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Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 1:53pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Outstanding debt. Who has some and what is the plan for paying it off? Children. Do you want them? If so, how many? If not, are you sure enough about that decision to take permanent steps to ensure you don't have them (like a vasectomy)? If you do want them, when do you want to have your first? Are you open to adoption or fertility treatments if you're unable to conceive naturally? How long do you want to try to conceive naturally before trying different options? Religion. If you practice a religion or have a particular faith, how important is it that your partner share the faith and practice it with you? How does your religion or faith affect your lifestyle? If you plan to have kids, what religion, if any, do you want to raise them in? Bank accounts and bill-sharing. Will you share a bank account? Keep individual accounts? Both? And what bills will be paid by what accounts? Will you each put a certain percentage of your income toward shared bills? Do you have an emergency fund? What if one person is out of work or decides to stay home to raise the kids? What's your plan for affording that? Division of household labor. Dishes, laundry, yada, yada, yada. Barter, negotiate and plead if you have to so that you aren't stuck doing the thing you least like all the time. If you hate, hate, hate washing dishes, but don't mind cooking, suggest to your partner that you head meal preparation if he or she agrees to take on the dishes. This works best if the thing you hate with a passion isn't also the same thing your partner hates with a passion. If it is, find a way to compromise, using your best negotiation tactics "Okay, I'll empty the litter box and do the laundry if you please wash the dishes... Sex. Do you want to sleep with just one person for the rest of your life? Can you and still be happy and satisfied? If not, you need to discuss either the possibility of an open marriage, strategies for keeping the spark alive, or waiting on marriage until the idea of monogamy isn't a death sentence for you. Hard or soft. Your mattress! You will (hopefully) be sleeping in the same bed as this person for a very, very long time, and a comfortable mattress is imperative for a good night's rest. Rack up too many sleepless nights and your relationship will suffer. So, if you and your partner have different ideas of what makes a comfortable mattress, how will you compromise? Family obligations. How much time do you spend with your family now, how much do you expect to spend with them once you're married and potentially have children, and how much time do you expect your spouse to spend with them (and vice versa)? How do you plan to spend your holidays and what's your plan for giving both sets of families equal time with you/your children during the major holidays? Are you the type of person who likes to vacation with your family, and if so, how often? Feel free adding yours...... |
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by frankay430(m): 1:57pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
typing....FTC tinz |
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by INTROVERT(f): 1:57pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Very true... very |
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by olaideeeedris(m): 1:58pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Food u love to eat and those u hate to even see... How abt dat? Ur taste for fashion... Skimpy, moderate or .... And lastly and very important... Ur philosophy abt life, do the two of u view the world from the same window? If no, every would definitely lead quarrel (even d channel to watch go lead to world war lll) |
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by WINEBERRY(f): 2:14pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
OK THE MAIN POINT IS BANK ACCOUNT AND BILL SHARING..... MOST GIRLS WONT DO IT BUT PREFER TO BE FEMINIST CHECKING MY SIGNATURE?
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