Hello.
This is real and not fiction,advice needed!
My boyfriend and I started dating officially when he broke up with his girlfriend because she got pregnant for him.it started when he was dating Someone and I was sort of a side chick to him,I really loved and knew secretly that his relationship with her won't last,so when he broke up with I expected him to make me his main and only chick,I'm still a student and mostly in school.

He said he couldn't cope with her jealous nature.I was happy and decided to leave school to see him,called him and he said his new girlfriend will not allow me to spend the night at his place,I was so angry because I thought I would automatically become hos real chick, so I cursed and abused him because I was terribly hurt,

After few months into their relationship he started chatting me up and telling me his girlfriend is pregnant but his family won't let him marry her because they don't know her and she is mot from their place,he told me he really wants to marry her but without his family's blessing he won't, I asked him what he would do about the baby he said his family is pressuring him to force the girl to abort it, but the girl was bent on keeping the pregnancy with or without him her reason being that she would not risk her life for anybody.

To cut the long story short he left her because of it and asked me to be his girlfriend and apologised for everything he did to me. I still loved him so I said yes.

My problem now is I'm worried because the girl has given birth and throughout her pregnancy he never bothered to ask about the girl and her health and even after she put to bed. Now the baby is 7months old and he only saw her for the first time when she was 6months old and he only went to see if the child is really his own,his daughter is a carbon copy of him. And after then he hasn't cared much about his daughter, he said it's extra cost for him and he is not ready to make such commitment!! How can someone I love be so heartless like this not to care for his daughter,even though I love him I feel karma will catch up on him and I don't want to be a part of it, he said the girl is doing very well for self.
The story is too long but if there are questions I will gladly answer.

This is a friends predicament and she told me about it so I decided to bring it online to ask people.

That guy must be fucckinly rich for you to keep your pusszy on standby for him while the main chicks are haviing a field day

Shows he is a man

How do u mean? @itbomb

D guy is hrtless n ve got no conscience..u better run 4 ur life b4 u bcome his nxt victim

He just has a regular job

He is from anambra and I'm from imo state and his ex with his child is from imo state too, I'm scared that his parents will refuse me if he proposes and I am also scared that if we get married his past will hunt us,I have spoken to him about my fears and also advised him to check on his child at least but he said he doesn't care afterall she has money to train the daughter alone! His parents too are not helping matters because they don't ask after their grand daughter,I'm just scared.

Sorry to tell u dis


You have no sense at all.

If d said guy can do dis to anoda person, what makes u an exception?

Use ur brain and stop thinking all about money.

blissonus:
How do u mean? @itbomb

Really, you are still asking?

Can a leopard change his skin?
Your supposed bf has no respect for you or any girl

Scenerio 1. He was dating someone and kept you at the side and abandon the girl after getting her pregnant (TWICE).

He is irresponsible and you dont even know him cos he only see a little flash when he comes to you and impress you just to get the punnnyy.
Spending 2 hours with a guy who is sure of getting in between your legs if he says the right words is the mistake girls make in thinking that they really know a guy.

Thank you imoy

Thank you itbomb

I think this OP is an ediot.
do u think so too?



then feel free to like da comment

Op you are an idiot and just like the main chics you will be used and dumped like a hot potato

You must have a low self esteem to allow yourself be used like a door mat in the name of sidechic, and always waiting for people to break up so you can burg in.
You give girls everywhere a bad name

I won't insult you because I can guess your age

Op so afta experiencing this things frm ur so called bf u still claim u re inluv wit him, my dear u beta run nd concentrate on ur studies. A broken relationship is beta dan a broken marriage.

blissonus:
He is from anambra and I'm from imo state and his ex with his child is from imo state too, I'm scared that his parents will refuse me if he proposes and I am also scared that if we get married his past will hunt us,I have spoken to him about my fears and also advised him to check on his child at least but he said he doesn't care afterall she has money to train the daughter alone! His parents too are not helping matters because they don't ask after their grand daughter,I'm just scared.

The sametin will happen to you if you don't leave him coz u are also from imo and his parent won't accept u ..
But why would u be waiting for people to break up so you can hop in That crazy and mind you having a kid isn't the matter coz a lady also got preg for me and i accepted the baby coz me and her re not compatible. but i do pay her 15k err month for the kid allowance ..

what makes u think he'll be good to u if he treats some other girl like that. use ur head

blissonus:
Hello.
This is real and not fiction,advice needed!
My boyfriend and I started dating officially when he broke up with his girlfriend because she got pregnant for him.it started when he was dating Someone and I was sort of a side chick to him,I really loved and knew secretly that his relationship with her won't last,so when he broke up with I expected him to make me his main and only chick,I'm still a student and mostly in school.

He said he couldn't cope with her jealous nature.I was happy and decided to leave school to see him,called him and he said his new girlfriend will not allow me to spend the night at his place,I was so angry because I thought I would automatically become hos real chick, so I cursed and abused him because I was terribly hurt,

After few months into their relationship he started chatting me up and telling me his girlfriend is pregnant but his family won't let him marry her because they don't know her and she is mot from their place,he told me he really wants to marry her but without his family's blessing he won't, I asked him what he would do about the baby he said his family is pressuring him to force the girl to abort it, but the girl was bent on keeping the pregnancy with or without him her reason being that she would not risk her life for anybody.

To cut the long story short he left her because of it and asked me to be his girlfriend and apologised for everything he did to me. I still loved him so I said yes.

My problem now is I'm worried because the girl has given birth and throughout her pregnancy he never bothered to ask about the girl and her health and even after she put to bed. Now the baby is 7months old and he only saw her for the first time when she was 6months old and he only went to see if the child is really his own,his daughter is a carbon copy of him. And after then he hasn't cared much about his daughter, he said it's extra cost for him and he is not ready to make such commitment!! How can someone I love be so heartless like this not to care for his daughter,even though I love him I feel karma will catch up on him and I don't want to be a part of it, he said the girl is doing very well for self.
The story is too long but if there are questions I will gladly answer.

This is a friends predicament and she told me about it so I decided to bring it online to ask people.

....so u sayn u want to hava child for yor boy friend coz he has child but u don't wantto trap him coz he has moiney?? 4real?

...this is exactly why I stop dakin black women 4 years ago (no oofeinse)

OP, please tell the chic in question to flee.
I like the fact that she believes in karma and wouldnt wanna be part of it.
why would a guy leave his own daughter just because hes not ready for commitments?
what kinda commitments exactly?
Its a different thing not wanting the girl back, but not taking responsiblity of the child, thats soo unfair..

He's wicked, dude is capable of anything. dump his asss. He has a baby to take care of.

its threads like this dat make me rethink being a nice guy.. girls always want the asshole.. every damn time!!!

#cheers

Girl if a man can be as heartless as that there is no boundary or limit the guy will not go.... Reading this to me he likes the girl but its only cus of his family he let go just because she wont abort.... No doubt a baby mama will always be in the picture and even as much as much as he doesnt want to have anythin to do with the child, the child will later ask of her father and you never no what the future holds! My take is with a man like that you dont need complications in your life.... As much as he may claim he loves you, he should never had made you the side chick no matter what the situation is.... Your school is your priority at the moment and i will suggest you just focus on that and what will be will be!

From the story you are just a stand by....and an option. You made yourself so. Are you super ugly?. Holding on and desperate for an incorrigible guy.
You must be a Gullible fellow.

trashy, silly girl

There is an adage"The rod used to beat the senior wife will also be used to beat the younger wife"....dont regret later,run for your life except you want to suffer in love.

side chicks are evil!

Karma will surely eat your ass, and that of your silly boyfriend!!!