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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by kputus: 10:50am On Mar 19, 2015 |
SmartFaces: They should go to church on a sunday, stand before the congregation then make pastor bless them and declare them husband& wife before God's people. No be by force to wear white gown and suit on a saturday. 2 Likes |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by femib26(m): 10:52am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Good advice you all have one way or another. I speak as a Christian minister, your marriage is recognized after the two families agreed to the union as well as when dowry is paid. However, as a Christian, your Pastor' s blessing is necessary and it doesn't have to be elaborate. It's a matter of choice. Don't advice him to leave the church, it doesn't worth it. The two of you can have the blessing anytime of the day and week. I have witnessed weddings on Sunday morning, Thursday evenings, Monday morning. Nothing is cast in stone about life, apart from obedience to the word of God. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by worldy: 10:57am On Mar 19, 2015 |
in my own opinion.i think he should follow the distate of his mind rather than been mislead or misguarded by one church.is it what the holy book say about marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by oseo1(m): 11:05am On Mar 19, 2015 |
SmartFaces: He holds a position of authority in the church that's why they are being strict, generally the church will recognise you as married after your court wedding. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by chibas: 11:06am On Mar 19, 2015 |
What an expository posts. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 11:33am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Tashaamania: OMG! When i saw your post, i wan kill myself with lafff!!! Ah! ah!! Wetin you dey think? Your mind dey sharp shaa!!! My dear i no fit shout oh!! they did not charge per say oh, but you know the church formalities na. Infact we were told that we must cook separately for pastors on that day. That their reception is usually different from that of others. Seriously, i like that question. All these churches seff, their wahala no be here oh |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 11:39am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Kingblingz: Nairalanders are so brilliant and you are one of them. Wetin? church offering ke! You are not serious walahi! Ah ah, so funny. Abeg, go enroll for comedy show. you won't kill me at all. your day is blessed. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by komek(m): 11:43am On Mar 19, 2015 |
SmartFaces: How much did they pay him for holding a position in his church? Did they share the church income with him? Working for God is a thing of the heart it has nothing to do with the show up that we do to please these so called men of God. You guys have done the things recognised by God and the Law and that is traditional and court marriage respectively. Any other celebration is a waste of time and resources. You guys should move in together, if the pastors makes any noise just let me know about it. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Tashaamania(f): 11:48am On Mar 19, 2015 |
FFOD:Some churches maybe, not all churches.. and this is the first am hearing churches do charge members for weddings 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 11:48am On Mar 19, 2015 |
boxer022: Thanks alot. you spoke to me. What matters is our relationship with God. thanks alot. Please have a pleasant day ahead. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by buruike(f): 11:58am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Had this kind of argument with Amma couple days ago. I simply believe marriage is recognised when the parents of the two parties consent to the union. Any body outside if such is just to satisfy the need to be applauded,talk about or just for a space on personal accomplishment list. Be it church,mosque or court.They are all external entity. God recognise parents as the body authority to sanction marriage 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 11:58am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Tashaamania: • Even your Church charges couples for weddings after their marital classes and catechism. It's very minimal though. How would you not know? 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Tashaamania(f): 12:00pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Darkrebel666:money for forms and the sorts maybe which is very minimal, but thats not enough excuse for not carrying out the church wedding 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by lapaix04: 12:07pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Two Questions, (1) do you want a church wedding done before you are satisfied that u are fully married? (2) Are you convinced that with the trad. marriage and registry wedding you are fully married? If (1) is yes, then simply stick by the church's rules, but u dont have have to spend a fortune to have a church wedding. Make it simple, agree with your pastors that it is a simple wedding just like u had at the registry (i bet u didnt spend much save for the legal fees at the registry, there was even no reception!), you can do same with the church. Have it during a sunday service and have a brief inexpensive private reception at your home. C'est fini! if (2) is yes, meet with your pastors again (although this should have been settled before the trad marriage took place), explain to them that this is how far u intend to go regarding being joined to your spouse. Then they can arrange a private blessing of your marriage with just a few very close family members in attendance and some church officials. You need not spend a fortune again. She can still wear her gown and take great photos. Problem solved! The church is not a party to wasteful lavish spendings at weddings and then u end up broke and angry at each other for not having a dime in ur pockets because you wanted to please the world with an expensive church wedding. Be wise and dont insult your pastors over such a trivial issue, and be careful where u get advice from next time, some advice can be misleading. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:08pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Bonapart:Thanks dear, No one is disputing the fact of the act being a sin. The contention now is, after traditional and court marriage, will you still say we are living in sin because we have not done the church wedding? Please quote to reply. I appriciate, nice day ahead. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Tashaamania: • O.P said the groom can't afford a grand white wedding i.e Reception and Partying. ~ He should get his pastor or priest to conduct a small wedding in the Chapel then.. All he needs is 4 witnesses. The Church wouldn't collect more than #4000. .~White Wedding doesn't mean it has to be big or grand. The blessing of the Church is more important than a crappy time wasting traditional wedding. • I'm speaking as a Christian this time. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:12pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Bonapart: No na, abeg no insults or abuses so that people will be comfortable to share their opinions. How are you doing today? Great day for you man. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:14pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
maylisa: Oboy, see hot temper!!! Na the impregnate her sweet me pass. You are good. thanks dearie, enjoy your day please. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Tashaamania(f): 12:14pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Darkrebel666:Does white weddings neccessarily entails reception or partying afterwards? I agree with the bolded because I dont know if me as a person will ever feel okay without my white wedding.. 2 Likes |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:18pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
QuiverBox: Thanks dear. but what if we don't want the church thing at all, whether marriage blessing or what ever the name could be, can't the church just respect our decision? how are you doing today? take charge of your day. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:20pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
lezz:I like that dearie. you are on point. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:22pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Ipledge:laff wan kill me here oh!!! abeg oh, i won't f**k the pastor oh! thanks dear. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Tashaamania: •@bolded ~Of course not.. The ritual and matrimonial rites performed in the Church is most paramount. The Reception is just an AdLib. The reception is in fact very good to compliment that joyous day, but when finance is a problem then the couples should just do a small chapel wedding and maybe later on they could throw a reception party. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Bonapart(m): 12:29pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
SmartFaces:you too dear.... my apologies. Meant no insult. You're so calm and eazy going. So people like you still dey for nairaland |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by windowxp5(m): 12:34pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
What matters most is the consent and blessings of both parent. and then the traditional where rites are been paid 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:37pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
eldoradoxx: My dear if them see space chop the only one wey dey your house, trust me they will. their selfishness these days don dey wear face cap. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:41pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Wefiak1414: Kpelle!!! sorry dear, all for love. what's up with you? hope you are good? |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by ronald4lif(m): 12:41pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
shindarayo: 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Bonapart(m): 12:43pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
SmartFaces:according to my bible, after bride price you're good to go.... wedding is just to bring in blessing into the marriage by the alter of God. Is called "blessing of marriage" Jacob in the bible, when he finished serving his father in law, the service which is the payment of the bride price, the same night he was given the go ahead to deflower his wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:44pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
efonat: kk. but is it the church wedding that ensures God's presence in the marriage? hope you are cool? Great day ahead. |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by tinnywhinny: 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
PreshyG: Exactly our idea of wedding four years ago when we got married but our parents wouldn't hear of it. we ended up having crazy crowd. 1 Like |
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Meristem: You are right based on the link you shared. Probably, that was from another nairalander but this is my own wahala. am sure it won't be bad to air it out and have lovely people like you help me out. how are you today? enjoy yourself today and don't allow anyone... i mean anyone steal your joy. chao!! 1 Like |
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