Warning: These "Getting over someone" tips will make you numb

Getting over someone can sometimes appear to be impossible. It feels really bad when you fall in love with someone you can’t have but It feels even worse when you become sure that this relationship you are in can never work.

Sometimes ago I was ultimately convinced that breakups are the worst thing that could ever happen to someone. I used to believe that forgetting about someone is one of the hardest things in life, especially if you had the feeling that he/she was the one. I used to carry all of these beliefs in my mind until that day came where i went deep into the psychology of falling in love and discovered that getting over someone can take less than 2 weeks if the proper instructions were followed!!

After reading this post, your way of thinking will be permanently modified, those breakups that kept you depressed for years won’t take few weeks or even days before you forget about them. Getting over someone will be a process that takes weeks if not days.

How to get over someone, A step by step guide

Few concepts you must understand:

"The One" Concept is a myth: One of the main reasons if not the main reason people don't recover from breakups is that they believe in the one Myth. Your subconscious mind can never heal if it believed that the person who broke up with you was the best person who ever existed. By learning more about the "one" concept and understanding that we all have lots of potential partners out there you will be able to get rid of the pain associated with a breakup

Lots of people can be the One: We fall in love with those who match some of the criteria we have in our subconscious mind. This means that more than one person can match our criteria!! Moreover you might fall in love with someone who matched 30 out of your forty subconscious criteria while in fact there could be a person out there who matches 35 of them!!

Being dumped doesn’t mean that you are bad: Contrary to common beliefs a big part of the pain experienced after a breakup is not related to the person we loved but to our hurt Egos, shaken self confidence, worries about the future and the feelings of loneliness. By learning how to divide your bad feelings into small parts and by understanding the root cause behind each part's you will be able to heal yourself completely without needing the person who dumped you!!

Recovering from breakups much faster: Once you understand why do we fall in love, why we feel bad after breakups and how love psychology works you won't only recover from the current breakup but you will get over the next ones much faster. You will never have any problems getting over someone and You will know how to get over someone even if you think that you can't forget him.

How to get over anyone by correcting your beliefs

Getting over the emotions not the person!: Just as i mentioned above, A hurt Ego, shaken confidence or even worries about the future can be the main reasons you feel bad after a breakup. The first step to getting over someone is to make a list of all the bad feelings you have and determine which ones are related to the person you loved and which ones are related to other reasons. For more information on how to do this check out I was dumped and its killing me.

Everything reminds me of him!: When two events become associated with each other in the mind so that the occurrence of one of them reminds you of the other then this is called an anchor(for example listening to a song that reminds you of a certain situation that happened before). When you try to get over someone you will usually face lots of anchors that will remind you of that person and that's why you should learn how to break these anchors.

Love addiction prevents recovery from breakups: Love addiction is the case where people become addicted to relationships for the sake of solving other problems in their lives and getting rid of their bad emotions. Some people get into relationships in order not to feel lonely, to get over anxiety or even depression. If you are a love addict then you won't be able to get over the person you loved before you deal with love addiction.

There are no ones!!: There is no such a thing as the one or the soul mate but we do have many potential partners awaiting us out there.

Acceptance leads to recovery: Contrary to common beliefs, if you knew for sure that the relationship won't work you will start to recover. A person can only get over someone when he accepts the fact that he can't get him back else he will live on the remaining hope and suffer. If you can find a way to reassure yourself that the relationship is over you will easily be able to get over that person.


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