too_much:

I will try not to bore you with my sob-story, and promise to keep it brief.

I met this wonderful, charming, down to earth guy on NL, and we have been kicking it for a while now, but I have a problem trusting him due to the fact that he is a business man based in Nigeria, whilst I am based in the UK. We have discusssed about marriage and babies indepth and at length, and was on the verge of meeting each others parents to discuss our intention with them. . .

He has tried his best to reassure me that he loves me, but I am holding back due to the fact that I have had my fingers burnt in the past and hence find it hard to trust in love again. I have also heard that it is possible for some guys on NL to date 2/3 or more girls at the same time, without them knowing, as a lot of relationship can be conducted via YIM. And now I have decided not to carry on with the relationship, and my problem is that I need help in making myself fall out of love with him.

Am I being irrational here, I need guidance, some constructive criticism would not go amiss too, thanks in advance.

So because of what you heard you wana cut it off? Has he given you any reason to doubt him? Mind you all guys aren't the same.
Anyhuuuuuuuuuuuuz. . . . you wana fall out of love ryt? haha! gyalie gyalie, jus fall out the way you fell in. . .

Maybe you should at least give the dude a chance?

So the guys is nler?

~ku_sh!~:

So because of what you heard you wana cut it off? Has he given you any reason to doubt him? Mind you all guys aren't the same.
Anyhuuuuuuuuuuuuz. . . . you wana fall out of love ryt? haha! gyalie gyalie, jus fall out the way you fell in. . .

No its because I have a few girlfriends on Nairaland and they have been sowing the seeds of doubt into me

My brother I don't remember how I fell in, love just came and swept me off my feet and I want my heart back in one piece

Magz:

Maybe you should at least give the dude a chance?

Thanks, but my heart is saying yes, my head is saying no

Just giv him a chance, yeah, c wot you make of it

something tells me you're a well-known member . . . show ur face, tell us the guy and we can advice you.  

tope2000:

So the guys is nler?

He is a member, but he does not know that I am  

~ku_sh!~:

Just giv him a chance, yeah, c wot you make of it

Thanks once again, but the heart is willing, whilst . . .

davidylan:

something tells me you're a well-known member . . . show ur face, tell us the guy and we can advice you.  

Are you the guy?

too_much:

Thanks once again, but the heart is willing, whilst . . .

Ignore ya head n follow ya heart. . . . you never know

too_much:

He is a member, but he does not know that I am  

Ohhhhhhhhh I guess u shud go with ur gut instinct
but if it aint worth, dont bother. I do agree that men cannot be trusted but im sure u know him better than we do

davidylan:

something tells me you're a well-known member . . . show ur face, tell us the guy and we can advice you.  

Thanks for the warm welcome, but I don't know if the fact that I registered last year May qualifies me to be an oldbie Thanks all the same

~ku_sh!~:

Are you the guy?

UK is too much for me. 
Unless of course if the babe turns out to be tope2000.

tope2000:

Ohhhhhhhhh I guess u shud go with ur gut instinct
but if it aint worth, dont bother. I do agree that men cannot be trusted but im sure u know him better than we do

Thats why I threw it open to the house to see if the sisters and sane brothers in the house could help me.

Have you both met face to face? If you have then i dont think you shld be that worried.

Bottomline is NL cannot help you, you're best served asking him how serious he is about an exclusive relationship that shld lead to marriage. Talking about it is one thing, actiing it out is another.

davidylan:

Have you both met face to face? If you have then i dont think you shld be that worried.

Bottomline is NL cannot help you, you're best served asking him how serious he is about an exclusive relationship that shld lead to marriage. Talking about it is one thing, actiing it out is another.

SORTED! Thread closed!!

My only concern is:Who is the Guy??
I hate to miss out on jist.

davidylan:

Have you both[b] met face to face?[/b] If you have then i dont think you shld be that worried.

Bottomline is NL cannot help you, you're best served asking him how serious he is about an exclusive relationship that shld lead to marriage. Talking about it is one thing, actiing it out is another.

Word

davidylan:

Have you both met face to face? If you have then i dont think you shld be that worried.

Bottomline is NL cannot help you, you're best served asking him how serious he is about an exclusive relationship that shld lead to marriage. Talking about it is one thing, actiing it out is another.

We have met once, but i guess i can't stop worrying because I am a female.

I have asked him countless number of times, but he keeps telling me what i want to hear, which is that he is not seeing anyone else. Whilst i believe this to be true that he is not seeing anyone in Ngeria, how can i be so sure that he doesn't have someone in Germany, US or Canada who's hands he has promised in marriage too.

