CuteYute:

Hi house,

I am really inquisitive to know what's going on with me. I don't know which section to post it so I just posted it here.

Well, for the past few weeks, i have noticed that i continually yearn to be with this friend of mine, to protect her and be near her in anuything she's passing thru. I've known her for like 2 years, we're both instrumentalist in my church and we've grown to be as close as sisters. She's like the sister I never had.

This certain urge is baffling and i don't know what to think? So that's why I want to find out from you what you think. Is this an indication that I've got gay tendencies or it's just agape?

Your feedback is needed ASAP. Thanks alot.

CuteYute:

Erm. . Sexually intimate? No

It's just this weird thing about staring into her eyes and giving her cuddles at the time. Most times, we hardly even have any conversations cuz all I can think about is how gorgeous she is and how 'beautyful' her smile is and how innocent her heart is.

That's why I can't help but fret at what is going on.

davidylan:

u're gay.

CuteYute:

Erm. . Sexually intimate? No

It's just this weird thing about staring into her eyes and giving her cuddles at the time. Most times, we hardly even have any conversations cuz all I can think about is how gorgeous she is and how 'beautyful' her smile is and how innocent her heart is.

That's why I can't help but fret at what is going on.

Ebony-Silk:

That's what any guy would tell you.
"I love looking into your eyes and seeing how deep your heart is" or "I can't stop thinking about how gorgeous you are when I look into your eyes".

Omo, stop am. You're gay.

CuteYute:

@Ebonysilk,
lol, okay.
But on a serious note, I'm just kinda confused here cuz it beats me to think that I might have gay tendencies even though gay activities disgust me. And about the cuddle thing, it's more like yearning to carry a little kid. I don't know if my drift is on track.

Ebony-Silk:

nah, your drift is very clear.

You're trying to to assure yourself that you're not gay. You're trying to hate the act to also reassure yourself that you're not gay.

Hmm, I can't believe am saying this, but the only way to be sure that you don't really like her is by trying to kiss her or touch her in any romantic way.

If there's no spark or chemistry, then guess what? You're not gay!! hooray

topup:

I'm not so sure about the test, it could bring on something that might not necessary grow or be there unles nourished.

If you kiss a girl, apart from when you open your eyes and you see a girl, how will it differ from kissing a boy? How will you convince your brain, that NO - that great kiss was from a girl, so it shouldn't be great, it should be bad. Of course, if you reason it, you can make it taboo, but feeling it and doing it probably creates completely different feelings.

CuteYute:

@Davidylan, iite. I getchu.

@Tgirl4life, thanks a bunch for the word.

@Ebonysilk,
lol, okay.
But on a serious note, I'm just kinda confused here cuz it beats me to think that I might have gay tendencies even though gay activities disgust me. And about the cuddle thing, it's more like yearning to carry a little kid. I don't know if my drift is on track.

Hi, I just want to say I've been in the same position before, though mine was quite similar, I felt "what is going on with me. Am I bisexual, turning into a lesbian." I can tell you now, that I am 100% straight . I was a growing teen when  Iwas having these doubts, because I had no one to talk to, and the fact that people make sexuality seem like black and white, all the 'feminine' men (those who like to groom themselves and are interested in fashion) are classed as gay. Those women who find the female anatomy sexier than the male, or those who think other women are hot (are classed as lesbians) well I'm here to tell you it's not that simple. Without over-complicating things, I want to tell you, what you have is a girl-crush. This doesn't mean you have a crush on the girl, it's a term, not to be taken literally, but I saw it on the Tyra Banks show. As women, if we find another woman who we want to be like, we can idolise them in a way, that we want to be around them constantly, we think they're figure's great, their face is gorgeous and ,

But wait!! Am I attracted to her, you start thinking; "should I be thinking that she has a great figure?" or should I always want to be around her, isn't that the way I should feel about a boyfriend??

Well, like I said it's not that simple. When you admire someone, you want to spend time with them, if that person is male, then even better, things can happen, if that person is female, the sensor doesn't just switch off, you're still thrilled when spending time with them etc, it's understandable why you can feel like the boundaries are blurring, but believe me, you WILL know if you start thinking about her and you sexually, often.

With this world, thoughts are being placed into our minds at younger and younger ages, and we're all forced to question ourselves at one point or the other. You'll probably get over your girl-crush and you'll stop longing to be with her and idolizing her, the phase passes as you sooner realize that she's just an ordinary person, like you.

Take care and don't stress yourself out.

If you're looking for the idea behind a girl-crush, here are some quotes:

"However, platonic girl crushes are not our lesbian fantasies poking out. They're just admiration. I remember my first girl-crush. She was a friend of a friend of my parents. I was 6 and she was in her early 20s. She was pretty, confident, and just a cool person to be around. I followed her around everywhere. I remember thinking that I wanted to be like her when I grew up. I think the platonic crush is a sort of envy. We think that maybe if we hang around this person some of these qualities will rub off by osmosis. I dunno, it's a theory. Some girls take these crushes to the extreme and start copying everything the crush does. The movie Single White Female is a perfect example of a crush gone awry." http://jozaff..com/2007/07/girl-crushes.html

"Girl Crush: Intense, platonic feelings of admiration for or excitement about another woman."http://www.yourtango.com/2007226/ive-got-a-crush-on-you.html

"No, it's not that kind of 'girl-on-girl action'. A girl crush is where you meet a woman whose sense of style or brilliant achievements or personal charisma makes you adore and worship her." http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/famfri/friend/articles/0,,164_681467,00.html

Hope this helped.

It's just this weird thing about [b]staring into her eyes and giving her cuddles at the time. Most times, we hardly even have any conversations cuz all I can think about is how gorgeous she is and how 'beautyful' her smile is and how innocent her heart is.