Dating can be fun. Dating can lead to heart ache. It’s just the way it is. Anytime you open yourself up to love, you might get hurt. It’s a risk we take and one that is often well worth it.
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However, we often open ourselves up to heartache that is avoidable.
so many people fall for some major traps or lies when they enter a relationship. We talked about guarding your heart from believing you are only valuable if you have a boyfriend/ girlfriend, from believing you can change someone, aand from believing sex isn’t a big deal. Learn the truth about
those lies and you will protect your heart.
Today let’s visit a couple more lies we tend to fall for when we start dating someone and how we can guard our hearts.
Again the main principle to guarding your heart is this: Fill your heart with TRUTH and cling to that truth when the world tells you lies.
Lie #1 – Being in a relationship with this person
will fulfill me and bring me complete happiness. So
I will do whatever I need to in order to keep him/
her loving me.
·Truth– Another person will never be able to fill the hole in your soul. Only God’s love is perfect. Only God can fill the hole. Therefore, never be so desperate to connect with another person that you are willing to lose who you are to keep them. It’s not worth it.
·Heart Protection– When you understand that your partner is never going to be able fill all your cravings for love, your expectations are more realistic and you will free yourself from desperately changing who you are in an attempt to “keep” them. You are free to be yourself and put your identity in a God who loves you perfectly just the way you are.
Lie #2– It doesn’t matter if we have the same
morals or spiritual beliefs, as long as we love each
other that will be enough. We can agree to
disagree.
Truth– There are no deeper thoughts or values than those that come from our spiritual being. What we believe spiritually will tell us a lot about our values and how we look at our world. Without agreeing on spiritual beliefs, most relationships will crumble.
·Heart Protection– If you make it a point to be sure you are on the same page about faith and values before you get too deep into your relationship, you will avoid future heartache. It is one thing to be friends with people who believe differently than you. It is another thing entirely to try to build a life with someone who does not agree with how you see the world.
The main TRUTH here is that you don’t have to settle for less than you deserve