Champele:
you are just a fool.who knows how many abortion you have done in your life. I will always advice people not to listen o or take advice from people like you.selfish maggots.

MizMyColi:


Looool
Your Dp is funny gaan

I know this would make me sound holier than thou....
But those who know me beyond NL know say Nuh Be Me Holy Pass


It just boils down to this.....
Man has Body, Spirit and Soul.
Sometimes.....we take actions which are not a true representation of the state of our souls/spirit beings.

Take the manager who had to rob his bank because his life was threatened, in the process, six people died.
Agree or not.......the blood of those people are on him....

It would be very easy for us humans to condemn him, because, matter of fact, he had a choice.....but that would have been a very tough call.....

In this case, I am looking at who this man really is at the core of his being.....his soul.
Before his spirit caught a virus....now to restore him, he'd have to be formatted.

He would go around for the rest of his life blaming himself.
Thinking of himself as a murderer.

But I'd say to him......
"True, you made a wrong call and people died.
But contrary to the world's view.....I don't see a murderer in you.
I don't see a person who is beyond redemption.
Allow your soul to connect to your source.
Walk in the awareness of who you really are.
Everyone else sees you as bad, irredeemable......but someone in here (touching his chest) knows that was just an anomaly......
You are better.
You will do better.
Quit beating yourself up and live again."

^^^ What I just did now is speak healing to that man.
People think that showing people love has a way of making them indulge in wrong ways...
But that's a lie.
Whether you show a person Love or Not, if they will do wrong by themselves, they will!
Matter of fact, employing the cold way of correction approach has a way of making most folks become obstinate....even though it might seem like your gist is sinking in at the time.

What I preach is this.
Whether a person has flaws or not.
Whether you have lived or living wrongly or not.

There is someone (Eternal Spirit) who sees beyond your actions....
Who understands your struggles, and who accepts you nonetheless, his love for you knows no bounds, and while it may seem like you are suffering the consequence of your choice(s), keep your gaze and focus on him, he is not up there in the sky, he is within you, about you, around you......he has a way of turning things, he has a way of turning your sorrows to joy. He heals, He restores.

He sees you, not for what you are now, but for what you can be.
And that is how I choose to see you too (So Help Me Jah).


Oops, @Neoapocalypse......I think I stopped replying you since o
Lool, The words were coming and I had to pen them down.

If those words are meant for you, whoever you are.......I love youand you are accepted, no judgement.
You wanna be better? You will be better

Sophyrocks:


Thats because he is one of the modern day pharisees and scribes.

Edusouls:
your sense of justice is like that of monkey, 95% of girls engage in pre marital sex, whether protected or not, and most girls conceive before ages 17 to 19, the only difference is that these ones are good and open enough to give birth instead of the vast majority of deadly and hidden girls that carnaly and silently murder their own flesh and blood...so whats your pointless argument..

teebarbie:
Na you talk am o

neoapocalypse:


lol , yeah you stopped replying me after the second line.
I understand you perfectly but when I say actions I actually mean actionssss ( with a lot of s' ) , a one off thing isn't enough to condemn or praise a man , he must have shown over time on which divide of the moral scale he dwells. I still get you though , nothing is cast in stone and a bad man might not really be a bad man in thoughts and vice versa so condemning him based on previous deeds may not be the best if you truly intend for him to have a change of heart. I actually agree with you to a large extent but unlike you a lot of us desire perfection and will come hard on the those who have erred in one way or the other , not minding that we aren't perfect ourselves , that is the way of the world , that is the way of humans ( I learnt this the hard way ).

I still understand you.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

Phoenixfrank:
I was attracted by the words "single mother", because it's kinda related to my project. Firstly, how are u gonna disrespect the idea of single mothers by narrowing it to some lady without patience, self control and complete disregard for the societal norms and values. To be more realistic than judgemental, marriage and family is a social value in the Nigerian culture. So deviating from the approved procedures of having a child is a shame. Am more provoked by ur limited idea of single mother because my mother has been a single mother for 15yrs with 5kids there are so many more like girls who had be sexually harassed and are living with that, widows with 6-9kids and even newly wedded whose husband left them with 2-3kids and all the responsibilities. And u come here trying to justify ur silly deviant behaviour and the consequences package that came with it. Yeah we all make mistakes but don't be magnifying urs like it the worst in the world.


Secondly, how u respect the challenges of single mothers like that... narrowing it to the psychological effects u suffering for ur deviant behaviour?
Girls am pissed better start putting ur brains to better use. start thinking. A single mothers challenges are far greater than that.

rittyben:

Channel this anger to the right source dear.

