@Ugwumba

hmmmm like busta said i also pity u no be small

and like i've been sayin lionheart there is an example rite there

nice one people.

@ kiki / Busta, not sure you're Naija / African babes - make una no pity me too much oh!!!

read Fela Kuti about 'Lady' (although harsh) and maybe you will get some enlightenment on what 'real' Naija men want. my broder lionheart don 'loss' finish.

male chauvinist? not quite, but this is the reality for majority of naija men.
I have two unmarried cousins, who are professionals, in their mid-30's, and i have told them that Naija husband go hard them.

Paraphrase (Fela),

- 'Lady na master'
- 'she go say im get power like man, she go say anything man do, him sef fit do'
- 'she go want take cigar  before anybody'
- 'she go want make you open door for am'
- 'she go sit down for table before everybody'
- 'she want take piece of meat before everybody'
- 'she go want make man wash plate for am for kitchen'
- 'tell am to dance, she go dance lady dance, African woman go dance, she go dance the fire dance'

-'African woman no be so'
-'she go cook for am, she go do anything im say'

@ crito, abeg weigh in - the ladies have almost had me for lunch!!

Ugwumba:

@ kiki / Busta, not sure you're Naija / African babes - make una no pity me too much oh!!!

-'African woman no be so'
-'she go cook for am, she go do anything im say'

well i was born in Nigeria that was before wen a lady does watever her husband says she has a mind of her own u know well is Africa that men still do dat anywayz cos down here ur ass is gon get divorced y u gon wanna do watever ur husband says so if he sayus go sit on dat fire u gon be like oh he is my husband i got to do it or if he says i want sex 3 times a day everyday and u don't like d idea cos he is ur husband u got to do it if u don't like it tell him i don't like the idea and we need to compromise cos i ain't doin it like i said before some African men don't marry cos dey love d woman dey get married cos they r some lazy bastards lookin for someone to rule over and i said some

sisters,
you can 'domesticate' the Naijaman once you've caught him (not before). if you come on too strongly with the 50/50 thing at the start, the man will scamper.

take my advice, 've been there, done that (wiser for it).

well if he is a real romantic and caring man u ain't got to tell him b4 he knows

Ugwumba:

@ lionheart, get real!! don't care how long you've been out - ditch the games (50/50 for cleaning and cooking for a red-blooded Naijaman)?

no give us bad name oh!!

LOL   , @Ugwumba,   I enjoy cleaning just as much I do cooking so  it won't hurt 2 go 50/50 on it . Try it, its really fun cooking and cleanin with someone u love .   I have tried it b4 and it was really cool .

@ lionheart, tried the cooking thing once with beans (aka ewa - you still dey remember) and partner almost called the fire brigade . banned from the kitchen ever since. do my own bit around the house (laundry - it's a machine, so no hassles), vacuuming (same line - machine):

thread is not really about me (the ladies got their fangs out).

but really, how many of your homies get with you on this cooking thing? sisters need to know the drill for most bros, and i aint pulling any punches.

LOL.

we got the players (just for the fun)

the lovers (takes you to places, spend the money and have fun), and

the real men (ready for marriage and takes care of responsibility).

it all depends on the category you find your self.

@ mo money, u don marry b4? if not, then maybe do a poll of ur married friends make we know how many dey cook? even the naija sis' know say lionheart na 'rare breed'.

where re all d guys @
we need to know what ya all
want so we can catter 2 u better
this maybe ur last chance u know

that reminds me, where my man at
i need to know what u want,
u know who u are needless saying ur name
intruders stay clear

yo man a'int lost.

just browsing

if ya wait long enough he will make contact.

ugum u have no idea who he is
it's a surprise 4 me to know
& 4 u all to find out
;

hey, guess since your post is on this subject, where have kiki, lionheart, mo money and Busta gone?

let's hazard a guess - lionheart? (he seems to have stolen the ladies' hearts with his cooking skills)

comon, ofcourse not him, i can tell u that much
i don't think u can guess, he's far away from
ur imagination

ugwn ur still my guy though
u know that right

yep, your greatest admirer .

yes babyboy, that's what im talking about

beau,
going shopping, back in 3 hours.

have fun shopping,catch u latter

what will that be if not sex,sex,sex,sex,sex and sex.or is it to be looking at each other?or what?

As a man I would want a relationship to be the most cherished thing on earth. It should be romantic and adventurous.

sexyboy welcome back
good to have u reply to d topic

@Lionheart, Hmmmmm how tall are ya , what do u weigh , are u single, and any kids ? , just asking and I hope ur girl friend is not here cuz I can't afford 2 break my nails, I just did em , lol

I'm 6ft 2 inch tall ,weigh about 200 lbs, no kids but love em, single , and don't smoke or drink , I play soccer for my school team 2 stay fit . , am new here and looking 2 make friends .

In the long run all a man wants is a woman that knows when to shut up her mouth.
A wife that will not nag or ask too many questions.(were are you going and is it now you are comming)
A woman that will allow the husband to eat in peace and watch TV in peace. a woman that will pet him

Ugwumba, thanx man! tell that brother @ lion wetin to cut that crab. who's fooling who. He should start getting ready to be changing diepers. I am sure he's trying to impress some sistas in the house. 50/50 house chores no way men! supprised a full blooded brother would tow that line. lion wetin. are u sure u are capable of paying ur bills? or u' re looking for a sista to help u out.
Get real, I am out.

@Egede, bless u, bless u, bless u bro.

Egede or watever ur name is because a man thinks he can help out around d house doesn't mean he ain't man enough i guess he is more romantic and his relationship will last longer and it is guy like u and Ugwumba that will make ur woman ur slave and say dat she's a woman she's got to do it wat d hell wrong with ur handz y u can't do it all i'm sayin is he wants to help his wife share the job so it ain't gon be like one person is workin 2 hard damn yall some useless men if i get married to someone like yall i'm gon poison u well i'm just kiddin but he is just a carin man so back of of him

@ kiki, mba, mba. read the original post - a'int about Egede and Ugwumba or some eutopia y'all live in.

check mamaput's post - she's a lady and speaks from experience.

don't like it, then change the man you've got (or you may be lucky to get one ready made). chances are 9 out of 10 men you meet will be like i have described (u admitted so urself).