I saw this somewhere online so I thought I should share,its quite lengthy but very educating,happy reading.
Pornography Is A Pervasive Plague
August 22, 2015 at 2:44pm
"Pervasive Plague" (By Trenton Gill)
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Who here knows the definition of honesty? Today,
I need you to be honest with me, but more
importantly, I need you to be honest with
yourself. To all the men reading this: how many of
you would get upset if your girlfriend/wife
intentionally looked at another naked man? To all
the women reading this: how many of you would
get upset if your boyfriend/husband intentionally
looked at another naked woman? Now I pose this
question to all of you: how many of you would get
upset if your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife
got pleasure from what he/she saw? How many of
you would get upset if your boyfriend/girlfriend/
husband/wife masturbated to the image that he/
she saw? An image that was of a person who is
not you?
The emotion that would arouse anger and cause
you to feel upset is called jealousy, and jealousy
often stems from insecurity. But insecurity within
a romantic relationship often arises due to
mistrust and misconduct.
I just posed some questions to you, questions
which invoked responses in many of you to
ultimately feel upset. It is quite easy to dislike
something or get upset over it when it affects you
personally, but are you able to examine yourself
in equivalent scenarios to realize what
consequences your choices/decisions truly have
on yourself as well as others? The questions I
asked you to answer specifically described a
pervasive plague known as pornography – it is a
plague that we should exclude from our lives.
At the age of 16, I fell into the addicting and
loveless trap of pornography. I am not proud of
it; in fact, I regret having ever partaken in the
lustful acts. Unfortunately, my horrible mistakes
led to feeling empty inside. Fortunately, that
emptiness within me eventually brought me to
discover the shocking truth about pornography’s
damaging and lasting effects it has on millions of
people worldwide.
Pornography changes what men and women
expect from each other, creates dissociation from
reality, destroys relationships, and distorts
children’s ideas of sex and sexuality.
Pornography Changes Expectations
1. A University of Alabama researcher and
professor of psychology, Dolf Zillmann asserts,
“What has been labeled “pornotopia” tells [men]
what joys they might, could and should
experience…. [men] are readily left with the
impression that “others get more” and that
whatever they themselves have in the intimate
relationship is less than what it should be. This
comparison, of which pornography consumers
may or may not be fully aware, is bound to foster
sexual dissatisfaction or greatly enhance already
existing dissatisfaction.” [Zillmann, p. 565-85]
2. In Glamour magazine, an article on body image
included “the explosion of porn” on a list of
reasons why women struggle with their
appearance. The article goes on to say it’s hard
for women to find a guy whose standards haven’t
been distorted by porn or the media.” [Dominus,
p. 219]
3. The images on porn sites/movies do not depict
an accurate reflection of real life. Males and
females are not going to be airbrushed and
flawless when nude. Not all males are going to
possess a massive man-stick, six-pack abs,
impeccable pectorals, bulging biceps, and to-die-
for triceps. In the same sense, a man can’t
persistently click on different options to order up
the perfect female. Porn sites create unrealistic
expectations that will most likely never be
matched in real life, which creates
disappointments and dissatisfactions in romantic
relationships.
Pornography Creates Dissociation From Reality
1. Mark Schwartz, clinical director of the Masters
and Johnson Clinic in St. Louis, asserts, “No matter
how you look at it, pornography is always a sign
of disconnection; those who seek it out often do
so because of boredom or dissatisfaction
elsewhere in their lives, particularly in their
relationships.” [ Time.com]
2. Pamela Paul, who has contributed to
publications in Psychology Today, states in her
book, Pornified, “One of the major attractions of
pornography is that it is dissociated from real-life
pressures, emotional entanglements, and
commitment…. Habitual male consumers of
mainstream pornography… appear to be at a
greater risk of becoming sexually callous toward
female sexuality and concerns.” [Paul, Pamela]
3. Because nudity is so easily accessible online,
and sexual desires can be fulfilled by a click of a
button, real females become burdens to males
who expect women to exist without their own
personal agendas. Porn sites/movies create a
