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Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Edusouls(m): 9:25am On Mar 18, 2015 |
coogar:animal like you,i wonder how many innocent blood, ur sisters and mothers have wasted and why werent you animal aborted, cos giving birth to you is a tragedy.. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Edusouls(m): 9:26am On Mar 18, 2015 |
MizMyColi:yesoo u re there.. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Edusouls(m): 9:28am On Mar 18, 2015 |
goodmorning40:yes u re very right my girl..men pregnant and run away, females bear the suffering,castigation and blame on it, african man is a another disaster my sister. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Edusouls(m): 9:31am On Mar 18, 2015 |
coogar:dont mind hypocrites ritty you have no issues with God,these dark hearted pretenders have so much to answer and pay for,so be happy and rejoice... 2 Likes |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by austine4real(m): 9:38am On Mar 18, 2015 |
op sori take heart its well |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Thinkr(m): 9:38am On Mar 18, 2015 |
skentelelady:hmmm that's good. But don't tell me you do have seks outside wedlock stil. I wonder how you cope. It must rili be hard. God is your strength. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Nobody: 9:40am On Mar 18, 2015 |
Renylee:Nigeriansbe seeking pity even before creation. God bless you maam. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by UncleJudax(m): 9:40am On Mar 18, 2015 |
tunjiafolayanka:I kinda agree with the temperament thingy. I once experienced it with a single mum. Her mood swing was out of this world. I think it is one of the ways they show their frustration to society. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by teebarbie(f): 9:40am On Mar 18, 2015 |
TV01:I knew you would be here. U seems to like any thread that has 'single mums' in it. Lolz 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Thinkr(m): 9:42am On Mar 18, 2015 |
Well, as for me I cant marry a single mother but still I won't castigate any. But I have experienced some, they usually despise men and are abusive. Well, I guess its the effect of such discrimination... OP I guess its ou cultural background that made it so, don't worry such ideologies are fading away gradually |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by funmo(m): 9:42am On Mar 18, 2015 |
SINGLE MOTHERS AND THE MARRIAGE TALK There have been cases of discrimination against single and never-been- married mothers when marriage is brought to fore. Truth be told, the fears of those against it is well understood. But it takes strength to be for them and extra-strength on the part of the man who wishes to marry such a lady. I will weigh the for and against arguments side by side. AGAINST They are loose These people are of the belief that any lady with a child outside wedlock is loose and must be avoided at all cost at all cost, they see them as plagues. A few of these ladies can actually be loose, but that doesn't mean all are. Added responsibility of a child In most cases, the new husband assumes responsibility over the child that isn't his. And most families won't have that happen to their son. It only takes a financially stable man to take care of this situation. Go for someone unused Anti-single-mothers will always come up with reasons why you should go for someone who hasn't experienced child labour yet. FOR Everybody makes mistake I belong to those who have nothing against single mums, as I believe anyone isn't perfect when it comes to this issue. Anyone who isn't married and not celibate can have a child out of wedlock too. True love overcomes If you truly loves her and she reveals to you that she has a child, marrying her wouldn't be issue. She is a mother she will care more with experience Because she is a mother, she has added advantage in terms of taking care of the children to be borne. And her motherly care sometimes extends to the husband too. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by jayne8585yahoo(f): 9:48am On Mar 18, 2015 |
bellong: I wish I can like this your post a million times. LESSON NOT EVERYBODY HAS A DIRTY PAST. LEARN NOT TO GENERALIZE 2 Likes |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by jayne8585yahoo(f): 9:49am On Mar 18, 2015 |
bellong: I wish I can like this your post a million times. LESSON NOT EVERYBODY HAS A DIRTY PAST. @ MIZMYCOLI LEARN NOT TO GENERALIZE THE NEXT TIME YOU ARE MAKING YOUR SUBMISSION. THANKS. 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by petitmonde(m): 9:51am On Mar 18, 2015 |
rittyben:the crime was probably the NO you said to contraceptives. 2 Likes |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by MizMyColi(f): 9:59am On Mar 18, 2015 |
