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Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 3:53pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
See below my kid’s sex, age and chores Boy 11 Mop kitchen floor, dinning room floor and hallway Take out the trash Clean bedroom, make bed Girl 9 Clean Bathroom Vacuum Living room Floor Vacumm Game room floor Clean bedroom, make bed Boy 6 Pick up/put away all toys Empty all trash cans into kitchen trash Clean room, make bed Weekend Boy 11 Mop all floors 2nd level on hands and knees Girl 9 Mop all floors on 3rd level on hands and knees Boy 6 Move all dirty clothes to basement and sort colors and whites I am having a great deal of trouble getting the chores done on a consistent basis and not having to raise my voice when I get home. Am I asking too much, lets talk about parenting styles and motivation techniques for getting the work done. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by JustGood(m): 4:17pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
When you have many kids, there's no way you're not going to have to raise your voice sometimes. It's just the way it works. kids will always be kids and you should not woryy yourself too much that you sometimes have to raise your voice for them to do stuff. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Iranoladun(f): 4:30pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
You are not asking for too much but most kids would rather you let them do their own things: watch movies, browse, listen to music etc but as parents we just have to be firm & consistent. Sometimes you may have to raise your voice to drive home the point; hopefully as they grow older they tend to be more responsible |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 4:53pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
What kinds of chores do your children have? How are they in getting them done everyday? They get home from school at 3pm, I get home at 530 from work. I expect that chores and homework be done when i get home is this too much? |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Treetop20(m): 6:25pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
sistawoman:no you aren't i think you are doing a good job by doing this not watching tv all day long. I think they should also do some after school things to keep busy. maybe sports or some other stuff. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 7:24pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
both of the boys take Capoiera My daughter is a cheerleader for her elem. school The boys will be taking football in the fall And my daughter will be a cheerleader. They are only allowed 2 hours of tv per day - pre approved only They have to read one book a week and do a book report on it They have to read one story each a night (the two oldest) to thier younger brother. The baby boy reads to me each night before he goes to bed. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 7:25pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
They try to cut corners too. It annoys me to no end. I am very much the white glove type and have shown them several times how I expect thier chores to be done. So i get really annoyed when they say they are done but in fact they are not done correctly. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Uche2nna(m): 7:33pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
I like ur parenting style. Knowing from my mom's experience, it would sure take a lot keep everybody on track (lol). U are not alone with the raising of the voice thingy. Very common in ma household. And sometimes when the shouting was not doing the thing (which is most of the time ) , momsy supplements with the cane. Ouuuchhh!!!! When I tell peeps here in the US about some whipping sessions I got from ma parents, they start feeling sorry for me as if I was abuised or something And then when I tell them that I am grateful for all those whippings, it knocks them off thier tracks. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Outstrip(f): 11:24pm On Mar 09, 2009 |
I remember doing dishes, cooking, moping and sweeping the yard by the time I was in primary 6 (which I believe is like 11 or 12 years old). I think that it might be a little much for the 9 year old but then again hard work does not kill. I think you are doing a good job with them just don't over do it. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by RichyBlacK(m): 1:15am On Mar 10, 2009 |
Create an incentive program for the kids; they'll work and smile at the same time. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by amebono13: 1:46am On Mar 10, 2009 |
sistawoman:i must say u r doing a great job with ur kids but d highlighted part does not really go down well with me u see whne dis kids come back from school,sometimes they feel exhausted,homework shouldnt be d thing there,rather they should take their baths,eat their food,and sleep for a few hours,then they r refreshed but making them do all dis when they come back from school,i think its too harsh anywayz we all see things in diff ways |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 1:49am On Mar 10, 2009 |
If there is one thing parents need to learn - do not shout at your kids. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 1:54am On Mar 10, 2009 |
amebo no1.: I like |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 1:55am On Mar 10, 2009 |
davidylan: I like |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Sissy3(f): 2:08am On Mar 10, 2009 |