selfish mindset which delegates a need to please
only one. Although it may be easier to dissociate
from real life and avoid commitment, it is
unhealthy to do so. A healthy romantic
relationship is an emotional connection between
two people in which they make a dedicated
decision to be faithful to one another.
Pornography Destroys Relationships
1. A nationally representative poll found that
overall, 34% of women see men using
pornography as cheating in absolutely all cases;
only 17% of men equated pornography with
cheating; and 41% of men say pornography
should never be considered cheating when only
18% of women felt the same way. [Pornified/
Harris poll]
2. Marlene Spielman, a New York psychotherapist,
states, “Men I counsel generally keep
pornography a secret from their partners. They
know they shouldn’t be doing it because they’re in
a relationship because – let’s face it – when you
masturbate with pornography, you really are with
someone else, one way or another.” [Paul,
Pamela]
3. A desire to watch or look at pornography while
in a romantic relationship is a sign that there is a
flaw within the relationship and is therefore not a
healthy desire. A person in a healthy romantic
relationship should not only desire to be faithful
to his/her partner, but he/she should also desire
to refrain from harming said companion. And
returning to the nationally representative poll I
mentioned, men may believe that they are not
hurting their partners, when in fact, they are.
4. At an annual meeting of the American Academy
of Matrimonial Lawyers (a gathering of the
nation’s divorce lawyers), nearly two-thirds of the
attorneys present accredited the Internet for a
rise in divorces; 58% of the rise was the result of a
spouse looking at excessive amounts of
pornography online. [A.A.M.L.]
5. Time is the only currency humans spend that
can never be replenished. Porn sites/movies take
away time and energy that could otherwise be
spent on growing and nurturing relationships,
family, or personal goals. Time spent on porn
sites/movies is time wasted.
6. Relationships that need pornography do not
coincide with reality. If the love within the
romantic relationship cannot ignite a passion that
burns outside influence into ash of nonexistence,
it is weak and needs to be examined closer. Why
would pornography be necessary if your partner
was enough? Is the nude body of your partner
not enough to cause arousal? If the nude body of
your partner was indeed enough to cause
arousal, why would pornography be necessary?
The passion of a healthy romantic relationship is
love. Love exists within a healthy romantic
relationship 100% of the time, and a healthy
romantic relationship can exist without
pornography 100% of the time; therefore, healthy
romantic relationships do not need pornography
to exist because love exists even if pornography
does not exist. Pornography does not originate
from love. Everything that is of love belongs in a
healthy romantic relationship. Because
pornography is not of love, it does not belong in a
healthy romantic relationship and is therefore not
good and should be excluded.
Pornography Distorts Children’s Ideas Of Sex And
Sexuality
1. A 2004 study by Columbia University found that
11.5 million teenagers have friends who regularly
view Internet pornography and download it.
[Radsch, Courtney]
2. According to a 2001 study by the Kaiser Family
Foundation, 70% of 15-17 year-olds admitted to
“accidentally” stumbling across pornography
online. [ www.kff.org]
3. A 2004 study by the London School of
Economics found that 60% of kids who use the
Internet regularly come into contact with
pornography. [Mark Prigg and Paul Simms]
4. A study by Congress found that of the nation’s
70 million Internet pornography users, 16% - or
11 million – were under the age of 18.
[Washington Post]
5. To know how pornography affects adults is sad,
but to know that it affects children is absolutely
devastating. Children have a natural inclination to
learn and so they absorb information. But the
information learned from pornography does not
coincide with reality. Furthermore, if children put
into practice what they learn from pornography,
they will grow to form horrible habits and beliefs
that surround the information learned which will
make it extremely difficult to correct as time goes
on.
So obviously, pornography creates many
problems, but the main problem that arises from
this contemptible copulation is the deterioration
of the meaning of love. Fortunately, there is a
solution that will restore the true meaning of love
and the answer is called altruism. For those of
you who don’t know what altruism means, it
means “the principle or practice of unselfish
concern for or devotion to the welfare of
others.” [ www.dictionary.com] I.e., the answer is
