chronique:
Those of you asking him to divorce her,are in a way wicked. Have you people forgotten that some of us are still single and looking for wives? Do you want us to go and use head to carry this type of bad market that OP wants to throw away?

@ OP: pls whatever you do,do not divorce her. Find where to tie that thing to. But if you must send her away,pls let me have a picture of her so that where ever I see her,I can run with my two legs.

But on a serious note,this is scary. You are in a deep problem. Your best bet is total separation from her. That thing aint a wife.

some people are effortlessly funny

WombRaiders
post=29493550:


All that glitters is not gold. You could end up with shinny gold sprayed
aluminium crap.

On most accounts beautiful people are highly bad mannered and selfish.

I don't see the beauty of a vile woman. Being extremely handsome and a
sex god myself I find myself dating girls for their knowledge, depth,
spiritual balance and reservations. I have dated a lot of supposedly
fine girls because of my looks but i could not stand their b1tchiness
and wh0re flirting. Beauty can be a magnet but their character is what
makes me stick around.

My current babe is average and a far cry from the narsistic cun.ts I
dated in the past and she is definitely a keeper on all levels. To me
she is a beauty only thing is that all the scars I got from those
b1tches on my heart make it difficult to completely lose myself with her
or any woman. I am praying to GOD to make me love again and her in
particular. Only problem is that she views my looks as a sign that I am a
potential cheat in the making which I am not. This is the disadvantage
of being handsome or beautiful you make your spouse unnessary jealous.

Oga, stop being overtly self promotional. I wonder who u tryna impress with all these talks. Mchew

OnyeIbo:

Oga, stop being overtly self promotional. I wonder who u tryna impress with all these talks. Mchew

Worwor must you comment?

If I had dropped the beema levels nko?

Haters can go and die!

My d1k tho.... Will make you commit suicide like bright chimaze

Run for your life or your life will run from u. I haven't seen any family where the wife surports financially that don't go into some quarrel. Talk to her first to know her problem b4 deciding on the nxt move. But bro, u truely need to run for your life. Don't mms those calls. it is just to get your blood high, that is if u mind it. If it is divorce she want give it to her quicker than she expect. I repeat, quicker than she expect.

OP, see the work wey devil give you.

coogar:
your wife wore bütt-pads while she was pregnant? to impress who?

who are the parents raising these brainless bimbos? before separation, you need to have a word with her parents.

Like seriously. I mean correct ,direct ,hot , without respect words that would involve their fathers mother

Dating is a facade. You can never know who you are with until both of you start living together. I dated my ex for 6 years and after 5years of marriage i realized i never knew her.

Marriage is like a black market, no matter how long you date or how he/she seem to present a certain nature,you must be ready for pleasant or unpleasant surprises and you must confront it head-on and bring about solution and not disengagement because every marriage you go through has a peculiar trouble.

Timbuktou:
Idiiot. How is your comment relevant to the post you quoted? If you have nothing good to say, shut up and go to sleep. Mumu

Oboy why u dey insult her like dat nah, wetin happen?

See why Men and Women need to stop getting married? Its really archaic . Just knack any girl and have kids and move on.. Nonsense

BABANGBALI:
قثصبلغ اعهخخ رليش رةنخح لفغ ؤيسثصشسسثيب

Na you talk am.

Misogynist2014:
You deserve a very hot slap.

You made your bed buddy..

Op, until I hear from your wife I will reserve my comment.


You don't use one party's account to decide who is right or wrong - Go run your home like every other men out there,brave the odds and conquer your wife with love unconditionally.

Most of the people that are advising you here to divorce your wife can't even make a good home.....yes that's a fact.

I even saw a well known baby mama with a stinking attitude on NL who doubles as a [/b]misandrist[b] advising you on how to go about your marriage that is experiencing normal crisis which all marriages does experience ,though yours is a bit tougher than what most people do witness but there is still room for changes and common sense will prevail here if you follow the line of mending fences and accepting blames just to calm everyone that is involved down while gradually working on your wife's psyche and I can assure you that one day she'll come back to her senses and thank you for sticking around even when she has lost it all and this is the mark of a true man.

My Mom once said that some women after pregnancy do a lot of unimaginable things due to hormonal imbalance as a result of childbirth and if she's also depressed then you need to man up,swallow your pride because this nonsense will stop at a time and both of you will look back and congratulate each other for being calm when all hell was already breaking loose.

