Marriage is a tough institution. Let’s stop sugar coating it. It is also a life-
time institution. Let’s stop making it look like a nine-day wonder. The more
time we spend preparing our children for the emotional and other realistic
challenges that come with marriage, rather than the frivolities and
extravagancies of the day of the wedding, the better for our children's marital
lives.
Many girls depend too much on their parents shoulders rather than discover
the strength in their husband. In fact, some parents now say it openly that
their daughter could come back home if they found their marriage
uncomfortable. That was not the case in our time. You made your bed and
were made to lie on it. Besides, what does not break you can only strengthen
you. That's the key!
These days, the amount of emotional fraud that goes into getting our children
to say: ‘I do’ are getting out of hand, too many negative influences here and
there.
My appeal today is to our generation of parents to let our children marry in
their own way. We should stop indulging in our fantasies. I wonder how many
parents actually ask their children what they want before embarking on these
grand schemes. In our youthful days, most of us financed our weddings and
the marriages were successful. Most weddings today are failing because of
parents interference.
Our marriages fared better on the long run than what we have today in spite
of the millions of naira people are spending to get married today. And this is
because the weddings were by us and for us. Parents and their few friends
came as guests.
We must question the rationale in spending millions on a wedding when one
of the couple hasn’t found a job (in most cases the wife) and may not even
know her bearing in life yet. We must also worry at the pressure we are
putting on the marriage itself. Many cracks which later on widened into
chasms started during the frenetic and totally unrealistic preparations for
grandiose weddings. Many parents make unnecessary demands and transmit
their frustrations to the children. These frustrations seep into the young
marriages and become toxins in their homes. It would have made more sense
if bigger weddings meant more successful marriages. Unfortunately, the
reverse seems to be the case.
Let your children be free. Free to find love and build on what they find. Let
them be free to determine their expectations and realities. Let them grow
together on their own terms and in their own ways.

Omg ?......FP PLCCC

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Yes...Listen to some mothers talk about marriage and they talk about it like its a bed of roses...

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Some parents are just too eager to