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@ echidime thas sweet

I didnt read the whole story, too angry to read it, I wont blame her if she dumps your ass
what kind of innocence are you trying to prove by allowing someone to say crappy stuffs about ur wife and you cant even disagree with her, dat was so stupid , you actually agreed with what the person said because you didnt want the conversation to end, you cliam not to be doing anything wrong, I'm sure thats a thick lie.

You were watching Porn, hmmm a married man watching porn without his wife beside him, you have some stuffs going on underneath you're just a pathetic liar. its all showing in your story.

I wont ask her to dump you, but she should teach you a lesson you will never forget. and that lady you keep chatting with, she needs to go and get a man, and leave you d Bleep alone
she should go and chat with someone else, I bet u dont even call ur wife with pet names
RUBBISH!

i think you are less intelligent than you wife.though i also think there is more to it, as all you said is not enough for a divorce,
do either of
1. throw away your pride and go to the extreme in action to prove you are sorry, like kneeling down begging her in a public park, or her office, or refuse to leave her presence, until she forgives you, apply some desperation in action and also masculine pcyc, prove to her you are completely crazy about her,

2. or just ignore her completely as if nothing is happening and watch her, not try to prove anything,, just ignore as if you dont care, as if you dont love her at all,

if she is a simple minded easy going girl pick alternative 1

if she is simple but might want to be a little bit difficult, then pick alternative 1, for sometime,if it does it work then go the the other extreme of alterrnative2

3. involve her friends and people she respects around to help

alternative 3 is the last option, most cases bringing in 3rd parties is not good on the long run,

so try alternative1,first then alternative 2, and lastly alternative3 ,

you will certainly succeed,

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@factorychic & waffistyle take it easy hmmm Borlarge is ok wid his wife now evrythin is settled and they are now leavin happily ever after
Take it easy now

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Women Women Women i am not saying the guy was right speaking to another woman but this things happen i do not thing the next thing for the wife to do is to divorce the guy. My girlfriend does the same thing talks to her male friends and they ring her and i think out of respect they should at least say hello to me but they never do and this has made us argue alot nothing wrong in having the opposite sex as your friend but pple should respect the persons other half not call your husband or wife anytime they feel like to me respect is the word.

Dear Friend this is serious ok so dont try to water it down in any way.
First thing first when u apologise to her forget about claiming innocence or doing anything wrong cos it sort of deletes any apologies u make in the sense that if u feel u've not done anything wrong and u're apologising u're not passing any message that u're sorry ok. Also when u say u're sorry please mean what u are saying as in dont say it with ur mouth say it with ur heart and ur actions. Tell her exactly the way u feel if u feel u will die without her tell her let her know wat is in ur heart. If u feel like crying bros cry. there is nothing like shame in this thing. I'm very interested in this cos i'm from a broken home and i know what it is like u do not want to go there neither do u want ur child to go thru any of the ensuing situations. U should (must) also show her ur initial post to nairaland its great evidence that u love her a lot and want her to stay. She wants to go because she feels u do not love her. What are u doing about that show her please shower her with love she needs to know she is secure with U she doesnt want to be left in the cold. Note that I said show her that is much more than telling her. Let her feel what she felt when she said yes to U the first time and don' t let it end there ok.
Note i didnt even talk about what u did. right now u need to salvage the situation so what i will say is that u should never ever do what u did again. if there is anything u need from ur wife like conversation which u were doing with ur online friend pls tell ur wife u need to talk to her and sort ur selves out.
marraige is forever and ever and ever. Pls I beg u dont let her go even if she has gone go after her and make sure u get her back shove ur pride down the toilet.
One very important thing ur marraige needs GOD as the bedrock of ok so please let him in and let him handle it. Truly only the grace of God can make a man to forgive another for anywrong they might have done and truly move on ok. Sooooooooooooo

Ok let me do this for U show her this post ok,
please madam forgive ur husband and try to work it out. He is sorry I know He is maybe he just doesnt know how to communicate it to you effectively with his pride still intact. What he did was bad for a married man but please don't "throw away the baby with the bath water" It may be difficult to forgive him but its a choice only U can make so please decide to do so and take it from there. Please let God work in U and thru U to give Ur marraige a chance to survive. For ur sake, his sake and especially for the babys' sake.
Thank U very much I know U will do this right ok plus he wont do it again o as in He's learnt his lesson.
God Bless U real good.
Ronkus.

