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10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by badassProdigy(m): 12:24am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Sex doesn’t have to be the end of a friendship. You can still stay friends afterwards! Here’s how you can make that transition from lovers to friends. #1 TAKE YOUR TIME You may have both decided that you want to remain friends after your fling or relationship, but that doesn’t mean you have to dive in headfirst. Take it slowly. If you go a few weeks without seeing each other, that’s okay. It’s probably even better to try and keep your distance for a little while. #2 GO IN GROUPS When you do start seeing each other again socially, try to make sure it happens in a group setting. Go out with mutual friends and try to treat each other like you would any other friend. Avoid going with another couple as it can seem like a double-date this way. #3 AVOID ALONE TIME If you can’t find other friends to go with, make sure you hang out somewhere where you won’t feel like it’s just the two of you. #4 STAY DRY Do not drink alcohol. Drinking will most likely lead to one of two outcomes: getting in a heated argument or drunkenly stumbling into bed again. Since these are the last two things you want to happen when you’re trying to establish your friendship, drinking should be avoided at all costs. #6 BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR NEW PARTNERS While you definitely shouldn’t talk about the new sex you’re having, there’s nothing wrong with telling your ex-lover and new friend when you start seeing someone new. #7 AVOID OLD ROUTINES At least in the early stages of your friendship, it’s best to avoid your old stomping grounds. Stay out of the restaurants where you went on dates or the hangout spots where the romance blossomed. Remember, you’re starting over from scratch and you need to keep a clean slate. #8 AVOID BEING POSSESSIVE The most important thing for both of you to do is to be mature. And the best way to show your maturity is to not be possessive of your ex-lover. Remember, you’re friends now, and you need to treat each other that way. #9 DON'T TRY TO PROVOKE JEALOUSY While it’s important for both partners to overcome their feelings of jealousy, it is also important to not try to stir them up either. It can be a short term ego boost knowing that your ex is jealous of your new flame now, but it’s immature to try make them feel that way. #10 FIGHT TEMPTATION For many people, this is the single hardest step of all. Even if both people want to stop having sex, and 99% of the time you don’t even want to, there’s still the temptation that can potentially ruin your judgment and lead you to do something you’ll later regret. Sometimes, an ex-lover can be like an addiction, one that you know is bad for you but you can’t say no to. It usually strikes late at night, or after a few drinks when you make that phone call or lean in for a goodnight kiss. Self-control is your ally here! |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by Davotee(m): 12:28am On Feb 11, 2015 |
I agree |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by Nobody: 12:39am On Feb 11, 2015 |
I agree |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by siegfried99(m): 12:51am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Hmmmm |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by Nobody: 1:43am On Feb 11, 2015 |
It will definitely happen again. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by samuelson06(m): 2:46am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Would possibly have to let my ex see this so that we can fight it together. |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by badassProdigy(m): 7:39am On Feb 11, 2015 |
softysparky:y are u so sure... |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by Nobody: 7:43am On Feb 11, 2015 |
All this one na story. Once debe always debe. |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by falconey(m): 7:49am On Feb 11, 2015 |
this sound like lot of work.......just walk away |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by emperorchedda(m): 9:38am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Why be friends with an ex? You are done with your business so just go on with other stuffs |
Re: 10 Ways To Stay Friends After Being Intimate by Nobody: 9:53am On Feb 11, 2015 |
badassProdigy:Because you can't give a goat yam to keep. |
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