bellong: bellong: Goodmorning Please read the first statement again, I said....."Which Most of us aren't free from either. bellong: You prolly thought I meant something Sooo Bad when I said that. While it is true that most of us have done, said or thought stuff which we don't want out there.....except of course, it'd inspire someone else to be better..... I maintain that even among the purest of us.....there is a vice (human limitation), story (based on our chosen paths/journies), that we'd do anything to keep from getting to a crowd we perceive as wrong for such news. For example.....I'm not a typical church girl, I go to church because that's one way to keep my Mom in the know that her daughter hasn't gone haywire. I really don't believe that there's a God up above the sky. I believe that the God and Heaven we so desire lies within us, and that, until we turn towards this power and dimension within us, raising it up for the world to see.......we'd continue enjoying, even in our suffering.I don't believe in Hell. I have lost faith in institutional Christianity. Simply put? I see no need in attending Church as I know it today. Another example.....I have a habit of not letting my fingernails rest. In order words......I rarely, if ever, grow fingers. Matter of fact? I chew them! EEEwwwwww. ^^^Now these things, as far as I'm concerned are no big deal, they are not baaaaaaaad. But take the first example to a church, a fundamentalist Christian Church....I will be stoned. Take the other to a gathering of society girls......alpha female circles, I will be so looked down on. Same goes for her story @OP. While it is true that she is worthy of condemnation to some us who live in this part of a worldview. While it is true that she is not permitted to flaunt her single motherhood.....lest she be termed promiscuous, there are actually people out there (albeit few) who are willing to accept her (wholly), actively seeking ways to make a better person out of her, while setting her free to live her life. bellong: Please check my statement again, I said "not interested as such" meaning, while the past may be important, I am not going to dwell so much on it......I am not going to et the condemning voice of myself and that of the word keep me there, I'm moving on Just like Apostle Paul quipped......"Forgetting Those Things Which Are Behind......And pressing Forward.......Towards The Mark...." bellong: We're saying the same thing here. It's just a question of perspective and conditioning. You call it Correctional, I call it Healing.....largely because I believe that only the divine can transform a person for good, such that it manifests outwardly. I will keep saying it.....as far as I am concerned, the best I can do is talk and maybe vent my anger and frustration at a person whom I feel is violating or has violated a moral law (in the name of correcting them). But only God-Within can actually lead a man to repentance, urging him to change his ways. The best I can do is show them acceptance and Love, reassuring them that it's not the end of the road, and that they can actually get better. bellong: While I cannot fault your opinion, you'd agree with me, what we do here mostly is keep dwelling on the person's mistake, and then re-dwelling on it, calling them out for the waste of sperm we think they are. We refer to the past, not out of a motive of genuinely seeking to correct/heal their future, but because we want to go ballistic and judgemental on them. (Most of us, if not all, are unwittingly prone to this). bellong: I'd have to disagree with you @TheEmboldened. Declaring my reasons would be another epistle. You're right @English Says..... And you're right......in this regard, I'm more a student of the meta physical than the conventional ways. While Christianity taught me that everyone is inherently bad, I choose to see the exact opposite. When a person comes off as rabid and vile and plain insulting......I try to look beyond what that person portends in the physical..... I ask questions, I apply wisdom (which might sometimes entail loving them from afar), I try to grasp what might have inspired such behaviour......I reckon that God sees all of his creation as good, as worthy beings, irrespective of their past/present.....he sees everyone through the lens of what they can be. Walking in this awareness has transformed me......and I believe that it holds the power to transform many too. I do not claim to have apprehended on this (I actually falter a lot more than I get it right) But I have a goal, an endgame......To see everyone, irrespective of what they are now, as God sees them. #NuffSaid 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by UncleJudax(m): 10:04am On Mar 18, 2015 |
