“Girllll it’s easy to love me now, would you love me if I
was down and out–would you still have love for me…
girrllll!?” To many, it was just a song by 50 Cent. But for
many men could really relate to it on a daily basis.
Society told men that when it comes to providing and
protecting, the weight of the world was on their
shoulders and it was the only way to be respected by
women. Sometimes women believe that they are the
only ones who have insecurities about whether or not
they will be good enough. But the truth is that many
men go through the same gambit of emotions and
doubts. Here are a few questions that men might just
have.

1. If I lost it all today would you still be with me?
Relationships can take us on journeys and
rollercoasters. One year he could go from making six
figures and providing a stable and secure lifestyle, and
the next year he could get laid off and go back to barely
making ends meet. No man ever plans on that
happening. But just like women, men want to feel secure
in the fact that they won’t be left high and dry when
they fall on hard times. 50 Cent said it best “If I went
back to a hooptie from a Benz would you *poof* and
disappear like some of my friends?”
temp in male thinking standing


2. If I couldn’t protect you from something would you still respect me?
As much as men want to protect their families and their
women from everything, there may be a time when what
he does just isn’t enough. Sometimes, he may put in
the effort but he may not get there in time or
sometimes he may not have what it takes to protect
you from a certain person or thing or situation. If he
failed you that one, time would you still be able to
respect him? Or would he be met with so much
resentment that the relationship would fall
apart?

3. If I wasn’t satisfying you sexually would you cheat on
me?
Women aren’t the only ones who have insecurities
about their ability to consistently satisfy their mates
sexually. He may think “what if she gets curious? What
if she gets bored with me? What if she stops desiring
me?” YES believe it or not men go through these same
thought processes, although many of them wouldn’t
dare to admit it because of course that would be too
“soft” or “weak.”

4. What if I don’t turn out to be the father you expected
me to be?

The same way that women worry about not being
enough as a Mother, men share in those same
sentiments as it relates to fatherhood. What if I don’t
live up to what my wife expects from me as a father?
What if my child doesn’t turn out the way I raised him
or her to be? What if I’m not able to provide him or her
with all of the things and opportunities that I wanted
to? What if I don’t live up to the expectations? These
questions are very real to lots of men.
We can’t always control how other people act or
behave, but we can control the effort that we put into
doing the best that we can and being the best men that
we can be!
We all know that no man or woman is perfect, but
maybe what you now have a better grasp of is that men
deal with the burdens of imperfection as well,
sometimes to a high degree. All we can do is hope that
we choose wisely in a mate and that we become the
best we can be personally and in the relationship. We
can’t always control how other people act or behave,
but we can control the effort that we put into doing the
best that we can and being the best men that we can
be! With that said…..rest your mind young man…and
know that you can, and will deliver.

Dunno y mod banned me since ystday!

Hmm

Rajjah:
Hmm

Bar wats d problem?

wenson:
Bar wats d problem?

nothin.

Everyone has that one big phobia/fear

MsBliss:
Everyone has that one big phobia/fear

Seconded