shaboti:
you are a real bìtch! For sayin her grammar is bad. As if yours is any better.


Its 'liar' not 'lier'. Olodo.

misssclassy:
First of all, I am sorry for the situation you have found yourself in.
You were naïve when you were used by that man so none of this is your fault.
Staying with that man is not the best option. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and worse than that , he physically abuses you.

I will advice you try your best to find a way to move out of that house.
You don't need to depend on him for survival. There are other things you could do. You could start up a small business so you can take care of yourself. There are a lot of business ideas you could pick from, especially in your school environment. You could also learn a trade or vocation.

In addition to that, there should also be other guys that might have been asking you out and all that. There could be one that would be ready to take care of you. Perhaps you should try to open up a bit. I am not saying you should sleep with men, or sell your body to them, no, all I am saying is you make a couple of friends and perhaps you might find someone to love and who would love you too.
You can't fight this battle alone.

What about members of your extended family, friends in and out of school. There should be someone you could talk to and who could be willing to help.
Just open up to someone close, you will definitely feel the load lifted from you shoulders.

I don't know how committed you are to your religion, but in cases like this , religious organizations can really be of help.
You could talk to your religious leader about everything. They could help.
Even the fellow members of your religious organisation, whether it's a church or a mosque, can also help you.

Young lady, we as humans always face various challenges in our lives. But we should never give in to them and lose all hope.
There is still light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be okay,
Just keep on trusting God and be prayerful as well.

Bonapart:
You chose to belittle yourself and look up to a man as your God, who in turn sees you as a sex slave...
Just imagine there was no hole in between your legs, just know that he's only there for you because he can hav sex with you to his full satisfaction....
All the babies you've killed God will punish you for it
and also punish you for sex before marriage which is fornication


My advice: leave the house while you can cos your own life is next...
I have no sympathy for you cos many are in a poorer family but labour by themselves and see themselves through school but you chose to be a sex slave because of feeding money and bla bla bla
What happens to working after ssce to save money for higher institution


you're just a who*re who got it wrong

misssclassy:
First of all, I am sorry for the situation you have found yourself in.
You were naïve when you were used by that man so none of this is your fault.
Staying with that man is not the best option. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and worse than that , he physically abuses you.

I will advice you try your best to find a way to move out of that house.
You don't need to depend on him for survival. There are other things you could do. You could start up a small business so you can take care of yourself. There are a lot of business ideas you could pick from, especially in your school environment. You could also learn a trade or vocation.

In addition to that, there should also be other guys that might have been asking you out and all that. There could be one that would be ready to take care of you. Perhaps you should try to open up a bit. I am not saying you should sleep with men, or sell your body to them, no, all I am saying is you make a couple of friends and perhaps you might find someone to love and who would love you too.
You can't fight this battle alone.

What about members of your extended family, friends in and out of school. There should be someone you could talk to and who could be willing to help.
Just open up to someone close, you will definitely feel the load lifted from you shoulders.

I don't know how committed you are to your religion, but in cases like this , religious organizations can really be of help.
You could talk to your religious leader about everything. They could help.
Even the fellow members of your religious organisation, whether it's a church or a mosque, can also help you.

Young lady, we as humans always face various challenges in our lives. But we should never give in to them and lose all hope.
There is still light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be okay,
Just keep on trusting God and be prayerful as well.

MsBliss:
First things first .

Your grammar is bad. I can't believe you are in year two . That aside.


You should never forget that your future is in your hands. never
If after looking at you present situation,you decide that this kind of life is what you desire in your future then you can sit down all day crying to us about how terrible your life is else ,you take a bold step by going out to look for a job. working won't kill you .

Who says you can't go to school and work at the same time ? what happened to being independent and buying stuffs you want with your own money?
what happened to kicking toxic people out of your life ?
You are even lucky that your parents pays your school fees. Av seen people who work to pay all their fees themselves and whoever told you that if you leave your self imposed husband,you will die is a big lier.

teekay213:
gbam!

wristwatch:
You are in a difficult situation which is almost impossible to survive.

You need to understand one thing dear, some people are in your shoe but strive under difficult challenges and all that.

The thing is you confided so much in that boyfriend of yours called uncle believing it's your haven.

