Don't conclude on dis cos u saw a condom in ur boo's kitchen.Do u knw weda a friend used his house to bang a gal? Kindly talk wt him one on one.It happened to me bfr.GL

seseannie:
Tnx for your responses bt I was nt snopping on him. I came back n he complained of hunger I went inside the kitchen to cook n I saw the condoms. I knw some men cheat bt at least they respect their partners throwing away the condoms would have been a better idea

Jackeeh:
hmmmmmmm reading through comments uploaded before mine I can't help but wonder: everyone now feel cheating is cool. Men are polygamous in nature, condoms might be used for other reasons( like fetching water), quit snooping around,we are mortals, it must have been used by his friend, don't get him angry when confronting him etc. Why can't men and women strive to be faithful to their partners and quit justifying their evil acts? Being faithful is not impossible. it may be difficult but its attainable. And should you slip and cheat, please don't be smart about it. being defensive and cooking up reasons for cheating ain't cool. when you cheat on your partner, you destroy him or her. if you are caught and instead of being sorry, u feel on top of the world, you reduce your partner to nothing. cheating isn't cool in anyway. be with a partner who makes ur heart beat fast each time u set eyes on him or her. don't settle for less, or money, sex, good looks etc

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I'm relieved. There is hope for our future. ..had thought all was lost.
May God bless you, bless your family, bless your business, bless your going out and your coming in.
And bless me too...and all who are faithful in their relationships.

I do not think moving on is the right thing to do in this situation. If you leave him cos he's cheating on you, I wonder how many men you want to date before you finally get married. I don't think you want to go that line. The truth is this: Men easily cheat more than women. Ur bf is not the worst human being on earth so I don't see any reason why u shld run.

However, I know for sure the situation can be managed if truely he's been cheating on you. It is best you confront him about the condoms you found. Whether he denies it or not I would advise that you don't take it lightly, if possible, create a scene that shows that you are very mad at him. And threaten to leave the relationship. Make sure you don't communicate with him anymore in whatever form. Disconnect totally from him. But remember, it not like you want to leave him but doing all these will send it straight to his skull that next time will not be funny at all. Now that you are disconnected is the time for you to know if this guy loves you or not, whether he wants you in his life or not, whether he respects you or not - that's if he's trying to get back to you by all means. Meanwhile, let him feel what cheating could do to your once peaceful relationship.

If he comes back begging, allow some time first, before you accept him back. You will notice that boundaries will be set after your coming together again.

Conversely, if he refuses to beg or apologise for you guys to come back together again, I think you shld stay away from any other relationship for a long time you an bear. This is to give him ample time to own up and come back to his senses and also to let him know you won't accept cheating in your relationship with him. This you shld do if you still have feelings for him but you can't accept him cheating on you.

Hahaha @op na ur type no dey give ur bf sex dats why he has naked the gal next door on d street or carry ashewo come house come bulala haha omo no be new thing so...u think say na ur soup he go dey chop every time he go taya am...gal if u leave. dis guy it's possible the guy will get marries to another babe and you go dey old dey go..husband scarce o

Benilily:
that post wasn't silly, i think u lack the ability to understand the point the guy was trying to make... If she quits now, how sure are you that her next won't be worst?? Men are polygamous in nature so i still think she should talk things over with her guy in matured manner and not running away like a fustrated coward!

I'm sorry but how can you be making excuses for a cheating man? It's one thing that he cheats on you, but to have you defend him afterwards? That's some fecked up sh1t. What then do they have to talk about since you already said it's in a man's nature to cheat?You are supposed to love yourself better than this.

Waoh!! Even with my fbi nature, i cant search the garbage....but hey he is almost your husband.you can ask but you wont get more than "" hey baby how can you not trust me? It was Jonathan that came around with his girlfriend........""

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

please think well naw before you marry each other. You can quit now but cannot quit in marriage. And beside, what will a responsible man be doing with a used condom and not an unused one. Please think well. Although dont give up on him, you can still change him.

Afam4eva:

One of the very many senseless Nigerians out there who are always quick to offer their un-enlightened opinions. Tufiakwa gi.

Sensible Nigerian insulting a senseless Nigerian for airing his opinion .
Now, who's sensible?

searching4love:




SO YOU SAW TWO USED CONDOMS PROVES WHAT DID YOU MET HIM ON TOP OF ANOTHER WOMAN IF I WERE THE GUY I WILL SEND U PACKING LIKE A PIECE OF GARBAGE. IF YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM IN LITTLE THINGS THEN YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE A WIFE IF WE DIG DEEP INTO YOUR AFFAIRS NOW YOU WILL SURELY HAVE OTHER GUYS SHINING YOUR CONGO TOO SO WHATS THE FUSS ABOUT MANY OF YOU GIRLS THINK YOU CAN EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT. AFTER SO MANY YEARS OF SLEEPING WITH VARIOUS MEN ALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE, YOU THINK YOU CAN HOOK A NIGGA TO BE THE PERFECT MAN FOR YOU. I DON'T PITY YOU AND IF I WAS THE GUY I WILL BEAT YOU WITH MY BELT BUCKLES BEFORE I THROW YOUR ASS OUT NONSENSE

you're SICK,you're a PSYCHO. Your place is in the funny farm,that's where you belong! Psycho of a being!

