 4give me (& my husband wuld kill me patapata).anyway sha, me sef dey wait 4 wedding bells,since i go dey there personally.come 2 tink of it sef,where is pweetygirl na.it looked as if sometin was brewin b/w her & serubawon sometime ago.wetin come happen now?well,serubawon i wish u d best in ur future moves o.i copied dis thread and showed it 2 some friends of mine.u don become a little celebrity o.takia sha. |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 1:34am On Aug 27, 2011 |
^^^ WTH are you posting here? You are still talking about pictures? D dude's told you to stop this creepy statement of yours and you are still here trying to flex muscle like say you know am pass everybody? And you showed this thread to two friends of yours who by the way might know him, are you crazy? Did your husband marry you from a well or from a civilized community? How did you even answer interview questions before getting your visa to the US? The man wey marry this dullard get liver abeg. I really mean WTF? Abi you want to leave your own husband for him? because I thought him indirectly and directly saying that, that joke of yours was too expensive would have sent you down under never to resurface. @seru Beware oooo, make this woman no add love portion for inside ya guiness 1 Like |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Nobody: 8:47am On Aug 27, 2011 |
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Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by Wislet(f): 9:35am On Aug 27, 2011 |
I WONDER. Or is she seeking for cheap popularity (5 mins glory) for the status of someone that knows the guy? Or she wants to relish the moment when desperate women will contact her/befriend her to give them access to the guy or help them snag him. As a single lady, i know the importance of WISDOM, LESS TALK, MORE THINKING, AND TACT. But clearly some married women don't know how to gain and keep their husbands' trust. Even her own husband shouldn't have known, not to talk of 'friends'. And from the friends, the stuff becomes an open secret. Trust some women. @seru, pls be careful. Dont giv out any more personal info about u to anyone. 1 Like |
Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by spoilt(f): 10:58am On Aug 27, 2011 |
You guys should ease up on nemesis. It is not that serious. Questioning her suitability as a wife now? C'mon. @ nemesis e don do. We know you know him. He'll probably not be frank here anymore as per everyone in church will now be updated by you! |
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