Good day
I'm a dedicated reader of your blog and sending this in for me to know bvs point of view,please hide my details...the issue now is I'm a new mum for the first time, although I gave birth early February, and my marriage is going to 3yrs now,we are both graduates and i was working in one small private organisation but due to the fact that my pregnancy got complicated at 2nd trimester i had to resign, DH is contract staff in a private firm(just about 2yrs in the firm) so pay is low, as baby don involve expenses are high and we don't even have savings and this is causing a lot of strain between us.

I understand the burden alone is too much for him to bear if pay was high this issue will not even come up, why I'm putting this forward is that any small misunderstanding we have he keeps saying "go and find work, other wives are working, you demand too much(mind you the only thing I ask for is concerning what the baby needs) "all the burden is on me, rent will soon expire, see all the provisions don finish you eat like rat, if you are working e for good, see baby milk we buy which day don finish how you dey do am " etc .

it makes me feel so bad and i cry (I'm very emotional)most times to sleep, coupled with the fact that its just me and baby as we can't afford a helper,this situation got me thinking that the fact I don't have a job and Dh always rubbing it in my face is really affecting my self esteem (if the case was reversed I won't do same to him) I don't have money would have started any small business oh, please I want to know how other moms got back on their feet in similar situations.

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In as much as a woman should help out in the little way she can, it's like our men are forgetting that it's their responsibility to provide for their home. Abi na just to scream "head of house" una sabi?

On the other hand, this man here would expect his wife to be loving and supportive if circumstances change and she becomes the breadwinner. He will conveniently forget how he always rubbed her state of joblessness in her face

Include your source now abi is it your story?

words can turn to sword if found in a diarrhoa mouth. pity that lady though

Maybe he should have carried the pregnancy and get mocked for losing his job due to the complications. Some insensitive humans.
Anyway she needs to quit the self pity and get up on her feet. No time to look at his face.just strap your baby on your back and get out there and do some thing for yourself. If he died, you'd still survive. So the earlier you know you must take care of yourself, the better for you.

I feel ur pain dear, though it has every course to weigh u down bt dnt allow it to make u feel worthless, cos u re worth more than u think.
Make him understand that u quit ur job for d survival of u nd d baby, jst do me a favour, jst keep taking care of d baby and dnt request too much from him and wenever he gives u money for house keeps use it for d baby since is jst d three of u at home. In all be strong and dont let his words break u rather let it make u stronger. Gracias.