to live out the true definition of love – to
understand the ramifications of our actions and
make choices that are aligned with love. So, how
can we live out the true definition of love?)
Be Informed
1) First and foremost, one must be educated if he/
she does not wish to remain trapped within a
prison of ignorance. One should possess a desire
to know the truth and the perseverance of
pursuing it until the truth is obtained. It is quite
difficult to live a life of love if one lives a life of
complacency. Complacency is “a feeling of quiet
pleasure or security, often while unaware of some
potential danger.” [ www.dictionary.com] Many
people don’t examine the motives of their actions
and/or don’t consider the consequences their
actions will have on others. Seemingly harmless
decisions can produce deadly results.
Think Of Others
You may have freewill, but this planet or country
was not created for you alone. Everything you do
or do not do will produce a consequence whether
good or bad. Think before you speak; think before
you act. Consider the implications: how far will
the reach of your decision extend and whom it
will affect?
Practice
In order to formulate a habit or become good at
something, one must practice. Michael Jordan
became great at basketball because he practiced
playing basketball. Tiger Woods became great at
golf because he practiced playing golf. Joe
Montana became great at football because he
practiced playing football. Just as those men
practiced to become great in the area of sports,
we should practice loving others on a daily basis.
Practice thinking of others. Practice considering
the consequences before taking action. Practice,
practice, practice.
Visualize
1. A transformation has occurred on Earth, in the
form of technological advancements, that have
developed the world over the past 20 years
insomuch that the species who produced the new
technologies are the same class of individuals
who are now struggling to remain in control over
the alteration they have created. There are
numerous advancements in the realm of
technology that have affected many of people
whom are associated by particular categories.
One category in particular that technology has
affected is the category of Romantic
Relationships; recent technology has enabled
pornography to grow; pornography affects
romantic relationships. The influence of
pornography has completely changed the
mindset of romantic relationships and is now
dictating how people interact with each other.
2. If the solutions of being informed, thinking of
others, and practicing a life of love are not put
into practice, bad consequences will ensue [just
as they have for quite some time]. Electronic
engineering has generated more than mere profit
for adult-only stores, it has also produced
jealousy amongst males who find it somewhat
impossible to compete with what has been
created through the means of technology. In the
article, “Boys, Don’t Be Jealous of Her Toys – Play
Along!,” the author describes his visit to a intimacy gadget
exposition:
“Walking around the display halls, I realized that it
is impossible for a man to feel good about himself
when confronted with a few thousand wall-
mounted penis replicas that look as if they had
been exposed to radiation at a Nevada test site. A
zucchini of such dimensions would win blue
ribbons at every county fair…. Can you blame us
[for our jealousy]? In case you have been living in
some undisclosed location, men now have a set
of body insecurities — abs, hair, biceps, rear,
teeth — that parallel the ones with which women
have long been blessed. And now we have to
compete with battery-operated boyfriends. Is it
too skinny, too curved, too short? Does it look like
Curly from the Three Stooges? Does the helmet
remind you of Darth Vader?”
(Alexander, Brian)
3. As humorous as the passage in that article is,
the feeling of inadequacy is anything but funny
for males who are forced to compete with
unnatural concoctions (yes, that was an
intentional play on words). Most of these
machines are bigger than we could ever dream to
be, even with the help of another recent
invention – Viagra. If women use these monsters
to please themselves, is it any wonder that many
guys have trouble getting their women to orgasm?
At adameve.com, they have a intimacy gadget called the
“All American Whopper.” [www.adameve.com] I
won’t speak for other males, but the last thing I
want to think about when I enter Burger King is
how the size of my meat, and the meat I’m about
to purchase, doesn’t compare to a different kind
of Whopper. From a male’s perspective, intimacy gadgets
negatively affect romantic relationships;
therefore, intimacy gadgets also negatively affect romantic
relationships for females. If confidence is stripped
