Most affections are obtained by trick hence the rampant break ups and divorces in relationships and marriages. Sounds obvious ? Enjoy my attempt to prove howso.

NB. Man/men are used to denote both sexes in this piece.

I believe an honourable man would be willing to live with his seemingly wrong decision than suffer a swindle without reacting. And most men are honourable simply by reciprocity. Only an immature adult refuses to take responsibility for their voluntary decisions either it turns good or bad. Moreso, the luxury in self reproach makes a man feel no one has a right to judge him once he has judged himself.

When the Yoruba says,' what hungers a child does not constipate him', they in fact mean a child who has been indulged with his desire has no moral basis to complain ( of the effects of such indulgence ) afterwards. This further leads credence to my theory that a man is more likely to persist with his choice with minimal fuss even if it does not turn out as anticipated.

Let's attempt a graphic illustration using a self examination quickly.

1) What mobile telecommunication service do you patronize ?

2) What's your choice voluntary ?

3) Have such network never given you a reason to believe you erred in your choice ?

4) Why have you persisted with it
nevertheless ?

If your response to question 2 is yes, and given the peculiarity of all mobile network in the country, your response to question 3 is also yes, then whatever your defense was in question 4 is unimportant.

It is at best, a proof of man's stubborn innateness to persist with his choice. If not for anything, at least to prove he knows what he is doing or has done. A man wants to know he is right.

On the other hand, when a man has the conviction that he was not wrong after all, but was actively misled by wilful manipulation or misrepresentation of facts and figures, his reactions can be unbelievably incendiary.

It is akin to been swindled. Swindle means to deprive of by deceit. When you swindle a man , the result is that you make him feel foolish like he does not know what he's doing or has done. When you trick a man into making a decision or patronizing a service, the unpredictability nature of man should be expected.

In fact, it is criminal and the law enforcement agent calls it OBT. Obtainment By Trick.

Problem arises for most men when they can't prove this swindle against the swindler. They even look and feel more stupid because of the helplessness. In marriage where swindling is commonest at the moment, a spouse may resort to unfaithfulness to protest this injury to the ego.

I wrote this piece with the primary aim of proving that the most singular remote factor responsible for unhappy marriages and consequent divorce rates is obtainment by trick!

The world is increasingly getting artificial and everyone is getting caught up in the make believe. Nowadays, nothing can be taken for its face value. A lot of editing goes beyond the scene.We all want to impress each others. Even though we re all guilty ,the female genders are the worse offenders.

It is perplexing because when the chips are down, what we all crave as humans is that person that can take us ' for who we are '. How can such person find and persist with us when we can't even admit who we are ?

Adedayo OlaOluwa fisayo aka Ogbeni La writes from the Sunshine state.

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