My advice is to pick a job that can help meet your financial needs and as well have time for your academics (You can start by picking a job as a househelp; u will have enough to eat and shelter to lay your head or as a freelancer in telecom companies; etisalat, glo. MTN, etc. U can sell their products among your colleagues which is profitable. Also be creative in doing something students and other category of people like to consume).

As for your relationship, quit it immediately. Squat with a friend for the time being till u are financially stable to get an accommodation.

I can see you are an ambitious lady. Don't give up on yourself.

frankson1:


WOW!!! After reading this I forgot what to say. Real Classy

alerabson:
I love you, you do have it all may almighty bless your life.

Amen.

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

Bonapart:
You chose to belittle yourself and look up to a man as your God, who in turn sees you as a sex slave...
Just imagine there was no hole in between your legs, just know that he's only there for you because he can hav sex with you to his full satisfaction....
All the babies you've killed God will punish you for it
and also punish you for sex before marriage which is fornication


My advice: leave the house while you can cos your own life is next...
I have no sympathy for you cos many are in a poorer family but labour by themselves and see themselves through school but you chose to be a sex slave because of feeding money and bla bla bla
What happens to working after ssce to save money for higher institution


you're just a who*re who got it wrong

emsheddy:
Oga, do me a favour. Stay away from advicing people on emotional issues. U will surely murder many souls that way. And to everyone who is pouring insults on the girl, even Jesus never condemned the adulterous woman that was brought to him. Here is a sister who needs all the encouragement in life. The least u can do is ignore the thread other than spilling bile. Some of u might even be worse than this. Let he who is without a sin, be the first to cast a stone.
Ishilove, the girl has to leave dat dude ASAP. She will find help. God will not allow her to waste just like that. But she has to make the decision.

tiwasiaife:
let her contact me

youngice:

Evil

MsBliss:


You should never forget that your future is in your hands. never
If after looking at you present situation,you decide that this kind of life is what you desire in your future then you can sit down all day crying to us about how terrible your life is else ,you take a bold step by going out to look for a job. working won't kill you .

Who says you can't go to school and work at the same time ? what happened to being independent and buying stuffs you want with your own money?
what happened to kicking toxic people out of your life?
You are even lucky that your parents pays your school fees. Av seen people who work to pay all their fees themselves and whoever told you that if you leave your self imposed husband,you will die is a big liar.

emsheddy:
Oga, do me a favour. Stay away from advicing people on emotional issues. U will surely murder many souls that way. And to everyone who is pouring insults on the girl, even Jesus never condemned the adulterous woman that was brought to him. Here is a sister who needs all the encouragement in life. The least u can do is ignore the thread other than spilling bile. Some of u might even be worse than this. Let he who is without a sin, be the first to cast a stone.
Ishilove, the girl has to leave dat dude ASAP. She will find help. God will not allow her to waste just like that. But she has to make the decision.

neoapocalypse:


What are "gbamming" for ? so you support she should find another man from her "toasters" and start the whole process again. Whatever happened to fending for herself , being self sufficient and living within her means. Na wa for this your kind mentality.

Slimzjoe:


I don't have all the answers but one thing I know for sure is Only Lazy People Give there bodies out in exchange for Money

Ferdybaba:

Jeez.......Reading this epistle is really heart aching. In fact am staring at my laptop in the office and almost tearing.

And to make matters worse, the guys that made comments on the first page didn't help matters at all. Are most Nigerians now sadist? or maybe

many people have this latent hatred for just no reason. No single advice whatsoever, even after reading this very sad tale.

@OP, all i can say is that you need serious help which can only come from GOD. I think you should discuss this issue with a confidant,maybe your

pastor or an elderly woman . You really need to leave that guy, cos you are not married to him plus there is no good future with him if you stick

around.No doubts, he has tried for you so far but you are NOT A SLAVE, you have a bright future . Trust GOD, He will show up for you. YOUR

STORY WILL CHANGE as you crave

That guy's comment was exactly what Standd was talking about when she mentioned that Nigerian men are hypocrites. I can not understand how someone's conscience can be seared to the point he/she cannot feel a modicum of pity for a fellow human.

Are we this wicked?