goodmorning40:Actually, there are single fathers. They have always been around. Single mums are ridiculed chiefly because of the supposed "place" of a woman in the society. And of course, because there are more single mums than their male counterparts. Note: You cannot refer to a man as a single dad when you don't see him with a child. The women most times keep the child, hence their overwhelming number. 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by TV01(m): 10:09am On Mar 18, 2015 |
teebarbie:...is that how to greet me ! Yes 0, I am here, why will I look while people try and force us to celebrate a societal ill. No beef against single mothers - I have a large extended family and we have instances - but it is simply not the best for the children and rarely for the mothers. The drain on wider family and cost to society is clearly evident. Single moms trying to sell themselves as martyr does not wash. It's best avoided fact, and children are best raised in the committed unions of both their parents. Why not give understanding before the fact rather than pretend it's all good after - when it is not! Funnily enough it's women that diss them the most. TVMIC 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by lovingmum(f): 10:10am On Mar 18, 2015 |
hmmm |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by MizMyColi(f): 10:13am On Mar 18, 2015 |
jayne8585yahoo: You might wanna go to the thread and check for my response. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by nwadiuko1(m): 10:18am On Mar 18, 2015 |
While I don't support any negative feeling or action against a single mum.........I also. Think that since they went into the act of unprotected sex with their eyes open, they should put up with whatever they see |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by chiomzy25(f): 10:20am On Mar 18, 2015 |
rittyben:yes the only crime we commited was to say no to Abortion. I am a proud mother of an intelligent beautiful girl. I will always stand by her till I breath my last. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Nobody: 10:31am On Mar 18, 2015 |
stinggy:Ma so |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by chlowi(f): 10:36am On Mar 18, 2015 |
goodmorning40: O My you blew my mind away with this comment! Thank you |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by tablu: 10:37am On Mar 18, 2015 |
The marriage institution has unfortunately been overrated in this part of the world and alot of single women are dashin out of it and the western world is trendin 'singlemothers' as the new achievement.This trend is becomin popular in naija becos the pillars of traditional marriages institution has been shattered.everytin seems to be upside down.... |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by tosingcfr(m): 10:49am On Mar 18, 2015 |
Tallesty1:. That Edu guy needs to know that responsibility goes with every action |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Nobody: 10:54am On Mar 18, 2015 |
chiomzy25:hahaha |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Nobody: 10:56am On Mar 18, 2015 |
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Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by queensmith: 11:02am On Mar 18, 2015 |
There is soo much wrong with the Nigerian society, the problems of women are one of them. Then again, I'm surprised to learn single mothers are stigmatized to an extreme extent in Nigeria. Most mothers in Nigeria are single or might as well be. I think stigmatization will only be a problem if you fall on the less wealthy side - I have many friends from wealthy backgrounds whose parents aren't married and fathers fcked off to wherever. I never hear of them or their mothers being stigmatized. And even the yoruba's often say that a child with 2 homes never goes hungry, I think the issue is that you've judged yourself harshly and therefore allowed others to judge you. The problem I know most people have (or my people have rather) is if you get pregnant before finishing school. That is a big no no. They will ship you to your baby daddies house with immediate effect! 1 Like |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by iykedare(m): 11:06am On Mar 18, 2015 |
rittyben: No,sex no to indiscriminate sex. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by teebarbie(f): 11:09am On Mar 18, 2015 |
TV01:Am very sorry sir for my manners, good morning. May God help us all |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Tallesty1(m): 11:18am On Mar 18, 2015 |
tosingcfr:I wanted to let him know that every adult should weigh the Pros and Cons of every action before taking them and should also be ready to take the responsibility of the outcome but the way he insulted me was too much to overlook. |
Re: Challenges Of A Single Mother by Nobody: 11:24am On Mar 18, 2015 |
teebarbie: Thats because he is one of the modern day pharisees and scribes. 2 Likes |
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