People Bolarge is ok now evrything is sorted out

wow i never knew about people writing a lot about their problems.

So ur wife did all these for u and u still wanted another woman. I wonder what else u want from a woman. U even said that she's beautiful that other men want her and ure messing up. Some people dont know what they have till they loose it. If she was the one that did what u did ur "umunna" may be deciding her case now. If not that she caught u u might have still continued probably to the extent of sleeping with ur online friend. Beg her, pray about it, do whatever u can to win her back and be sincere about whatever u do or say. If she refuses then marry ur online friend since u will lie to ur wife all cause of her and even stomach the insults she rained on ur wife. What a dude u are. Good luck though.

You know you are a liar.Be a man about it don't apologise to her nothing and let her go and you take a long vacation to south Africa,I am sure you will enjoy it.She is playing tricks on you,let her ass go,you don't need a third person into this,it looks to me like she has found a man with a big one so you are hit BRO.And for you,boy! you need to take a quick exit to the hospital because you have mental status change for what you have done is not normal.If you tell her that you will die withou her she will kill you before you kill yourself so don't.Don't pray about it because you will catch fire before the end of your prayers so don't say that I did not tell you.Mmmmmmm!Cry about it?you might try but get bare first before you do that.Last but not list go to a tall building and jump,trust me,your stess will be gone before you hit the ground.

Am finding it difficult to believe your story,don't want to be nasty but i don't think guyz like you deserve a woman of good virtue like your wife


Anyway,wish you all the best,just hopes she will be able to forgive and forget.

I believe if you could go back and change your past behavior as a husband, you would.  I just started a "thread" that asks the question, "Should a Husband or Wife Develop Close Relationships With Someone of the Opposite Sex?".  Ironically, reading your topic kind of answered that.  Women are usually forgiving by nature, and are more willing to give someone a second chance, depending on the offense, than most men are (especially in the areas such as this).  However, when a woman gets to the point where she has been through hell and high water (as the expression goes), and she just cannot take it or is not willing to take it any longer due to her husband's treatement, she can and will usually turn her feelings off and proceed forward, contemplating a future without him.  Perhaps she has just had enough of trying to trust you and you continually lie to her, and you are still playing games.  When trust is broken in a marriage or relationship, it is hard to build that back up again.

I would advise that you make one LAST PLEA with her, but you MUST be willing to be TOTALLY HONEST about your past mistakes.  You must not continue to lie to cover up the past lies, which only creates present lies.  Your wife seems at a point where she is tired of playing games, for she means what she says!

Try honesty and much prayer!  If that does not work, than know that sometimes when we mess up, the broken pieces do not always fit back together.  If that happens, learn and grow from this mistake, and do not develop a friendship that is more stronger with ANYONE other than your wife, whom you say you love and desire to spend your life with.

I pray it works out the way you want it to!

thou slowpoke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! finally there is a human authenticated to be synomymous with a donkey.you annoy me!!!!!

you just need to tell your wife you have been cheating on her, go down on your knees if possible cry hard so she could forgive you

This marriage seems like it was imbalanced right from the start and the wife knows that fact very well. She has been this, she has been that for him etc. And maybe what the husband did was wrong but maybe he was just trying to asset his masculinity.
I think he should apologize to her again, but without pleading. The main thing here is that she has never respected him and perhaps has always felt she married below herself and now is the time for the man to evolve and become a man she can respect.
He should also exhibit his own intelligence and capability to be the head of the home and stuff like that , and I tell you, she will reconsider getting a divorce ,

Am glad that things are getting good now. Give us an update soon to let us know how the classes and stuff went or have been going. Gluck to you and your wifey

hi baby
the sweetest words in the world is love. i want to let you know, i have a feel for you over there. you mail me at segunkk5@yahoo.com
love to meet.

Hi , I have NO doubt that you’re a good man and a good husband. I’m sure you care about your marriage and you don’t want it to end. But here’s the deal. You deserve to be happy. It’s important that YOU feel good about yourself AND your marriage. You deserve a loving, caring wife who will do anything for you. You deserve a wonderful marriage. You deserve a life with all the love, affection, and attention you want. You don’t deserve to be stuck in limbo… unsure of what’s happening with your marriage. But if you’re like most guys, you probably don’t know the next steps to take. You’ve probably tried everything you can think of to save your marriage.
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Let her go!
She does not want you anymore!