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Some Men Never Change by bridget007(f): 10:46am On Apr 01, 2009 |
Me and my ex-husband |
Re: Some Men Never Change by AmakaOne(f): 10:54am On Apr 01, 2009 |
bridget007: Kai!!! I just have one question? Why did you put up with this madness for so long and even making babies with this kind of man? Na wah o! Some of the situations we find ourselves in we create for ourselves sha. JMHO |
Re: Some Men Never Change by mamae(f): 11:05am On Apr 01, 2009 |
My sister just be patient and keep on praying for your man. I know that one day, he will change, you don't need to useless yourself with other men, just keep on taking care of your kids. ALL IS WELL. OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Some Men Never Change by 9ja4u(m): 11:23am On Apr 01, 2009 |
Whats else do you want to hear? You know what to do, you just need a little nudge to set the wheel rolling. Your so call ex hubby is shredding your psyche, ur self confidence and self esteem. If i may ask do you need someone to tell you take a hike from a burning House. Good luck in what ever you decide. |
Re: Some Men Never Change by Nobody: 11:49am On Apr 01, 2009 |
i've seen so many similar cases like urs. its a pity! some ladies could be so fragile but the truth remains the truth, he is not worth it stay away from him as much as possible, if not he'll inflict u with more emotional pain. let go off him. |
Re: Some Men Never Change by ife3166(f): 1:11pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
@POSETR,I FEEL UR PAIN BUT THIS IS JUST ONE OF THE BENEFITS OF DATING OR MARRYING A BAD BOI. GIRLS WHO DATE BAD GUYS SHLD LEARN FROM THIS.BUT WE LADIES DONT EVER LEARN. |
Re: Some Men Never Change by sistawoman: 2:19pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
What i dont understand is that you had the signs before you married him. So why did you do it? I really want to know I am not being mean just trying to get in the head of someone that has done this. Did you think he would change? |
Re: Some Men Never Change by OfficeGirl(f): 3:42pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
At Post, I cant stand a man who beats a woman! Gosh! You need not think twice about leaving this kind of marriage! |
Re: Some Men Never Change by Nobody: 3:46pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
Bridget007 believe me the right man will come but one advice if the next person complains bout your kid.dump em.cuz my dad died when i wuz six and my mom had 3 of us but she later remarried when i was 21 big enough for me and bros to tag team and give him a pile driver(wrestling move) but he's a good man.if a man can't and won't want to be wit you cuz of ur kid.they shud just leave cuz love entails Sacrifices.[*geez pcguru's getting soft*] |
Re: Some Men Never Change by ima1(f): 6:26pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
mamae: wtf, except for the praying part i disagree with everything else, why would u be patient with a man who hits you, abuse u emotionally and physically, cheats and kills his kids by making other women he cheats with commit abortion, smokes pot, does not take care of his family and isn't even a man. i say this man is not worth your time, hun if u r in the u.s or outside naija i say file for custody of ur kid now and let the court make him pay child support, if he refuses then they will garnish his wages. geez such a man should be in jail for hitting u on the head, he could have caused serious damage to ur brain or something. i say leave him now |
Re: Some Men Never Change by yme1(f): 6:32pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
patient ko patient ni be patient until you find yourself in the hospital, i am not mean just move on with your life or do whatever you know is right |
Re: Some Men Never Change by xxcarolxx(f): 6:39pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
Hi Bridget, i would have to say leave his sorry ass he aint worth de time & effort a guy who can hit a woman in de head is de lowest of de low, if he has hit you once he can hit you again & god knows where it will stop & think of your kids do you really want dem exposed to dis kind of behaviour cos if de see your partner hittin you de may grow up thinking its ok to hit a woman but only you can decide what you want to do but think carefully or sit down & make a list of de gud times & bad you will probably cum up with more bad times dan good. wish you all de best |
Re: Some Men Never Change by tpia: 6:42pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
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Re: Some Men Never Change by bridget007(f): 7:01pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
@tpia, he |
Re: Some Men Never Change by sistawoman: 7:06pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
How long did you date? And what did he pretend about because here on July 17th before you married him you pointed out his pot smoking, lack of interest in a wedding and other things that would have said no dont marry him. I have to make a decision and my heart says one thing my head another. I am a UK woman (white) and my fiance is yoruba, he is a few years younger than me and we have a baby son together (I have children from a past marriage, I am divorced). Now we have had a tough time since we met adjusting to one another as culturally we are so different and I (as he has) have found our ways very different which has often led to misunderstandings. He works PT and is a student, I am due to go back to work Full time. I do absolutey love him and have met his family, his mother has stayed with us. I have also met his uncles and aunties, some from Nigeria and some who live in UK and when our son was born we followed nigerian traditions, i.e naming and naming ceremony. We had a wedding booked for last year but my fiance decided no, now I am being pressured for marriage, which we have got booked in a few weeks but I am now having second thoughts. His visa needs to be renewed and as he has not done well in his studies he fears it won't get renewed and (although he says this is not the reason he wants to marry-so he can get a spouse visa) I am worried that marriage at this time is for the wrong reason. I love this man truly and when things are good they can be very good, but, he has cheated in the past (although he swears it wasn't sex) I forgave him but I worry as he is so secretive with his phones. I also worry about his underlying character, he smokes pot-which I have categorically told him i will not accept as a wife. He can be very lovely but there is a very arrogant, stubborn selfish side to him that I am not sure about. I would like to marry him but under such circumstances I think it best to wait. I know though that if I cannot marry him I will lose him as if he's visa is renewed he will leave to study elsewhere, or if not renewed he will have to go back to Lagos, any advice will be much appreciate |
Re: Some Men Never Change by ima1(f): 7:20pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
bridget007: i bet he will be forced to accept divorce, if the court find out he does pot and he physically abuses you. |
Re: Some Men Never Change by MrCrackles(m): 7:27pm On Apr 01, 2009 |
Topic YES!! |
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