tivta:
. My sweet sister, let me tell you a short true life story of my friend(
Real life story that is still on going).
He dated a virgin and just a week before the traditional marriage he sowed his last "wild oat"(he had an affair). His wife to be found out, he begged she went on with the marriage but she never forgave him. She even went as far as laying a curse on him for cheating on her, that he won't progress etc(cause she has always been faithful). My friend never foundout about the curse until when he discovered he is no longer being paid at work and has nothing to show for his years of labour. He has apologized times without number for cheating and tried to make amends but the girl won't just let the past be. She eventually gave birth to a baby boy for my friend, but still made trouble for him cause of his one night stand. Now my friend has asked her to live his house and return his child, cause he is done with her curses and unforgiving heart(even God forgives). Now my dear sister, who will suffer for the most for all these? Its the woman,its because here in nigeria, its extremely difficult for single female parent to get married(a well known fact) and the guy may still struggle, but once he can get the curse off his head, he can easily remarry. Now my dear believe it or not, have only cheated once on my GF in the past, but as soon as I cheated on her I broke up due to guilty conscience.
The moral of this story is, if any party sins, try as much as possible to forgive and forget, cause no human being is perfect. If you as a woman can't tolerate a cheat, make sure you tell your bf from the very first day. Also be prepared to accept another type of abuse from him cause like I said, no man or woman is perfect. He maybe a verbal abuser or physical abuser, dirty, stingy, boring etc. The fact still remains all men and women have one flaw or the other. My dear sister am saying all these so you don't end up like my friend cause I know lots of single mothers outthere that are leaving in hell cause of the pride they have. Take care.

hmmm.....I commend you for your nice words n gesture ,unlike the babies that have been throwing tantrums. I only wrote what I wrote because they are not yet married. To avoid what your friend and his wife are going through. Not everybody has that mental capacity to forgive easily and move on, so why not make hay when the sun shines? And also thanks, I've got mine in control. Wisdom is key to every facets of life's decisions and actions. If OP can cope with a cheating spouse, who am I to complain? Lol

mikolo80:
why do you reward people who cheat.psych 101.As log as we feel we can get away with a slap on the wrist,we will continue to cheat.Its just the way we are built.

good...a man should always cheat. let every man who knows how To cheat continue till d end of time....sebi its sex na, o ye men! continue to cheat!

kilokeys:
two rounds.. hmmm

1st round could pass as accidental discharge

2nd confirms he knows how to use his rifle well






_{nt all men cheat. . do what seems best. move on. or accept u wanna marry a sniper}

Nigerian sniper right??

mystiqueDZ:
Waoh!! Even with my fbi nature, i cant search the garbage....but hey he is almost your husband.you can ask but you wont get more than "" hey baby how can you not trust me? It was Jonathan that came around with his girlfriend........""

abi o.. then should ask abt allowing jonathan to bleep his lady in the kitchen.. or dispose std-laden cd in an environment where u prepare meals.

Op, be careful about who you listen to, some "advices" are just that; AD-Vice, they adds more vices than virtues to an already messed up situation, I'm not in a position to give u anything, if you have been with the guy for two years then that's time enough to KNOW him, therefore that puts u in a better situation to decide on what to do, I'm a stong believer of sorting every issue out with prayer first, and going with the flow, if it were me, I'd let the issue simmer for a while untill all of my emotions are in check, then I'd cook him an awesome dinner, buy him his favourite red win and ask him the question over a few laughs, if he had a friend over while I was away, if he says no, I'll pop in the question, if he denys been aware of such I'd show him the trash, already sealed off as exibit a , and mind you, having known him I'll know if he's lying, omo if he still deny, I'll smile and ask him to enjoy his dinner, then I'll go awol. Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage.
But that's me sha.
Disclaimer notice: try it at your own risk

my dear dnt b in a haste to conclude matters.
The condoms u saw cud hv been used by his frd. Confront him about it befor making any decision to quit d relationship. 2yrs aint beans

pwerrymansion:
I guess u figured the puzzle out. Onye ojoo

Lol.

I shall be faithful. I shall never bring another woman into our home .

What do you say?

Run for you their life like mosquito that saw raid

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

You just nailed it right baby. let her run now ooooo

OBlaize:
Op, be careful about who you listen to, some "advices" are just that; AD-Vice, they adds more vices than virtues to an already messed up situation, I'm not in a position to give u anything, if you have been with the guy for two years then that's time enough to KNOW him, therefore that puts u in a better situation to decide on what to do, I'm a stong believer of sorting every issue out with prayer first, and going with the flow, if it were me, I'd let the issue simmer for a while untill all of my emotions are in check, then I'd cook him an awesome dinner, buy him his favourite red win and ask him the question over a few laughs, if he had a friend over while I was away, if he says no, I'll pop in the question, if he denys been aware of such I'd show him the trash, already sealed off as exibit a , and mind you, having known him I'll know if he's lying, omo if he still deny, I'll smile and ask him to enjoy his dinner, then I'll go awol. Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage.
But that's me sha.
Disclaimer notice: try it at your own risk

ogaprime:


Nigerian sniper right??

baddest one

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

DOES SHE HAVE TO "SNIFF AROUND" to discover something in the thrash can in her fiance's kitchen? Please be objective in your assessment.

mystiqueDZ:
Waoh!! Even with my fbi nature, i cant search the garbage....but hey he is almost your husband.you can ask but you wont get more than "" hey baby how can you not trust me? It was Jonathan that came around with his girlfriend........""