away from us males, the females will have to rely
on themselves for pleasure, which will destroy the
romantic relationships between people and
would be dysfunctional. A lack of love is not good.
Pornography and the branches that stem from it
were created out of selfishness and greed, not
love.
4. The Bible states, "Be careful that your freedom
does not cause those who are weak in faith to fall
into sin." [The Bible, New Century Version.
Thomas Nelson, Inc. 2005] Now, even if you don’t
believe in GOD or The Bible, I’m sure we can still
agree that the message makes sense logically –
our actions produce results – results that will
either hurt or harm others. Pornography is a
monopoly that exists at the expense of others’
well being. Pornography causes millions of people
to fall into what The Bible refers to as ‘sin,’ and
experts already agree that it changes what men
and women expect from each other, creates
dissociation from reality, destroys relationships,
and distorts children’s ideas of sex and sexuality.
Positive Reinforcement
1. Although being informed and being aware of
negative consequences benefit us, let us focus on
positive reinforcement. Each person is blessed
with specific gifts or talents. We are capable of
inventing things that can either help or harm. So,
why invent things that can harm others? Why
create things that are destructive? The effects that
technologies have on us are limited by our
choices. If we choose to build, construct, or invent
on a foundation on love, then the effects of
future technologies will lead to many people
being helped rather than harmed. Why make
choices that will harm others when loving others
brings so much joy and fulfillment to the world?
Summary
People all over the world are getting hurt and/or
directly/indirectly hurting others because of
pornography and its branches of sin. Once again,
pornography changes what men and women
expect from each other, creates dissociation from
reality, destroys relationships, and distorts
children’s ideas of sex and sexuality.
Call To Action
I challenge all of you today: if you have any
pornography at home, out of love and respect for
yourself and/or your significant other, get rid of it!
Throw it away! Burn it! Furthermore, I challenge
you to exclude it from your lives from now on.
Conclusion
1. The Bible says, “Anyone who knows the right
thing to do, but does not do it, is sinning.” [The
Bible, New Century Version. Thomas Nelson, Inc.
2005] Once again, even if you don’t believe in
GOD or The Bible, I’m sure we can still agree that
the message makes sense logically. My entire
speech was designed so that you no longer have
an excuse of ignorance – you are now aware of
the dangers that pornography possesses and you
will be held accountable. From now on, you know
what is right and if you do not do what is right,
you will be sinning.
2. The late and great Martin Luther King. once
posed a powerful question to the clergymen of
Alabama in his renowned letter, “Letter from a
Birmingham Jail.” He asked, “So the question is
not whether we will be extremists, but what kind
of extremists we will be. Will we be extremists for
hate or for love?” [King, Martin Luther] I implore
everyone to examine the motives and intentions
of each and every choice and decision you make. I
choose to live an extreme life of love (not lust),
and I urge others to do the same.
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Works Cited (unfinished)
A.A.M.L. Newsletter Summer 2004.
Brian Alexander. “Boys, Don’t Be Jealous of Her
Toys- Play Along!.” < www.msnbc.msn.com/
id/20283143>.
Courtney C. Radsch, “Teenagers Sexual Activity Is
Tied to Drugs an Drink,” New York Times, August
30, 2004.
D. Zillmann, “Pornografie,” pp. 565-85.
Editorial, “Protecting Kids Online,” Washington
Post, July 1, 2004.
King, Martin Luther. “Letter From a Birmingham
Jail.” Writing Arguments. Ed. John D. Ramage, John
C. Bean, and June Johnson. Pearson: Pearson
Education, Inc. 2010. 623-635.]
Mark Prigg and Paul Simms, “Truth About Dangers
of Net as Half of Children are Exposed to Porn,”
The Evening Standard (London), September 3,
2004.
Pamela Paul. Pornified: How Pornography is
Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our
Families. 2005.
Pornified/Harris poll, 2004.
Susan Dominus, “Our Love/Hate Affair with Our
Bodies,” Glamour, May 2004, p. 219.
The Bible, New Century Version. Thomas Nelson,
Inc. 2005
Time.com, “The Porn Factor,” January 19, 2004.
www.adameve.com
www.dictionary.com
www.kff.orgt

Pornography bad sha. But d epistle too long.

guy na text book?

daniel9202:
guy na text book?

I think he no well

Mehn u try for the copy and paste

Red card!

This topic lung like my troth. Habah

Pornography-Worldwide Youths Silent killer.