Phoenixfrank:

Yo girl where else am I suppose to drop this other than here.

Sophyrocks:
Thats because he is one of the modern day pharisees and scribes.

TV01:


Sophie, Sophie, Sophie, how far? How’s your relationship going?

- Have you ensured he has twice daily change of designer brand boxers?
- What of a minimum once daily thorough scrub of his member and scrotal sac all the way to his anus?
- And ensuring alum is used during the above and medicated dusting powder afterwards?
- Have you checked for hallitosis and ensured he use a lekky toothbrush and baking soda paste

Have you advised him that the following may result in your cheating;

- falling away from having a perfect body – ideally that of a gay porn star,
- any deviation from 100% attention, daily wooing and incessant giving of gifts
- anything you consider “prejaculation” (abi you are taking your NL aunties advice and checking that one beforehand?)

Is he aware of your descent from savages and barbarians? What of your congenital pathological hatred for his mum? Is he “Alpha” – silly question, if he were he wouldn’t be checking you . Has he popped the question yet? Don’t answer that – purely rhetorical

Shelf still comfortable ?


TV

TV01:
Is he aware of your descent from savages and barbarians? What of your congenital pathological hatred for his mum? Is he “Alpha” – silly question, if he were he wouldn’t be checking you . Has he popped the question yet? Don’t answer that – purely rhetorical grin

funmo:
They are loose

mcdokwe:
If I should judge by the single mother I know well, being loose is one very wrong notion to hold against single mums, rather they happen to the reserved few who are willing to bear the consequences of their actions, have a good conscience not to commit murder just to avoid the judgemental society. They're less exposed to a casual sex life as against those loose aristo girls who spend every other weekend with different men in different cities and yet will never be caught pregnant as they're too familiar with methods to adopt in snuffing life out of the unborns without as much as a thought. Maybe unmarried mums should best describe them as for every mum, their is a dad out there, they're just absent.

funmo:



funny how you quoted only that line...


kinda paints my name in bad picture for those who won't be opportuned to read all what I wrote

mcdokwe:
lol, that was all I needed to correct.

coogar:


come off the pity-party rubbish.
you knew the kinda society you come from before you made the decision to bear the child. since you knew the criticism of the society would get to you then you should have aborted or......avoid unprotected sex.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

C'mon,

You shouldn't listen to them!

You Good!!

lastnogood:
To each his/her own.

Am a single mother and I'm very happy to be one as well. My children know their father and can see him whenever they want. However, it's better to be honest with yourself than live in a loveless marriage for the sake of the kids.

As long as you can have your own house, take care of your responsibilities then no one can say anything about you.

If you know that you're the type to be bothered or upset about little things as stares and "ohs" then abstain or abort. Because single parenthood required much more strength than mere withstanding societal pressures.

Finally, from my own experience, being a single mother alleviates pressure from family and friends to get married too soon. You can take your time, there's no pressure mainly because you're the black sheep etc. Idk it sounds weird, but once I had my kids, and left their father, my parents lost all hope for me. Especially as their oldest, so they focused on my younger siblings. I've got ten of them, and so far 3 have been married. My parents don't even care about me anymore when it comes to that, I own my place, have my own company and my kids lack nothing. It's just a new reality. But as I said, you have to be focused to live this lifestyle. Abandon any fairytale ending for your life and hustle for your own 2 cents. The older you get, and the more you remain single, the stronger you get. Btw am not even that old as a lady, I'm just 27, so this isn't an old hag relating to you....

skentelelady:


Whaooo at 27 you talk boldly like this! I am so proud of you sis *big hug*

I pray God will continue to be your strength and pillar of support

I really love your words of encouragement. When you are able to shoulder your responsibilities as a single mummy, society respects you more and not the other way round

Like you mentioned if she is someone that takes criticism so serious or any strange look or comment, then such person will be weighed down by societal pressure

BTW, you are still very young and i believe you still have a long way ahead in life.

Have you considered settling down again? I mean try to do this for yourself since your kids have access to their dad

SAMBARRY:
Wetin consain you and society. Woman up and stand by your decision after all if you don't stand for something you will fall for anything. If you woman up and face your baby nobarryyy will have the effrontery to face you. Even if them give you one give them 5

The only thing I am against is that if you don't have the resources to be a single mom don't bring a child to this world to come and suffer. We already have enough nuisances in this world including nl

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.