Ladies, can you share your husband?
Guys: Do you ever think of marrying more than one wife?

This topic has been discussed several times and the consensus was that polygamy was an idiotic thing to do
I strongly agree.

Polygamy has been around for a while, where it works - it definitely works. . .  In other places however, greed and jealousy turn it into a complete failure. It wasn't rubbish in the days of old, it still isn't rubbish in some parts of the world today.  If planned well it certainly will work, and although nobody who has experienced western education and civilization wants to go in that direction [myself included], many would kill to be in one.

It seems the only way to contain man's desire for multiple relationships, and woman's quest to know man's every move

whitelexi:

Polygamy has been around for a while, where it works - it definitely works. . . In other places however, greed and jealousy turn it into a complete failure. It wasn't rubbish in the days of old, it still isn't rubbish in some parts of the world today. If planned well it certainly will work, and although nobody who has experienced western education and civilization wants to go in that direction [myself included], many would kill to be in one.

It seems the only way to contain man's desire for multiple relationships, and woman's quest to know man's every move

You have absolutely no right as a man to tell us how good polygamy is
Let the women,who are the ones getting done,say so.
Let the kids who are the products of the the wonderful world of polygamy tell you so

This topic has been over-dealt with on nairaland.

**osisi:

You have absolutely no right as a man to tell us how good polygamy is
Let the women,who are the ones getting done,say so.
Let the kids who are the products of the the wonderful world of polygamy tell you so

I sense alot of personal agro coming from your post, there's no need to get worked up. I just made a point, the fact that it doesn't appeal to u doesn't make it sour. . . The fact that it has not worked in a few cases doesn't make it impossible. There are many women today who would gladly grab polygamy with both hands.

And dont make it look like polygamy favours the men, it also favours women who'd rather know who their hussy is with at every moment

whitelexi:

I sense alot of personal agro coming from your post, there's no need to get worked up. I just made a point, the fact that it doesn't appeal to u doesn't make it sour. . . The fact that it has not worked in a few cases doesn't make it impossible. There are many women today who would gladly grab polygamy with both hands.

And dont make it look like polygamy favours the men, it also favours women who'd rather know who their hussy is with at every moment

You are wrong is favours women who are so fedup with the crap they get from men they need a sperm donor. But due to culture and saving face they lay claim on being someones 15th wife they start breeding and go about their bussiness all under the guise that they are "Marriage" and have an ADE ORI.

LadyT:

You are wrong is favours women who are so fedup with the crap they get from men they need a sperm donor. But due to culture and saving face they lay claim on being someones 15th wife they start breeding and go about their bussiness all under the guise that they are "Marriage" and have an ADE ORI.

If they're fed up and hate polygamy, why go into it in the first place. . . Why even save your face through that medium? Why not just remain single, or be a single parent?

It is a matter of choice. Some people will opt for it, others will not.

coming from such background, I WILL NEVER AND WILL DISOWN ANY OF CHILDREN WHO EVEN DARE TO THINK OF SUCH, the war in Iraq is nothing compare to that of a polygamous family, it brought me closer to God, cos if you are from such home and doesn't know God you must surely dine with the devil to breakthrough ,

if you really look at it, few percentage of people from the polygamous family succeed and the few are always a force to reckon with, ile orogun ile ogun, if i only i could rewrite my history.

Go to Dubai for instance, and see how a polygamy is run with peace and joy. . . The entire family dines together, there is a very cordial relationship between the parents and kids. . . The men have peace of mind, there is enough to go round over and over again. I have friends, and i've seen things with my own eyes. . . If there is no greed, or jealousy. . . and there is more of love, respect, tolerance, and money. . . it works well

I'm from a polygamous family and we get on very well.

It's so in some part of Naija.

Polygamy is for the not too jealous type as for me,don't think so,too jealous to share.

hayoakins:

Ladies, can you share your husband?
Guys: Do you ever think of marrying more than one wife?

I am considering it. . . . .

its emotionally and physically demanding
a pointless waste of time, affection and resources

bluespice:

its emotionally and physically demanding
a pointless waste of time, affection and resources

Still u cannot eat your cake and have it

as a second wife i strongly disagree.

it is to complicated for some. however ask your selves something,
have you ever cheated on your loved one? or had someone do that in your family?
well all thats a hurtful type of polygamous relationship.

i love my husband and sister wife vary much. i have had just boyfriends and one husband and did not like it.
think of it this way. your husband gets up to go to work, theres still someone to talk to and hang out with. so whats so wrong with this?
and if you are thinking I'm just some back woods hick with no life i have to P.H.D's

Does anyone know why diehard traditionalists consider polygamy an integral part of African tradition?

Going back to ancient Roman times, polygamy still wasnt the norm even as far back as that. So why did Africans insist on sticking to polygamy as a way of life (along with refusing to create any form of indigenous documented history but that's another story)?

Is there more to this polygamic stuff than meets the eye? Is it due to the hardship of African life or just a way of controlling women as a means to an end?

Why do some men find monogamy so foreign to their natures? Religion aside.

And is polygamy an Arab influence since most of Africa is directly under the same?

@ topic am seriously considering it oh************** 

as long as am allowed to have up to 7 husbands and more  " "

hayoakins:


I'm from a polygamous family and we get on very well,

what percent of polygamous marriage are peaceful and successful?

If u take that up as a research work and your sample population is a world-thing, i bet u that peaceful polygamy would have more percentage oh. . . It is only when u decide to sample naija alone that afraid will catch me small

if all parties like and understand each other and are willing to work together to make the home happy - then it will work

unfrtunately the hman nature tends to think of self-first and where this interest is threatened ppl change and these homes become breeding ground for all sorts

so i would advise a man who intends on being polygamous to start from scratch and tell his first wife that she may be one of many - make she sef enter wiv her eyes open - and let it not come as a surprose to her 5yrs into wedlock and you expect her to auto adjust form mono to poly chances are it won't happen

as for me i can't stand to share my boyfriend - talkless of husband - god forbid bad tin (shudders at the thought!!)

Polygamy is utter rubbish