Lol! But must it be Jonathan? Why not Obasanjo(the daughter-in-law screwer), or even FFK?

precisionindepth:
good...a man should always cheat. let every man who knows how To cheat continue till d end of time....sebi its sex na, o ye men! continue to cheat!

not what i said.cheaters will always cheat cos mumu girls allow them to cheat by not leaving them as soon as they realise they are cheating.lots of nice guys in the world but they say they want excitement and spontanaeity.you girls fault

Gist no go kill you. Person dey for serious gbege, you dey wait for real time updates.
Pray make she never break the guy head with bottle now.

ivyy:


Have you confronted him

kilokeys:


abi o.. then should ask abt allowing jonathan to bleep his lady in the kitchen.. or dispose std-laden cd in an environment where u prepare meals.

oghene....you are a prophet?dude tied it up....

eazydon:


Lol! But must it be Jonathan? Why not Obasanjo(the daughter-in-law screwer), or even FFK?

Ah but am a loyal Citizen...Just a campaign strategy

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

I don't think this needs an answer but I'll answer all the same.

Confront him and see what lame excuse he has to give.

At least do it for the sake of "benefit of the doubt"

I'm sure his response or reaction will reveal all. Then you take your decision from there.

It's likely he wants to dump you and he is attempting to stage an oppourtunity. I dont know of any guy who would cheat and leave condoms out in the open and in the kitchen for that matter except of-course he deliberately put them there.

Or maybe he was conducting an experiment on the permeability of condoms

searching4love:




SO YOU SAW TWO USED CONDOMS PROVES WHAT DID YOU MET HIM ON TOP OF ANOTHER WOMAN IF I WERE THE GUY I WILL SEND U PACKING LIKE A PIECE OF GARBAGE. IF YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM IN LITTLE THINGS THEN YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE A WIFE IF WE DIG DEEP INTO YOUR AFFAIRS NOW YOU WILL SURELY HAVE OTHER GUYS SHINING YOUR CONGO TOO SO WHATS THE FUSS ABOUT MANY OF YOU GIRLS THINK YOU CAN EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT. AFTER SO MANY YEARS OF SLEEPING WITH VARIOUS MEN ALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE, YOU THINK YOU CAN HOOK A NIGGA TO BE THE PERFECT MAN FOR YOU. I DON'T PITY YOU AND IF I WAS THE GUY I WILL BEAT YOU WITH MY BELT BUCKLES BEFORE I THROW YOUR ASS OUT NONSENSE

I am more worried about the physical assault part of your post.

Ladies talking about infidelity since 1900DC whereas na dem do pass..swear no other man hav seen ur unclothedness since u began courting him..anyway,ask him but dnt expect him to tell u the truth,expect 2 hear sumtin lyk "condom? Where? How cum ok i remember,chinedu and his chik was here yesterday and i left the house to him,he must have been the one who used it"..pls dnt quit cos the devil u knw is better than the angel u do not know,na so my ex take dump me,finkin i was cheating even though i wasnt,i beg,cry yet she left,its over a yr nw since she broke up wit me and guess wat? Shes nw trying to crawl bak to me,probably shes compared & contrast and got to knw i'm bera dan lots of dudes out there..u myt regret ur actions later hun so beta u giv him a 2nd chance,lets call this one a mistake

pwerrymansion:
you the mind the okoro. What even got me appalled was him trying to define the other uses of condom . I bet he used the 'condom' as his bathing sponge... ... I pity his gf/wife

Bathing sponge hahahahaaa

eazydon:


Lol.

I shall be faithful. I shall never bring another woman into our home
What do you say?

lol,thou arth an obedient husband. Go n sin no more .....btw are ur mum n sisters included? Remember thou shall leave his 'mother',sisters' and cling to me and we'd bcome formidable

Meringe:

That you don't buy into my comment doesn't warrant you to address my comment as silly.


It's my opinion. No apologies.

Yes, your comment is very silly and misleading. Men like u are d reason y faithfulness wld soon leave d dictionary. Imagine u having a beautiful daughter u love and she comes to confide in u abt a cheating spouse. Your response wld be what? 'All men are polygamous my dear, endure it' smh!

zizibabe1:

DOES SHE HAVE TO "SNIFF AROUND" to discover something in the thrash can in her fiance's kitchen? Please be objective in your assessment.

My dear, I didn't mean that. It's bad if d guy cheated on her but you don't throw d baby away with the bathing water.