And finally ,divorce is not always the option as you again might end up with something much more worse that would make your ex wife to appear as a saint.
For the sake of mankind and especially your baby,sit down and think thoroughly about what you're not doing right and fix this problem, divorce does not guarantee anyone another happy life with another woman.

MAKE I GO PUSH MY TRUCK ABEG

I do not support divorce but I would rather you guys go for councelling, call her and talk to her, if she wouldn't give U any attention, send her inform of a text message, keep sending her good messages, pary for her instead and let go to let God

coogar:


they all see the signs but they will still forge ahead to marry evil people - hoping that jesus of nazareth will abracadabraly change the spouse from a demon to an angel.

This ur comment just made my nyt[b]

coogar:


they all see the signs but they will still forge ahead to marry evil people - hoping that jesus of nazareth will abracadabraly change the spouse from a demon to an angel.

This ur comment just made my nyt[/b]

coogar:


they all see the signs but they will still forge ahead to marry evil people - hoping that jesus of nazareth will abracadabraly change the spouse from a demon to an angel.

This ur comment just made my nyt

guy get a taped confession from her and police sister, hire a renownd lawyer who wil make a report to the police or even write to the I.G. Guy shine your eye. Or get witnesses that can attest to her actions when the need arise

Rep042:

Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

Good riddance to bad rubbish! Let her move on. You are better off without such a woman. You move on too, just choose more wisely this time
This woman is an id.iot. She obviously is clueless about who will come out on top in a divorce in Nigeria. Are you in Nigeria? If not, you may be screwed, financially anyway. In the end you will be better off without her.

Man up! Jarus is right. Don't take this from her. Kick her out!

Jarus:
Any woman that will try half of this with me and still remain in my house, has not been born.

Rosarie:
first year of marriage has a lot of challenges but dose her words re deep cos as a wife na she suppose dey pray for y n again she hails from a stipud home but in all i blame u cos GOD will nvs ever lead u on a rong path.GOD DDID NOT GIVE A GO AHEAD N AM SURE U HAD PRE MARITAL SEX HE HATES SIN N WILL ALLOW U MAKE UR DESICIONS.MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSE TO B A BLISS

God bless u ma

cococandy:
your house?
Is she a tenant?

Why won't some men have marital problems when they go about thinking the marriage is all about them and the family home is "his house".

Not nice.

Lorie, but hope you read comments from ladies here implying that the man made a mistake by allowing his WIFE pay some of the house' bills. One even said that the day a man allows his wife pay bills is the day he becomes a slave to her. I wouldn't have bothered if such statement came from the guys alone, but the fact that ladies made such statements left me thinking. If people have that believe in this century, then it won't be wrong if anybody says that the man owns the house afterall. I am not saying this because I have any plans to allow any woman pay any bills in my home (The gods forbid), but going by what's happening in our society nowadays, I think there is a lot of double standards in the way men and women relate these days and that's not encouraging people like us who are aspiring to get married. HNY!

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of ....

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

are u sure the baby is yours? Because from your story, ur wife's fidelity is in questn

WombRaiders:


All that glitters is not gold. You could end up with shinny gold sprayed aluminium crap.

On most accounts beautiful people are highly bad mannered and selfish.

I don't see the beauty of a vile woman. Being extremely handsome and a sex god myself I find myself dating girls for their knowledge, depth, spiritual balance and reservations. I have dated a lot of supposedly fine girls because of my looks but i could not stand their b1tchiness and wh0re flirting. Beauty can be a magnet but their character is what makes me stick around.

My current babe is average and a far cry from the narsistic cun.ts I dated in the past and she is definitely a keeper on all levels. To me she is a beauty only thing is that all the scars I got from those b1tches on my heart make it difficult to completely lose myself with her or any woman. I am praying to GOD to make me love again and her in particular. Only problem is that she views my looks as a sign that I am a potential cheat in the making which I am not. This is the disadvantage of being handsome or beautiful you make your spouse unnessary jealous.

you were just attracting your kind. Kini big deal?

cococandy:
you were just attracting your kind. Kini big deal?

I am not superficial

OP, I see a divorce needed to be. If a divorce can't be made then you and your wife should behave and act like BONOBOS but never act like a CHIMPANZEES.