i dnt have kids yet ( still yrs away lol ) but i do take care of children and this what i do with them when it comes to housework 1) I Post a "chore chart." and have them involved in the creation of the chore chart. i Decide together with them what chores will be listed and will be expected to be completed. I Use stickers or tie a pencil next to the chart for record keeping. 2) Chores should be appropriate to the child's age. Children in preschool should always have to put away toys. Children in early elementary school can help also with pets and putting their laundry away. The older children can also help with bigger tasks including vacuuming or sweeping, mopping, dusting, changing sheets, laundry and dishes. 3) Rewards for chores should also be age appropriate. It doesn't always have to be a monetary allowance. You can reward their responsibility with coupons for 1 on 1 time with a parent, a special activity of choice or a play date with a friend. more time playing games, watching tv etc. just any fun thing that will boost their spirit and make them more eager to do the work. and always tell them what a great job they did. you know words of encouragement helps big time 4) there should be consequences if the work is not done. There is no reason to get upset and angry with your children when they do not want to do chores. they are children so just be easy and patient with them. it takes time |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 2:29am On Mar 10, 2009 |
~Sissy~: |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Sissy3(f): 2:36am On Mar 10, 2009 |
longest time |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 2:41am On Mar 10, 2009 |
~Sissy~: Letz get married so we can raise our kids the way u've mentioned. Vegas?? i want 12 kids tho |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Sissy3(f): 2:49am On Mar 10, 2009 |
chamotex: drive through wedding they never last oo, unless u wan to b paying me child support every month no nah i want a big white wedding 12 kids nahh dat numba small na, lets have 21 and break world record so our names will b in the Guinness book record |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 2:56am On Mar 10, 2009 |
Sistawoman, seems to me that the kids are the only one doing the chores. What exactly do you do? Don't get me wrong, kids ought to do chores in order to compensate for living under their parent's roof. But what I HATE seeing is the parent not helping, while the kids are suffering under the weight of being students and doing excess chores, mommy sits there and watch. Just a simple observation. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by amebono13: 3:05am On Mar 10, 2009 |
Ebony-Silk: exactly im not against kids doing house chores,but forcing them to do it b4 5.30 when they come back from school at 3.00 is not really right,dis r kids, coming back from school they will feel exhausted,and dats why they dont do it right,cos they do all dis with a tired mind if my daughter comes back from school,i will be d one telling her or her siblings to go take their bath,eat and sleep for a couple of hours,b4 they do anything in d house and plss give dis kids the kind of work they deserve,for real when i was 11 my mum never used to allow me mop d house not to talk of scolding me when i dont do it right plssssss dis r kids not adults |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 3:17am On Mar 10, 2009 |
Ebony-Silk: |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 3:20am On Mar 10, 2009 |
@@amebo You got that right. . . .They need to bath, eat, rest a while and do their homework. Their homewroks is the first priority. We used to the the chores after dinner, like arnd seven. Get done by 8, have enough time to study afterwards Ans I HATE a lazy wife/mother. Your job is to see to it that the house is clean, by actually helping too (not saying Sisitawoman i tht kind of woman o) @chamotex lol, that's the way it is, hon. Wanna live under my roof for free, you gotta pay. It's like going to a guest' house and eating. I make sure I clean my dishes and the rest of the dishes in the sink before I leave. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 3:22am On Mar 10, 2009 |
which one is moping on hands and knees? Even Kunta Kente would say "No massah, I no do" |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 3:24am On Mar 10, 2009 |
mama is done given birth, now is time to rest, sit down cross your leg and give order while hussy gives you back therapy no housegirl and houseboy so the kids must work mom must rest from 9 to 5, by the way, hussy must work too |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 3:24am On Mar 10, 2009 |
like we do in naija now basin and soapy water with rag |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by amebono13: 3:30am On Mar 10, 2009 |
DeReloaded: @ebony i want to know wat sistawoman does in d house apart from cooking,putting wine on d bed table waiting for her husband to come home and then they can share the drink togeda its her kids anywayz,but no way im i going to treat my kids,or over stress them like dat no way,even an 11 yr old maid,shouldnt be treated like dat |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chamotex(m): 3:34am On Mar 10, 2009 |
Ebony-Silk: Can u stop calling me "hon" no spoil market for me jor |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 3:34am On Mar 10, 2009 |
I bet the kids are the ones who pour out the wine and run the bubble bath for these 5 round sessions sef |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 3:36am On Mar 10, 2009 |
lol |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by amebono13: 3:36am On Mar 10, 2009 |
DeReloaded: hahahahahahhahaah,hahahahahaha no dis is so funny maybe they r d ones dat wear her ,her favourite seriously,dis kids might not grow well,dis work is too much for their age haba |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Moonstone(f): 3:37am On Mar 10, 2009 |
I almost pity the children but I guess the earlier the better. At 6, the only chore i did was to lay my bed and sweep the floor and I'm a girl so I think it's too much for the 6-year old boy. As for Chamo and Ebony, I see you o! Toba ya, wa ma kigbe A-40. . . alainise *writes in journal* |
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