How does one know these things? And it doesn't help as well to have doubting friends too.

too_much:

We have met once, but i guess i can't stop worrying because I am a female.

I have asked him countless number of times, but he keeps telling me what i want to hear, which is that he is not seeing anyone else. Whilst i believe this to be true that he is not seeing anyone in Ngeria, how can i be so sure that he doesn't have someone in Germany, US or Canada who's hands he has promised in marriage too.

How does one know these things? And it doesn't help as well to have doubting friends too.

We cant know your guy better than you. Its up to you both to show that you are committed to a long term serious relationship. Left to me i dont understand why men allow their women to worry about issues like this, you shldnt give her any doubt as to your intentions but oh well.

Talk to him . . . after reading this thread he will probably put two and two together and then come to give you a good tongue lashing.

too_much:

We have met once, but i guess i can't stop worrying because I am a female.

I have asked him countless number of times, but he keeps telling me what i want to hear, which is that he is not seeing anyone else. Whilst i believe this to be true that he is not seeing anyone in Ngeria, how can i be so sure that he doesn't have someone in Germany, US or Canada who's hands he has promised in marriage too.

How does one know these things? And it doesn't help as well to[b] have doubting friends too.[/b]

Follow Your Friends Advice Na,

Abi Na By Force

Missy B:

My only concern is:Who is the Guy??
I hate to miss out on jist.

Don't worry my sis, as soon as I feel ready that he is the one, I would love to include our name in the NL wedding register doing the rounds, infact no Jupiter or high water would be able to stop me from including my name, thanks

A nlanda once discussed sumfin similar. . . dhat he met a nlanda reh teh teh. . . . .mmmmmmm! I have a feeling i know the guy yu referring to. . .  

Anyhuuuuuuuuuz. . . . . make i juz shush!

davidylan:

UK is too much for me.  
Unless of course if the babe turns out to be tope2000.

Lmao . . . . why is UK too much 4 u?

too_much:


Thats why I threw it open to the house to see if the sisters and sane brothers in the house could help me.

Darling if u dont trust him, then there is no point in having a relationship with him

too_much:

I will try not to bore you with my sob-story, and promise to keep it brief.

I met this wonderful, charming, down to earth guy on NL, and we have been kicking it for a while now, but I have a problem trusting him due to the fact that he is a business man based in Nigeria, whilst I am based in the UK. We have discusssed about marriage and babies indepth and at length, and was on the verge of meeting each others parents to discuss our intention with them. . .

He has tried his best to reassure me that he loves me, but I am holding back due to the fact that I have had my fingers burnt in the past and hence find it hard to trust in love again. I have also heard that it is possible for some guys on NL to date 2/3 or more girls at the same time, without them knowing, as a lot of relationship can be conducted via YIM. And now I have decided not to carry on with the relationship, and my problem is that I need help in making myself fall out of love with him.

Am I being irrational here, I need guidance, some constructive criticism would not go amiss too, thanks in advance.

Get anutha man ASAP. U would forget about him in a jiffy.

davidylan:

We cant know your guy better than you. Its up to you both to show that you are committed to a long term serious relationship. Left to me i dont understand why men allow their women to worry about issues like this, you shldnt give her any doubt as to your intentions but oh well.

Talk to him . . . after reading this thread he will probably put two and two together and then come to give you a good tongue lashing.

When women talk, men tune off and moan that women nag too much, and as for him seeing this thread, i doubt he even knows that a romance section exists on Nairaland, but then again, you could never know, I don't know why life has to be this complicated and full of men with dishonest intentions Not all men though, all the good ones are taken

inspired_m:


Follow Your Friends Advice Na,

Abi Na By Force

Mr man, I am in a sensitive mood right now, so do not have time to respond to your ilks, besides i am sure you came across my earlier post that only sane men should respond, so pls, i am in a good mood ok and would let you off this time.

~ku_sh!~:

A nlanda once discussed sumfin similar. . . dhat he met a nlanda reh teh teh. . . . .mmmmmmm! I have a feeling i know the guy yu referring to. . .

Anyhuuuuuuuuuz. . . . . make i juz shush!

See, this is exactly what i am talking about, it seems as if everyone is copulating or has copulated with everyone on NL

@Sauron and Tope2000

Thanks, would take your advise on board and just walk away, thanks God bless you.

too_much:

pls, i am in a good mood ok and would let you off this time.