Bros, I put the blame of what is happening squarely on u! Am sure u saw all these signs b4 u got married and yet u went ahead to marry her! If u know what is good for u consider that u ve no wife and u ve no home and no amt of prayer and fasting can change this one! Get out of that marraige fast b4 she kills u! Know also that there is nobody u can report her to so don't bother reporting her to anybody and pls I will advice u leave everything in ur house for her and go and start afresh! And don't appear to her if u decide to divorce her let ur lawyer handle the proceedings! God will see u thru!

donpeey22:
Lorie, but hope you read comments from ladies here implying that the man made a mistake by allowing his WIFE pay some of the house' bills. One even said that the day a man allows his wife pay bills is the he becomes a slave to her. I wouldn't have bothered if such statement came from the guys alone, but the fact that ladies made such statements left me thinking. If people have that believe in this century, then it won't be wrong if anybody says that the man owns the house afterall. I am not saying this because I have any plans to allow any woman pay any bills in my home (The gods forbid), but going by what's happening in our society nowadays, I think there is a lot of double standards in the way men and women relate these days and that's not encouraging people like us who are aspiring to get married. HNY!

I do not support such backward way of reasoning.
If you have money and can't help with bills around the house because you're a lady,why are you a partner then? Abi na decoration you be for the house ?

Things owned by married ppl belong to both of them and not one person.
That's why I cringe when I hear a man in this day and age referring to their matrimonial home as his house alone.

Or when a woman getting married is said to be going to a man's house.such statements are the reason why some ladies don't wanna put their money into tthe marriage since the man won't consider them an equal owner and partner too.

Happy new year too.

Bros nawa 4 u self... I'm sure U saw these signs in her, but still went ahead on marrying her#u gotta carry ur cross bro...but I'd suggest u leave the house for a while, till things cool down(that's if it ever does)...lesson for the young ones: Look before u leaP

chronique:
Those of you asking him to divorce her,are in a way wicked. Have you people forgotten that some of us are still single and looking for wives? Do you want us to go and use head to carry this type of bad market that OP wants to throw away?

@ OP: pls whatever you do,do not divorce her. Find where to tie that thing to. But if you must send her away,pls let me have a picture of her so that where ever I see her,I can run with my two legs.

But on a serious note,this is scary. You are in a deep problem. Your best bet is total separation from her. That thing aint a wife.

Goodness gracious!!!
Stop already, this is a serious sointin

I thought things like this happens only in Nollywood/yoruba movies where you will see a hot-tempered + seasoned-nagging woman (e.g Toyin Afolayan) and a overquiet + cool-headed man (Taiwo Hassan a.k.a Ogogo) having marital disputes....God will teach you wot to do o

Be a man...When next she start, go down on her...#women loves it





#You heard it first on.....#

Truckpusher:
Op, until I hear from your wife I will reserve my comment.


You don't use one party's account to decide who is right or wrong - Go run your home like every other men out there,brave the odds and conquer your wife with love unconditionally.

Most of the people that are advising you here to divorce your wife can't even make a good home.....yes that's a fact.

I even saw a well known baby mama with a stinking attitude on NL who doubles as a [/b]misandrist[b] advising you on how to go about your marriage that is experiencing normal crisis which all marriages does experience ,though yours is a bit tougher than what most people do witness but there is still room for changes and common sense will prevail here if you follow the line of mending fences and accepting blames just to calm everyone that is involved down while gradually working on your wife's psyche and I can assure you that one day she'll come back to her senses and thank you for sticking around even when she has lost it all and this is the mark of a true man.

My Mom once said that some women after pregnancy do a lot of unimaginable things due to hormonal imbalance as a result of childbirth and if she's also depressed then you need to man up,swallow your pride because this nonsense will stop at a time and both of you will look back and congratulate each other for being calm when all hell was already breaking loose.

And finally ,divorce is not always the option as you again might end up with something much more worse that would make your ex wife to appear as a saint.
For the sake of mankind and especially your baby,sit down and think thoroughly about what you're not doing right and fix this problem, divorce does not guarantee anyone another happy life with another woman.

MAKE I GO PUSH MY TRUCK ABEG

Without a sweeping generalization, you can force a horse to the river but cannot force it to drink water, this woman does not intend change neither does her family which intensifies the severity of his problems. Like someone rightly said here, "a bad wife with good parents is better than a good wife with bad parents". This man's disposition is gentlemanly and there is a limit to which your threshold for tolerance plays out. His wife is not remorse, has an inclination for promiscuity and clearly has zero love for him.

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

hmmmm we'll everybody to his/her opinion but wat I see here is death if she didn't kill u, u will kill urself of thinking and embarrassment...just leave d relationship and even if u call a family meeting dey will want to settle wat can't be settled so its ur life and not ur parent or wife life,if u die together she wil re-marry. Its up to u but I will say run for ur life